Do you ever just get tired of people?

[minimule]

Just wondering. In this area, there are several horse/mule/donkey clubs you can join. I've been in several for many years now. The attitudes seem to be getting worse and worse. The mule/donkey club used to be really fun. Lots of things going on but now.....there are so many stupid little "cliques" that have formed. If you don't have money, aren't retired, don't go to ALL the auctions and things...you don't fit in. I'm just fed up and venting. I used to have some really good friends but since they are "cliquing" with money now......oh well, who cares! It ain't worth it to me to waste my energy on groups like that. It just gives me a bigger relief when we finally get to move to TX.

 

[nootka]

I hear you. There have been several people I've known off and on in some of the clubs I've been in/participated in over the years that seem to just sway right over to "cash" or some other form of prestige. Me, I'll take good ol' genuine "people" any day of the week.

It IS aggravating, though, and I so understand your need to vent about it. It hurts, but it's also their loss, if you ask me.

Liz M.

 

[minimama]

Oh man! Tell me all about it! One reason I have not been showing as much. I just don't need the junk that goes along with it.

Shawna, I like you just the way you are and you can be a part of my clique. The non-clique.....clique!!! hee hee hee

 

[runamuk]

I hear you. There have been several people I've known off and on in some of the clubs I've been in/participated in over the years that seem to just sway right over to "cash" or some other form of prestige. Me, I'll take good ol' genuine "people" any day of the week.

It IS aggravating, though, and I so understand your need to vent about it. It hurts, but it's also their loss, if you ask me.

Liz M.

Gosh Liz you just dashed my hopes of belonging to the exclusive northwest horsey beach bums clique :bgrin :bgrin :bgrin

I am a floater I float through cliques picking out the people with common interest but rarely letting the clique define me......this keeps people wondering

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: :bgrin

 

[Marsha Cassada]

Oh, Shawna, are you sure they aren't just jealous of your beautiful new panels and your welding skills?? :lol:

I'm sorry to hear your area clubs aren't fun anymore. I was very envious of you when I was at your place; there seemed to be so many interesting things going on.

Marsha

 

[MeadowRidge Farm]

Shawna, I think you know where I stand as far as liers and getting tired of people go

: Same thing with the clubs up this way...its all about prestige and $$ or you just dont fit in :no: We can form our own club--and the hcek with everyone else :bgrin. I quit showing saddlebreds for this reason.

: I'm here if you need a shoulder.

: Corinne

 

[minimule]

I knew there had to be others out there that didn't join the "cliques".

One of the comments that really ticked me off was this one.....

"Everyone else just has "lawn ornaments". If you want WORLD CLASS, you need to buy from me". This was made by a guy that has 1 (yes 1) horse that has been to World a couple of years and yes, he does place well. BUT, this guy also pays a pro trainer to do everything with the horse then he takes him to the show. He doesn't show locally of course......

Marsha there is a lot to do around here. The ones that are real friends, we will still do the fun stuff! I'm not quitting my animals just because there are a bunch of butth0!es out there.

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[Reble]

I'm here, anyone want a Cold

: Just joking.

Do you ever just get tired of people?, attitudes and lies?

You bet, once you lie or cross my line, never expect me to be your true friend again.

It is so sad, but I have heard this so many times. Just certain people become the main "cliques" or do they?

You can always tell what kind of person they are by who they hang out with.

Glad your not in their "cliques". :aktion033:

Come join the other group

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[luvmycritters]

Do you ever just get tired of people?, attitudes and lies?
You bet, once you lie or cross my line, never expect me to be your true friend again.

It is so sad, but I have heard this so many times. Just certain people become the main "cliques" or do they?

You can always tell what kind of person they are by who they hang out with.

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Yupper...unfortunately - as hard as one may try to be "a real friend, honest and forgiving" - there will always be those who will step all over you at the drop of a hat.

Lori

 

[Lauralee]

The local club where I live behaves much in the same way. Too much drama for my taste. I work and have teenagers with activities....if I happen to have time to attend a club function it has to be enjoyable. Not bickering and backstabbing. So I stay home~

 

[ChrystalPaths]

Well, that is why I'm the hermit lady in the hollow.

 

[Cairney]

The local club where I live behaves much in the same way. Too much drama for my taste. I work and have teenagers with activities....if I happen to have time to attend a club function it has to be enjoyable. Not bickering and backstabbing. So I stay home~

I also have had this experience.....clubs with trouble makers?? Avoid them like the plague!!

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[whiskeyranch]

You should hurry and get to Texas so you can meet some new people with manners!

It's always the same, folks who PAY to have their work done boast the most, Those who work hard for themselves have inner pride and don't run their mouths.

 

[mountain_waif]

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[strass]

It's just part of life. People tend to group up with those who have similar interests. That's why we join these equine clubs to start with. That's why we're on this forum. Inside a big group, we migrate to smaller, more precise groups. Some people are snotty about it, but it's also a natural tendency.

I try not to be clique-ish, but I do recognize that I talk mostly to those people I know and have more in common with. I'm slow in getting to know new people (when they aren't having a beer with me).

There are 2 things that really irk me:

1) There are people who wouldn't take time to flip a booger on me 3 years ago, but when our Stallion had the year he did in '05, suddenly I had a lot of snotty friends. Most of them pretty much quit talking to me once they figured out that they weren't going to get what they wanted out of me. Some never even would talk to us but would use our trainer as a go-between. (If you can't talk to us in person...then we really don't have much to say.)

I have friends with money and without. I WANT money, but it fails to impress me. I'm just as impressed with some nobody kid out there working her butt off to show her grade pony as I am with the richest big-name breeders who never handle their own horses. In fact, that kid is usually more fun to talk to.

2) I can't stand people who forget where they came from. Sure, you may have (or be) the hottest stuff out right now, but you should NEVER forget who sold it to you, gave you the chance to show it, or helped you make it to the top. We still call the people who sold us Redi several times a year. Do they have another Redi to sell? No. But we will never forget that they were so kind to us in the past.

 

[Buckskin gal]

I understand very well what you are saying. Not a person to be clique-ish either. I enjoy doing my own thing. I love sharing the same interests with others but too many people do seem to have something to prove by sticking their noses in the air and thinking they are better than others. But then that is what competion can do to people. Winning becomes the priority and they don't care whose toes are stepped on. JMHO Mary

I try not to be clique-ish, but I do recognize that I talk mostly to those people I know and have more in common with. I'm slow in getting to know new people (when they aren't having a beer with me).

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