Bad day today

[Ferrah]

I hope you don't mind me venting on the forum...but this needs to get out or I may just explode. I think I need some horsey support because my mother just doesn't understand.

I was talking to a few of the girls I used to ride with on a regular basis and compete in local and AQHA shows with usually on leased horses. Last year I leased an Arab/QH mare and bought her in the summer. She is getting up in age and I was no longer interested in doing any showing except occasional shows in the summer and 4-H. In the beginning of the summer I moved her to a stable much closer to my home where only two other people board and they are not competitive.

Anyways I was talking to these girls I used to show with and they told me they had heard I had bought two miniature horses. At first they were nice about it and then they got mean. They started telling me that miniature horses were useless and they kept asking me and asking me why in the world anyone would want one because they couldn't think of "any idiot" who would want a miniature horse. I tried to explain that they can be driven and you can do in hand jumping and do halter and all sorts of things. But they wouldn't stop and kept telling me that they were useless and that I could have gotten a half decent Quarter Horse for the same price. When I told them I didn't want any other riding horse but my Arab/QH, Ferrah...they only started getting mean about Ferrah!

They started telling me that I never should have bought her because she was 21 years old when I bought her and that she could die at any time and she will become old and uselss and I will be paying to keep a horse that I can't do anything with anymore.

I wasn't in any position to leave and I kept telling them that what they were saying was really hurtful and it wasn't any of their business what I did with my own money and horses...but they just wouldn't stop.

I went home and cried for hours....it was terrible.

I thought I knew these girls. We used to have so much fun riding and showing together and they were so easy going and easy to get along with. What happened? I can't understand why people can be so mean.

 

[Marty]

These girls are not only mean, they are heartless. And most of all, they are no horsepeople either. As a matter of fact, they are so far from being a true horse person that it's not funny.

A true horse person loves and appreciates and finds beauty and something wonderful in all horses, not just one breed. There are a few breeds of horses that I would never care to own and just don't appeal to me, but they still each have their own distinct personality and I can find something good in all of them, even if they are not my chosen breed.

I am sorry you had to be put through that.

Please don't dwell on it and make yourself more miserable. Let it go, just let it go, and chalk it all up to their ignorance and lack of human decency and pure ignorance. They have much growing up to do.

 

[strass]

People can be so mean. It's a sad part of our nature to mock what we don't understand. It's also an unfortunate trait that many of us feel the need to belittle others to make ourselves feel big.

My advice probably isn't what you want to hear, but here it is anyway:

FORGET IT!!! Who gives a mini road apple what they said? They clearly don't really want to understand what minis are good for. They were just trying to get under your skin by mouthing your horses... and you let them win.

Trying to run a Ranch means that many of us have to make decisions about horses with failing health and old age. It's not easy. Horses are very intelligent and it's only natural to bond with them. A true horse-lover might advise or warn you about your older mare, but would NEVER make fun of her in an attacking fashion.

We all have our favorites. In our own heads, we think that those favorites are superior to all others. However, only a childish jackal would belittle an entire breed to someone whom they knew loved it.

I wish I could tell you that it gets better...but it doesn't until YOU make it better. My wife and I still deal with a lot of dumb jokes from people we work with all the time. (Honestly, how many times do I have to tell people that I do NOT have a monkey that rides them and why does every cool-guy who asks that smile like he’s the first neuro-surgeon to make that joke?)

Next time you're feeling verbally abused, try to imagine being a 270 lb. man in the Blue-collar parts of the Oil Industry when everyone knows you own miniature horses. The guys I work with used to be brutal in making fun of me. After a few years of fighting with them, I finally just stopped. Now, I speak of my horses very business-like and respond to their "witty candor" with little reaction. It's no longer as much fun for them, so they do it much less.

But they still insist that I'm gay and my marriage is a cover-up or else I would own big horses.

Oh well, one day at a time.

 

[Miniv]

Mean and nasty people often are basically stupid pea sized brained individuals who are so insecure they have a sick need to belittle others. Don't be sucked into their negative and nasty energy. It's not worth it. You are bigger and smarter and better than that.

They are actually pathetic little girls that you should pity. When you next see them, treat them that way. Honor your SELF.

MA

 

[Jill]

Yeah! What everyone else said AND don't ever take them on a cart ride. They don't deserve it!

 

[rabbitsfizz]

Basically such an attack is fuelled by one of two things..or possibly both.

Jealousy and insecurity.

You own two pretty little horses with which you are having lots of fun, and a beautiful, if slightly neurotic Arab who has NO idea how old she is, and with whom you are having fun.

See, you did not fail.

You did not get ripped off with the price of your Minis- which everyone believes have to cost "thousands".

And you did not get ripped off with the deal with Ferrah, you had her on lease before you bought and you knew exactly what you were getting into.

By their rules you are supposed to fail, and you have not.

Couple with which you have also moved barns (which ca be VERY traumatic, ask Triggy!!!) and again, you have NOT failed.

You are happy.

People just HATE that!!

They are just mean spirited, nasty little nobodies who are jealous of your happiness and good fortune.

Just ignore them and they will go away.

 

[Ms THE]

I have to agree with Fizzy, they are jealous, or insecure. As far as your mare being old, I just lost my mare in June at 39. Kahlua was my first horse, I got her for my 12th birthday. She was 21 when I got her. Kahlua was the best, I rode her up until I moved out of my parents. She still gave pony rides up until the last couple year when her arthritis got bad. She was a $700 grade mare (quarter horse, arabian and appaloosa). I took her to my trainers and was told that she was a little ugly thing, what are you going to do with her? Well that was before they saw Kahlua jump. We were very successful in the high schooling jumpers, beating $40,000 up horses. Don't listen to these girls, have fun with your mare and your minis!

 

[shane]

I BELIEVE WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND! i knew a girl when i was in my teens who worked and train race horses, i worked with her, she thought she knew it all, she had a beautiful pony that her dad bought her, we had no money i worked for free just to ride the horses, any way i saw her at a show last year after 20 years and she didnt want to know me until she saw i was driving a brand new mercedes, then she asked me when could we meet up, i told her i was busy she ran down the miniatures aswell telling me they were no good and only for looking at , then she told me you could buy them cheap of a girl calleed L~~~~~ and at that L~~~~~ walked by and she was my friend it was soo funny, anyways i went on to win the compitition, and as i say what goes a round comes around, the look on her face was pricless, she was not a very nice girl ever! and no friend of mine, also i owned a 20 year old thouroughbred and i loved her she was the first horse i bought myself, i would have trusted my life on her, so dont listen to anyone, enjoy her

 

[keeperofthehorses]

Having Shetland ponies, I've experienced this too. People can say some really nasty things.

I agree with Rabbit. Some people can only bring themselves up by putting others down. Don't let them get to you, or they've succeeded. Thick skin and a good sense of humor is all you need.

Don't be catty and drop to their level; just laugh them off and go hug a horse. The best revenge is a happy, successful life.

 

[Lisa-Ruff N Tuff Minis]

People can be so mean.  It's a sad part of our nature to mock what we don't I wish I could tell you that it gets better...but it doesn't until YOU make it better.  My wife and I still deal with a lot of dumb jokes from people we work with all the time.  (Honestly, how many times do I have to tell people that I do NOT have a monkey that rides them and why does every cool-guy who asks that smile like he’s the first neuro-surgeon to make that joke?) 

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Ugh i agree or the old stupid one what did you do wash it in hot water and then they laugh as if i havent heard this 1 million times before.

You know. I have been hurt by those I thought were my friends turns out they said some pretty awful and spiteful things - that is ok I dont give them the satisfaction of a response as they are totally unimportant in my life and thru there meanness and insecurity they actually casued there own nightmare alienating themselves

the best revenge is always being happy and confident in what you are doing

Next time just say oh ok thanks for sharing and go on with your horsey things

 

[Ferrah]

Thank you everyone for you kind advice and support. I feel a lot better now after reading those things you had to say and after hugging my horses.

I don't care if they don't like my Miniature Horses anymore. They don't know what they are missing out on.

Also, my horse Ferrah is 100 times cuter and more full of spit and vinegar than those mean girls peanut pushing Quarter Horses anyday! (But thats my biased opinion)

Thanks everyone.

 

[AppyLover2]

Oh No - not peanut pushers!! Why, everyone in the world knows they are the BEST horses ever. Just because of the way they're trained to canter like they're crippled and too drugged up to even keep their nose off the ground.

Don't get me wrong - I love quarter horses!! Just not peanut pushers.

You go girl. Keep lovin' those minis and your Ferrah!!