Bad News Sister has cancer

[Barbie]

Prayers for your sister - and you too!

Barbie

 

[SunQuest]

Prayers for your sister and the rest of your family. May she find the strength needed to make a full recovery, and my you and your family also find the strength needed to help her cope. (((hugs)))

 

[OhHorsePee]

So sorry Missy! My thoughts and prayers are with you!

 

[Magic]

How scary for all of you! Sending prayers and good thoughts for your sister, and for you, to be able to help her in this very difficult time.

 

[BlueMoonEmbroidery]

My thoughts and prayers are with your sister.

 

[Charley]

Sending prayers for your sister.

 

[Basketmiss]

Update on my sister-

She went to the surgeon today and was told she has Interductil Carsanoma insitu-(sp for all)

The cancer is in her mammory duct in her right breast.

They said she can have a lumpectomy with radiation or a mastectomy. She is really confused about what to do?

Our Mom would like her to do the lumpectomy, less all the way around. But my sister worries that if she does that then it can come back or that they might have drug some cancerous cells thru her breast when they did the biopsy, so no guarantees.

She is supposed to call them Wed with her decision. Then they will set it up...

Any advice ?? We are looking for guidance, since we havent dealt with this before..

Thanks

Missy

 

[Sonya]

So if she gets the masectomy, no radiation or chemo? But if she just gets the lumpectomy she will need radiation and/or chemo?

Sending prayers for you, your family and your siss. ((hugs))

 

[Basketmiss]

Yes Sonya, if she has the lumpectomy she will have radiation plus be on medicine for 5 yrs (timoxifin) but neither if she has the mastectomy...

Thanks for the nice sentiments.

Missy

 

[Sonya]

Yes Sonya, if she has the lumpectomy she will have radiation plus be on medicine for 5 yrs (timoxifin) but neither if she has the mastectomy...

What do the doctors say? I've never been through anything like this and I can't even imagine how hard it is. Are they giving a recomendation? I did have a friend that passed away from breast cancer (I don't want to scare you...that is not my intention, everyone is different). She fought it for 12 years and she did not do the masectomy at the beginning, she only did the lumpectomy, it came back...like I said EVERYONE is different. Certainly doesn't mean that would happen to your sis. I would think it all depends on how long it's been there, and for my friend it was a while even though she was so young.

If it were me...(and it's not)...I'd do the masectomy...I'm not a doctor, nor have I ever had breast cancer. Urge your sister to inquire with the doctors...they do not like to give recomendations, nor are they suppose to, but they will if you press them...that's how it happened with my Mother's lung cancer...they gave her two options...and she/we had no clue what to do...they made it seem so non-shalaunt (sp?). We researched and researched and we still didn't know what was best, I got mad and I said to the doctor, if it were your Mother what would you do? I finally got an answer from him...then I went to another doctor and basically did the same thing. Not to say the DR's are always right but right now they are your best hope.

It's only a ****, if your sis can walk away from this with one less **** and a whole lot of life left, it will be so so worth it, plus skipping the horrors of chemo and/or radiation. She can always get a better one anyhow

I'm not making a joke of this, but sometimes laughter is the best medicine.

Please keep us updated...I'll be thinking of her.

 

[Mona]

Ditto what Sonya said.

Good luck to your sister with whichever she decides on.

 

[Brandi*]

OMG Missy! I don't know how I missed this post

I am so sorry to hear about your sister. She is in my prayers

 

[Basketmiss]

Thanks everyone for the nice sentiments..

Tomorrow we find out what she has chosen( I will ask her tonight but I dont knwo if she has decided yet) then I will know more.

A friend of mine had breast cancer last year and had a lumpectomy with chemo and radiation. She is ok but now she says she thinks she should have just done the mastectomy??

It seems so many women are coming up with breast cancer lately, It is a very sad thing this cancer! I so wish they would find a cure...

Missy

 

[Basketmiss]

I talked to my sister tonight and we ended up crying again. She is still so confused , doesnt know which one to do lumpectomy or mastectomy?? I think it would have been better if she didnt have a choice, she would rather they just told her what to do... I just want to get it done and out of her. I am not a very patient person!

Missy

 

[ThreeCFarm]

Oh, I'm sorry!! My grandmother had breast cancer, and other family members have had other kinds of cancer. My grandmother had a mastectomy so she wouldn't have to worry about it coming back, and it was a good choice for her. Your sister has a hard road ahead of her, no matter what she does.

 

[Davie]

Hi Missy, my first breast cancer (it was a tumor within the breast tissue) I was not given a choice but a mastectomy and as it turned out I had 15 of 21 lymph nodes involved. Went through 4 chemo treatments, a stem cell transplant and radiation. My oncologist did not think I would ever have a recurrence.

Nine years later I found a lump in the left breast. This time it was a ductal tumor--not related in way shape or form to the other ocurrance. I was given a choice of what I wanted to do but with the understanding if when they dyed the lymph nodes if they indicated cancer cells I would be kept overnight to have the lymph nodes removed the next morning and re-evaluate my options. I was already missing one breast and so I opted for the mastectomy on the other side. The nodes did not show indications of involvement but my oncologist decided that even if there were the slightest possibilty of leakage into the nodes she suggested a round of 4 chemo treatments this time as well.

I also did not opt for reconstruction as the right side had lots of scar tissue under the skin and I had a friend whose daughter waited almost 10 years after her surgery (and she was a very young 20s when she found her tumor) and when they did the reconstruction and disturbed the site, her cancer re-curred and she did not live much over 5 more years. That one incident was enough for me to make the personal choice to not have reconstruction done. Besides on a lighter note--I can have any size ****s I want

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Here is my HIGHLY RECOMMENDED SUGGESTION, don't take her surgeon's advice alone, on what is best for her, if she does not already have an oncologist FIND one and get him/her on board and discuss her treatment options with both the surgeon and oncologist. A delay of a week or 10 days is not going to make that much difference.

My oncologist (and I still see her every 6 months) is very aggressive in my treatment and I believe that is why I'm still here today. It was she that I went to first when I found the second lump.

Since I already had one breast removed and was in my 50's what was the loss of the other breast--they had already done their duty -- nursing 2 sons and I would much rather have my life. I was also single when both tumors were found, but I decided if a man needed both ****s to make him appreciate me, I sure did not need him--my life was more important.

I believe IF I WAS TO DO IT AGAIN, I'd do the same thing I did last time--don't rely just on your surgeon, get your oncologist on board before any major decisions are made.

I'm not a surgeon, oncologist, doctor, nurse or any other medical professional--JUST AN 11 YEAR SURVIVOR and so many advances have been made. I believe the best approach is a TEAM APPROACH.

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Your sister is strong and she will get through this.

 

[Southern_Heart]

I am so very sorry to hear this. Please have faith, I am sure that the doctors will do all that they can. My sister in her early 60s had breast cancer and they did a wonderful job saving her breast and she has been cancer free for 7 years now.

I will pray for your sister.

 

[Basketmiss]

Update on my sister-

She has NOT made her decision yet about having a lumpectomy with 6 weeks of radiation or a mastectomy. She goes to a plastic surgeon next Wed and then she will decide, so I am waiting here stressed, I just want her to get the cancer out...

I will know more next week.

Thanks for everyones support..

Missy

 

[ChrystalPaths]

A second opinion may well help her. When I had to have a hysterectomy I waffled in fear but my second opinion ended up being a woman surgeon (gyn) who I clicked with and trusted and did it. My prayers and light are with you all.

 

[AppyLover2]

I think, if it were me, I know what my decision would be; but until we're faced with something like that we never really know. Praying that God gives your sister the wisdom to make the right decision, the strength to deal with her illness and many years of happiness.