any advice? How to let go and move on?

[Ashley]

Lets just say in the last few months I have had many many major changes in my life happen. I am a person that needs a stable life to function. I dont do well jumping all over. Well, I am in the process of trying to find a job so I can move out. Takeing the last of my horses to a sale next week and letting them go, and a few other things but thats the major part.

How the heck to you just let go and move on? I am struggleing with letting go.....its like there is a elastic rope tied to me and I walk so far to get flung back.

 

[ErikaS.]

Lets just say in the last few months I have had many many major changes in my life happen. I am a person that needs a stable life to function. I dont do well jumping all over. Well, I am in the process of trying to find a job so I can move out. Takeing the last of my horses to a sale next week and letting them go, and a few other things but thats the major part.

How the heck to you just let go and move on? I am struggleing with letting go.....its like there is a elastic rope tied to me and I walk so far to get flung back.

Change is difficult to say the least and I for one do not like it...but keep in mind there are new opportunities coming up just around the corner. And life will not always be so hectic. Deal with everything one day at a time, one issue at a time so you don't get overwhelmed. Do what you have to do: get a job, sell what you need to sell, save some money, plan a budget, then start looking at ads for places to live. It'll keep you busy and time will pass...moving ahead without regrets will start getting easier. Letting your horses go will be hard. I had to sell my big horses years ago; I was struggling to care for them as far as time and money went, and it was the best decision I could make at that time for them and me. Time has passed, the horses are doing fine and so am I. Soooo, to sum up: take on one thing at a time, do what is necessary to make your life better, and "time heals". Best of luck to you and hang in there.

 

[miniwhinny]

Yeah I have advice....

"Let go and move on"

Seriously. You have the power. It's 100% in your hands. If you're not letting go and moving on it's because you are choosing not to. YOU are the master of your destiny - no one else.

 

[LindaL]

Back in 2003, I went thru that exact thing...broke up with my long time partner, moved from the farm where I had lived for almost 5 yrs and had to sell off my horses...It was HARD, darn hard...and it took me a good year after I left to finally get my mind set to where I could move on and really be happy again. Well, life happens and I again thought I had found someone...and bought another horse...only to be tossed aside. But, this time I was stronger and I basically said to myself..."You need to live for yourself and NOT depend on another human being for anything...Go out and LIVE!" And I did...and for the 1st time in my life I felt WHOLE. It was quite liberating.

I know people can tell you to go out and live and be happy..but really it is a mental state of mind and you have to be ready to do it....and you will be...Promise!

((((HUGS)))

 

[~Lisa~]

It can be hard especially when there is a child involved- but I think the hard truth is until you are truly happy with yourself and where you are in your life (like Linda said and her and I had this conversation many a time lol) you simply can not find what you need in a relationship.

Take this time to truly figure out what you want to do. I know it is hard with no horses but look at it as a time in your life you are responsible only for yourself and enjoy the freedom to truly figure out what your goals are and how you can get them

 

[Valerie]

Ashley,

I wish you great luck.......the gals in the above posts have given great advice. You have to find out who you are and what you want in order to move forward. You have to want to move forward and yes, I am sure it's hard with a child involved, but you have to be strong for you and for your child.

No magic wand, I wish there were, because I think all of us would like the use of one now and again, but as we all know, life is full of trials and we have to make the best of all that we are given. If you don't like something, you do have the power to change it, you just have to open some doors and walk through to the other side.

Hugs Ashley....you have been through some big life changes the past few years and look at them as ways you have grown and see yourself in a positive light and move forward and think hard about what you want out of life and go for it!

 

[Miniv]

Ashley,

When I've run into a Cross Road in my life...(it's happened several times)...After crawling into my "cave" to regroup, I pull myself up, dust myself off, and look at my priorities in Life.

I too have a child in the picture, and obviously my child is at the top of the list for priorities. But by making a list, it helps me "un-scatter" my mind and helps me figure out who I am. By knowing what's most important, helps me decide what needs to be done next...... Even if they are BABY STEPS.

 

[Marty]

I can only imagine how torn and hurt you are so I'm sending this hug in advance (((( )))).

I'm no one to be handing out advice I can only tell you what helps me in my situation is I had to realize what was important in this world, really important and let the other crap go out of my life and out of my head and clear it. Stupid things like people arguing over a parking place, bickering over the remote, petty gossip, penny anny drama and who thinks my dog is ugly and general BS doesn't effect me whatsoever. There is no more sweating the small stuff. There's just no time for that where there are real issues out there that are life threatening that do require one's attention and energy.

I honestly think that unless you want to move on in your heart of hearts you won't allow yourself to do it; maybe physically you will, but not mentally.

You and me go wayyyyyy back girl and I know you are strong and can weather any storm, when and only when you are ready. Luv you gal. Best wishes always.

 

[anoki]

How the heck to you just let go and move on? I am struggleing with letting go.....its like there is a elastic rope tied to me and I walk so far to get flung back.

I don't have any advice whatsoever......but if you figure it out, could you let me in on the secret???

I am having an unbelievably hard time 'letting go' right now too.....and I am trying not to make any rash decisions that I will regret in 6 months time.....definitely not easy....

((((hugs))))

~kathryn