Could use some advice

[Molly's Run Minis]

btw, thanks to all who gave me advice, its nice to know that not everyone on this forum is so obsessive about bashing someone the second they show they arent perfect

 

[Molly's Run Minis]

Maybe, seeing as it's none of your business, you should be less judgmental of others.

Oh and this comment "god even gave her a second chance to wait until they were more stable and ready, the first time she got pregnant she had a miscarriage!" is one of the most evil things I've ever read on this message board.

lol now i'm evil? ooookay then.

i dont really care what you think of me because i dont know or like you

why is it that whenever i ask for advice i always get flamed?

none of you know her, none of you know how much she has hurt me and my family.

i would never actually say this to her, this thread was more of like a rant because i was very angry when i wrote it.

also, people in glass houses shouldnt throw stones, your telling me to be less judgemental, yet you turn around and call me evil?

 

[Sue_C.]

This reminds me of the old adage..."You can pick your friends, but you cannot pick your family".

As it isn't very likely that you will have to be seeing her much, just don't allow yourself to stress over what you cannot change about HER...but please, on the other hand, don't allow yourself to carry your dislike of her, to her child. This poor baby is gonna need ALL the help he/she can get...and if you can see that, half the "battle" here is won already.

You can help this child without helping the mother...you don't have to "be there" for her, but CAN take a supporting role in the care of this child if you so wish. You can frequent the Salvation Army or other second-hand stores, and pick up the occasional piece of clothing or equipment for the child, both now, and as he/she ages. You know this child is going to NEED someone steadfast and stable in it's life...and you have the chance to BE that.

Good luck, and do please take the time to think about what I have said.

 

[Molly's Run Minis]

This reminds me of the old adage..."You can pick your friends, but you cannot pick your family".

As it isn't very likely that you will have to be seeing her much, just don't allow yourself to stress over what you cannot change about HER...but please, on the other hand, don't allow yourself to carry your dislike of her, to her child. This poor baby is gonna need ALL the help he/she can get...and if you can see that, half the "battle" here is won already.

You can help this child without helping the mother...you don't have to "be there" for her, but CAN take a supporting role in the care of this child if you so wish. You can frequent the Salvation Army or other second-hand stores, and pick up the occasional piece of clothing or equipment for the child, both now, and as he/she ages. You know this child is going to NEED someone steadfast and stable in it's life...and you have the chance to BE that.

Good luck, and do please take the time to think about what I have said.

i wont be extending my dislike of her to the kid, its not his fault after all. i am mostly worried she'll use all her money on drugs, we ALL know she's still useing them, and then the poor kid will go without

thanks for your advice