Death

[Ashley]

Ok, I tend to try not and think about death as it absolutly freaks me out.

Well I just got done watching th movie The Soul Collector on Lifetime. Its a awsome move, and not at all freaky. However it got me thinking about death.

I dont do good good with it. Once I think about it, it just plays over and over in my head what happens. The whole fact that once your dead, your dead, you never come back, EVER. And it just freaks me out to the point that I wont sleep and what not.

Im I just totally weird or is anybody else like this?

Maybe age helps with the process of being ok with it, I dont know.

 

[Relic]

Well l'm 60 and l used to worry about dying when my kids were younger and what would happen to them but now l take each day as it comes bcause if you are going to die it is final no coming back and all thats left behind is the memories you leave behind for the people you knew. l hope to die in my sleep l don't like pain and see that as a blessing. At your age you should think of living not death it will come soon enough everyone goes sooner or later.

l know l'm a pain.

 

[Lisa-Ruff N Tuff Minis]

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I dont do good good with it. Once I think about it, it just plays over and over in my head what happens.  The whole fact  that once your dead, your dead, you never come back, EVER.  And it just freaks me out to the point that I wont sleep and what not.

Im I just totally weird or is anybody else like this?

Maybe age helps with the process of being ok with it, I dont know.

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well for me I just opt to believe that .. just maybe you do come back perhaps not in the form of a body but enough to really watch over your loved ones

 

[Ashley]

I do think that you come back as something else or somebody else.

Im saying that everythign you are doing now and liveing now, is done and over. Kind of thing, you will never have what you have again.

LIke I said I dont puprosely think about death. I dont watch much tv and when I do, I try to avoid the shows with death in.

Sometimes it just hits me wether I am thinking about it or not, most of the time out of the blue.

And well, most of my odd thoughts come when I work the 11-7 shift, and well, that is what I am on now.

 

[Miniv]

  The whole fact  that once your dead, your dead, you never come back, EVER.  And it just freaks me out to the point that I wont sleep and what not.

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Ashley,

I could go on and on about my personal experiences with my passed loved ones over the years, but I won't. Instead, think of it all scientifically.

Science admits that we are all made up of energy. Science (Physics) has now also proven that energy NEVER DIES once it is created.....It just CHANGES FORM.

So, we go through this life and grow old.....or don't and get hit by a car....and our body dies. What WE are -- our essence/personality/spirit (whatever you want to call it) which is our ENERGY exits, but it does live on. You can take the rest where you want to with your own personal beliefs.

I'll end it here, okay?

MA

 

[shminifancier]

After this summer I have a much clearer outlook on life and on death~! i was very very close to not being around But after 4 days in ICU and a week in the hospital I am now taking a better look at life and just how fragile it is~!! And the medicines I was on stopped my liver and kidneys and I did not know it..no pain no signs as I had stomach flu so I was not eating or drinking, so no warnings...But I made it out OK in the end..And I look at this way It is MUCH better to Walk out of the Hospital than to be Carried OUT~!

 

[luvmycritters]

I agree with your thoughts Ma - well said.

 

[CAM]

My strong belief in God gives me much peace about what will happen to me after I die. I no longer fear it at all but sure did before the belief was there.

 

[crponies]

Jesus Christ has defeated death and I don't have to fear it. I know that when I die I will be with the Lord and have life eternal. It is still weird to think about because it is an unknown but I don't fear it in the since of I can't get it out of my head or I lie awake a night thinking about it. When I start thinking about seeing Jesus and the tiny glimpse of heaven that is in the Bible, well, that is a good way to feel peaceful and excited, not scared. However, I am scared for you, Ashley. After all, if you're right and I'm wrong, what have I got to lose? On the other hand, if I'm right and you're wrong, you have so much to lose. Knowing Jesus can give you an awesome life here on earth and so much hope as you look forward to your eternal future. I wish everybody had that.

 

[rabbitsfizz]

Whatever you do or do not believe, you can do NOTHING, not one thing, about it. Let go of your fear. You have proved time and time again that you are a strong willed and courageous woman, Ashley. Just let go. If it helps, actually do it physically, as I did with anger that was really messing my life up. I physically screwed it up in a ball like a piece of paper, and I threw it away.

It gets easier, too, if something is really annoying me I just breathe out and let it go.

There is enough to worry about in life, all on it's own, without worrying about things that are completely beyond your control.

 

[minimomNC]

Ashley, I was the same way you are. If I thought about dying, my heart would just race and fear would take over. I couldn't sleep and really had to work to get it off my mind. UNTIL... Audie died. Everything changed then because if not for my daughter I wanted to die with him. I missed him so much and still do. But now I know that one day I will be with him again and that really took away alot of my fear. It has changed me in a way I never thought would happen. And alot of it came from words given to me from people here on the forum. I posted two poems on Audie's page on my website that really helped me alot (thank you again Davie and Bess, I read them often still), so please take a look at them. They brought a new meaning to me.

I still want to be with Audie, more every day. I miss him so much, but I know that he would want me to live the life he took great pains to give me, so thats what I am doing. In the right time we will be together again, he is my heart and soul. Knowing this does make it less frightening.

 

[LaraP]

I do not fear death. I guess I use to. But after losing my dad seven yrs ago, and then Joshua I feel that I will be with both of them again. When we first lost Joshua, I think I kinda lost it alittle. I felt he needed me to show him the way, but I was afraid to do anything to help with my death. I still have the feelings that our bodies are temples that God expects us to take care of. SO I was afraid if I did something to myself I wouldn't be able to see either one of them. And how could I HURT the rest of my family like that. I thought of Jeremy's wedding, Corey's baby, my mother, who is blind and in a wheel chair, and of course David. How could I hurt David like that.

I did talk to a Dr about this. SHe was afraid to give me anything unless David had control over the medication. I soon forgot that idea, but I look so forward in seeing my father and Josh again. I know they are having a grand ol time.

I remember seeing on TV a lady asking a psyhic if her husband missed her. the psyhic said no. He doesn't miss you. Wish took me back and I thought how horrible for her to tell this woman that. She (the psyhic said) he sees you all the time. Therefore, he doesn't miss you at all.. That kinda gives ya some comfort.

David believes that when God wants you he will take you no matter what. So all the IFs that we went thru means nothing, as Joshua would have been taken by the Lord no matter what he was doing. I get comfort in that also. God obviously needed Joshua for something important. I don't understand it yet, but I think I will once I am with them. Or will it even matter?

David and I both have been sick the last few days, but do have an appointment to talk to a counslor. Looking forward to it.

 

[lyn_j]

[SIZE=14pt]I ditto Crponies. I believe that death is just a doorway to everlasting life and since I accepted the Gift that Christ died for me so that if I stayed faithful to him I could also live with Him forever..... I dont dread that day.... if will be like going home![/SIZE]

Lyn

 

[runamuk]

Hmmm...when I was a teen I had a teacher who was so negative and focused on the war WWII and showing movies of the bodies that I became fearful that we would all be wiped out.....now I don't fear it...don't particularly look forward to it yet......

I have died once and barely escaped death twice all before I was school age......this energy ain't leaving anytime soon......apparently I am still meant to do something this time around.....next time around who knows

and if my kids don't do as I wish at death I will be busy haunting them..........

Ash death isn't the end it is part of the circle that contiues eternally as MA said energy doesn't die it just changes......try to figure out what actually scares you about death once you figure that out you should be able to conquer this particular demon.......

 

[susanne]

The biggest problem with fear of death is that it can paralyze you and keep you from actually living.

I think that fear of death often has to do with fear of life, or fear of our real lives not aligning with what we think they should be...guilt about not having done what we need to do or think we need to do...frustration about not being able to lead the life we are meant to lead...unfulfilled yet deeply held beliefs and senses of obligation.

When I was in my early twenties, I was very politically active in the nuclear freeze movement. Being so deeply immersed in the danger of nuclear annihilation, I became consumed by fear of such an event. I finally realized that my real fear was of dying without having fully lived my life. I swore at that point to live each day as if it were my last. All those things I would regret not having done -- I set about doing. If I regretted anything I had done, I made a point to set them right, to apologize if appropriate, to fix them if I could.

Try making a list of the things you would regret having done or not having done if you were to die. If you can do something about any of them, DO IT. If not, see if you can find a way to let it go.

Ask yourself, what is the most important thing I can do that would make me feel satisfied with my life if I were to die?

 

[Miniv]

Ask yourself, what is the most important thing I can do that would make me feel satisfied with my life if I were to die?

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Excellent post, Susanne! But the above quote from you could open up a whole new thread!!!

To answer your question -- I guess I'd better hang around for quite awhile....because my satisfaction would be in successfully having my child reach adulthood and living a responsible life. All my other goals for this life are secondary to that.

And yes, I could witness it happening "in Spirit"....but I'd rather experience it HANDS ON.

MA

 

[Ashley]

I think that fear of death often has to do with fear of life, or fear of our real lives not aligning with what we think they should be...guilt about not having done what we need to do or think we need to do...frustration about not being able to lead the life we are meant to lead...unfulfilled yet deeply held beliefs and senses of obligation.

Now if that isnt true I dont know what else could be

MiniV~ you really should post more often. I love your posts...........always give me something to think about.

 

[RAPfrosty]

I know exactly what you are talking about, that spontaneous realization that your going to die some day. I get it occasionally aswell and sometimes it gets me really scared and sad and even a tad bit depressed. You just have to look at it as positivly as possible depending on your beliefs. I'm catholic so I try to think about what heaven is like, and how wonderful it will be to see all of my relatives that have passed away. But, yeah, your not weird to think about death, I know everyone does it.

 

[Boss Mare]

I think that fear of death often has to do with fear of life, or fear of our real lives not aligning with what we think they should be...guilt about not having done what we need to do or think we need to do...frustration about not being able to lead the life we are meant to lead...unfulfilled yet deeply held beliefs and senses of obligation.

Now if that isnt true I dont know what else could be

MiniV~ you really should post more often. I love your posts...........always give me something to think about.

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One thought about death haunts me to this day .... When I was 5 years old, after watching Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman on TV I got really upset and went to talk to my parents to ask about death. I didn't understand how long you would stay dead for and when they explained it to me I realized when you're dead, you're dead and to this day that whole scene is still in my head.

Death bothers me more than I let show, I think that is why I favor the 'dark side' in general, I guess I just feel it's like I am already half way dead and I am trying to face my fear and become one with it and accept it. I guess that's why I idolize vampires also.

 

[runamuk]

Susanne you said what I was trying to get across ...... it usually isn't death we fear so much as the "what if's"..........I find a strange comfort in knowing death will come when it is time for me to go and until then I better live.......

I drowned when I was 2 a teenage boy pulled me off the bottom of a pool I was brought back (wasn't time to go) for the next 5 years my parents did everything in their power to get me to swim I was terrified......however when I turned 8 I discovered water was fun and I could tread water endlessly to this day I love the water and boating and skidoo's etc.... I also believe all children should learn to swim and have respect for the water....my sons are both fish and can swim like dolphins

Fears can be conquered......phobia's however are a whole different ballgame