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Soggy Bottom Ranch

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I'm having one of those days.........yup, it's a crabby day! Was busy busy all day, and was just in a sour mood. I snapped at the neighbor, and I feel really badly now.

One of the neighbors on our road stops by often, and he could stand and talk for hours..........about the same thing all the time! Unless it's time for supper, then he doesn't have time cause he has to go eat. It's hard sometimes because Dave sometimes gets home so late, and we normally don't get to even eat supper until around 7:00 or so, sometimes later. On the weekends we try to take time off to relax for a bit, otherwise we're always trying to get stuff done around here. When you hear the 4 wheeler coming......you just know it's him.......and sometimes we hide, but he comes right in the yard.

Last week Dave was on vacation. The neighbor stopped by to talk every day until friday, cause we had company for the weekend. Some days he stopped in twice, and he doesn't just pop in and then leave, he'll stay to talk for a half hour or longer if you don't say anything. Friday we got to bed late since we had company. At 6:24 A.M. on Saturday, the phone rang, and it was the neighbor!!! He called just to talk to Dave about something he had going on. Both Dave and I were still sleeping, and he kept Dave on the phone for about 15 min. Even if you say you have to get going, he keeps talking.

Tonight, Dave got home about 7:00 p.m. He hopped in the shower, I was taking laundry off the line........and I heard the 4 wheeler coming! I knew it was him, cause the phone rang, and neither Dave nor I picked up. He just figured cause we didn't answer, we were outside. He came in the yard, and proceeded to talk, and I just kept taking my clothes off the line. Then Dave came out, and they started to talk. I wish Dave had stayed in the house. We hadn't even eaten supper yet. I came in with the clothes, put them away, and then went back out to tell the neighbor that we haven't eaten supper yet, so Dave has to come in. When he left, Dave said he came out to "save me". I told him I was hoping he would have stayed in the house, cause I knew once he came out, we were stuck!

So, now I feel rude for snapping, but I guess it just gets so old! Was I out of line?
 
No worries. Everyone has a bad day no and again. Some people too don't know where to draw the line as far as "visiting A LOT"

I love people and I LOVE visiting but we had a guy down the road do the same thing. He would come down many times a week and he would stand there for an hour. I'd just get out of the car when I got home fromw work, purse over my shoulder and here he would come and stand there an hour etc etc. I was almost afraid to invite him to come in the house because he probably wouldn't ever leave.

Sometimes its just exhausting and I'm sure we all have had a bit of an unfriendly tone at some point.
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Maybe he's lonely????

Why don't you put him to WORK! :bgrin

MA
 
Why don't you put him to WORK! :bgrin
Maybe that would work... Next time he stops by that you are cleaning corrals or raking the yard; hand him a shovel and say "I'm really busy, but if you want to help, I can talk while we work." It might send him running or you might get done with the work faster.
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Nope, not lonely, just bored! He's married, he's a farmer, thinks everyone lives on his schedule, and he just loves to talk! There's people coming and going all the time down there, and he'll talk to anyone. He's been known to even make the garbage truck drivers late on their route :eek: ! A couple summers ago the county hired a couple private workers to clear shrubs and brush from the side of our road. When the workers took their lunch, the neighbor stopped to talk. Wanting their privacy for lunch, they got in their vehicle hoping he would continue on his way. He actually leaned in the window, with his hand on the door, and just kept talking. Poor guys! Didn't get lunch that day!
 
I doubt you should be questioning yourself as to if you were rude, for it sounds like this guy is being a pain in the rear and very rude for not considering that others have their work to do. I think I would politely tell him you just don't have the time to chat and if he continues to be a pest, say it a little more firmly until he gets the message. We have a person that is somewhat like that...she is the brand inspector we have to use. If she is given the chance she will tell you her whole life story and do it each time she comes!
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: Definitely needs to realize that not everyone is interested in hearing all she has to say...many people are like that...just don't realize that everyone has their story but we don't all bore someone else with it. Hope he gets the message. Mary
 
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Why don't you put him to WORK! :bgrin
Maybe that would work... Next time he stops by that you are cleaning corrals or raking the yard; hand him a shovel and say "I'm really busy, but if you want to help, I can talk while we work." It might send him running or you might get done with the work faster.
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GREAT IDEA! i will have to remember that one myself LOL
 
LOL, what a terrific idea!! Say neighbor, while you're here, why doncha grab that shovel and lend a hand diggin this ditch?! Oh boy, I'm glad you came by, we could sure use a hand unloading this truck load of stuff. Hey, wanna help fold all these clothes? Of course, then he might just want to move in or think he's your hired hand!
 
When people (who I see a lot) arrive unnanounced and I don't have time to sit and chat, I keep working and just take them with me and let them feel useful and help if they are so inclined. Because I know if I stop and sit it will be a long time before I'm motivated to get going again, lol.

If I were you, I'd ask him for a bit of help those times when you're busy and perhaps invite him and his spouse over for a Sunday supper when everyone is just taking it easy anyway?
 
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