A question for women

[KanoasDestiny]

I'll try to keep this as short as possible, but I'd like to give a little background information before asking my question.

In 2008, I had a massive ovarian cyst that had to be removed, along with my right ovary and tube. My doctor said that I should have no problem conceiving. However, since the surgery, my period has been abnormal - sometimes it didn't come for 3 or 4 months, and it was alot lighter than normal. My surgeon was concerned that I might be peri-menopausal due to being overweight, he thought I might have an estrogen dominance. It didn't really bother me because I never planned on wanting to conceive, and it was nice having fewer periods.

Then a few months ago, my husband and I decided that we'd like to start a family. I started taking Vitex to regulate my cycles, and it started working instantly. I also started using ovulation predictor strips, and I know for a fact that I ovulated around April 5th. I should have 'started' around April 20th, but I'm officially two weeks late today. I have been taking home pregnancy tests every few days but they're all negative. I'm trying not to stress out, but I'm so confused! On April 17th, I started getting cramping in my lower back (which I swore was my A.F. coming), and I've had those cramps off and on since. Also on April 22 I began feeling sick to my stomach, which comes and goes. I also have to pee constantly. My husband says that it's my 'baby hopes' thats causing the symptoms, which could be true but it sure doesn't seem like it. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but I can't help it.

I've read online that some women don't test positive until they're several weeks late, so that gives me hope. But I swear, I'm going crazy not knowing!

So could you please share your pregnancy stories? Did you test positive quickly, or did it take a while? I just want to test positive, or at least 'start' so that we can try again.

 

[leeapachemoon]

I know it is hard but try not to stress. I never had regular periods. They never found a cause. I have no health problems and am not over or under wieght. It took me 2 years to become pregnant. The only good thing about my situation is I get ovulation pains, like cramps. So I just started having sex around that time until I got it right. I didn't take anything to regulate my ovulation or periods so it took some time. I insisted on not using any drugs to give me a baby. If it was going to happen I wanted it to happen on it's own, just my choice. From what I remember, I tested positive pretty quickly. I didn't have morning sickness. In fact, I never felt better in my life as I did when I was pregnant. Until the end when it was just very uncomfortable. I choose not to have anymore children, my son is all I ever need!

I understand how you are feeling but you can't let it consume you. Good luck!

 

[Mominis]

However it works out for you, good luck! I know it's the ultimate scarifice, but until one comes up positive, just keep doing what you need to do to see that little + sign

. lol Wishing you all the best!

 

[Ashley]

Best way is to go to the doc and have a blood test done. But honestly at 2 weeks late it should show up on a test. I got preggo a different way. I had an IUI with clomid. I tested positive 10 days after my IUI which would be about about cycle day 27 and I have 30-31 day cycles.

 

[mydaddysjag]

Tested positive 2 days after I missed AF. My sister was told that she would never be able to conceive due to some issues and cysts and PCOS, so they never planned to try. After my son was born, they decided they would try anyway. She was being treated for the PCOS, but I forget the name of the drug. They tried all of the fertility monitors and charting, etc for a few months. All along I told her "as long as your trying so hard to get pregnant, you wont. As soon as you quit trying, you will". Well, they quit putting the effort into trying because my brother in law lost his job, and dont you know, Im expecting a nephew in June.

We tried for months to get pregnant too, and it wasnt until we quit making it a "job" and quit trying, that I got pregnant.

By two weeks, you probably would have tested positive if you were pregnant. Those baby hopes can do tricky things to us though.

Have fun, its no fun if it seems like work, lol.

I'll keep our fingers crossed for a BFP for you!

 

[disneyhorse]

The longer you wait, the more accurate the tests are. Also, don't rely on "symptoms"... I only had strong aversions to smells early on and that was it. More symptoms came later on for me.

I personally did not have any problems conceiving and I used one of the "early prediction" tests and it tested positive. But the instructions have percentage rates and none of them are 100% so that means SOMETIMES it's not accurate.

And if you are still not sure... an ultrasound might be the best option to see what's going on in there. I had one at eight weeks along and discovered I had twins!

Good luck to you,

Andrea

 

[Thinking small]

Tests are pretty accurate these days most being able to give you a result with barely being late. If you really want to be sure (a bloodtest) will confirm pregnancy. My youngest is 10yrs old so it's been ages since i played the pee on a stick game lol with him i was almost 2mths by the time I figured out something was going on but life was crazy and he was my fourth so my body was already kinda wonky

Good luck! and i agree i wouldn't totally rely on symptoms everyone varies and each pregnancy is different to.

 

[KanoasDestiny]

Thank you everyone! And congrat's Disney (I meant to tell you that before). I still haven't started, so I've decided I'll wait until the end of May to see what happens, then I'll make a doctor's appointment. I'm about due for a yearly exam anyway, so I'll just ask to get blood work and an ultrasound done while I'm at it. It's routine for me every six months anyway since the cyst.

So I'll keep my fingers crossed, and hopefully I'll know one way or another soon.

 

[Katiean]

Some women NEVER test Positive for pregnancy. One time I went to the Dr at about 4 months. He swore I was not pregnant. I was a DES baby so this is to blame for a lot of the problems I had. I told the DR that every time I got up I would bleed. He put me on bed rest to stop the unexplained bleeding. I also was not supposed to go on stairs at all. I didn't have a phone and the dryers caught fire across the hall from me. My apartment manager was UP STAIRS. I went up and told them to make sure the fire was out. That night I ended up in the ER with a miscarriage that I delivered the baby. All my DR kept saying was "I didn't know". Fat lot of good that did me.

 

[KanoasDestiny]

Katiean, that is so sad.

I made an appointment for Tuesday with my primary physcian. With my history of cysts, I figure that it's better to be safe than sorry. If I am not pregnant, then I'd like to know what's going on. And if I am, then I'll need to see a baby doctor.

I have to admit, I'm nervous about my appointment. I'm still testing negative at home, so I may request a blood test and ultrasound, just to make sure everything is ok.