Friends.............

[Ashley]

What would it take for you to consider a friendship over?

 

[SunQuest]

Betrayal of my trust. My friends I trust with my life, my family, and my deepest thoughts. My friends are considered part of my family in my heart. If I ever found out that my friends did anything to jeopardize the well being or the trust of my family or myself, they would no longer be my friend.

After all, I will go to all ends of this earth to help my friends as long as they don't loose my trust in them.

 

[shane]

i have to agree, i used to have friends when i was younger,but i went through a hard time when my two children were in icu for 2 yrs each all my so called friends up and left me i felt so alone, i met a few more friends since then ive always been the one that does everything for anyone and ended up being let down.10 yrs on ive net a few people thanks to having a mini and i would call them friends theve been very helpful but im still a bit wary ,thats why i love the forum i feel i loads of friends now!

 

[CKC]

Oh this is a good one. I just basically finally told a friend of 15 years exactly how I felt about our friendship. We are no longer friends. My conscience told me to do this along time ago, but I didn't. I only have one true best friend and that is my husband. I trust him with everything and he is the only one. I have been burned so many times in my life for being too kind. I think some people see that as a weakness and take advantage.

I think your gut tells you when someone is your friend or not.

 

[SammyL]

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I have burned so many times in my life for being too kind. I think some people see that as a weakness and take advantage.
I think your gut tells you when someone is your friend or not.

I agree. In my experiance, girls can be so mean to one another. I'm 16 and a freshman in high school, and I one true best friend. All the other are just friends. I must admit, I love having guys as friends. I have many guys who are friends, and not very many girl friends. But that's just me. I do not trust very easily.

 

[Baptism]

Lost respect.

I can put a friend into a different catagory and treat them accordingly if they betray in any number of ways. (I don't mean the really big betrayal like sleeping with your husband.) I once had a friend whom I heard was saying things about my life and decisions. She was just that sort of person. She did have some redeeming qualities so I decided to accept her the way she was BUT treat her accordingly. She couldn't keep a secret, so I told her none. But when I lost respect for her that was it.

I had a very good man friend also. He started going against all the marine corps values he believed in and lived. He became a thief, started verbally abusing his wife, got a girlfriend, deliberately did mean and nasty things just because he could.

His animals were not cared for in a decent manner anymore. I lost all respect for him and could not be a friend anymore.

 

[Marty]

A big mouth.

I cannot stand a big mouth. Someone that you have told a confidence to and they went and blabbed it.

I can't stand a liar or a theif.

Someone that is two faced. Nice to you in person, then behind your back runs their mouth.

 

[MeadowRidge Farm]

I cant stand a lier, or a two faced person. Most of my friends are life long friends, and I have made MANY new friends in the mini circle, whom I consider to be very good friends.and true friends. But then along comes someone who is SOOO nice to your face,and all you have to do is say something they dont agree with and you are made to fell horrible. I dont need friends like that, with my true friends we can disagree or agree and no one gets upset or hurt. I also dont like people who talk about everyone else, but yet TRY to be friends with the ones there talking about, including on forums, where again, they can hide behind everything, and only the people who actually know the person, in person, and can hear first hand how they talk know what is going on. I also dont like people who will deliberately LIE to another to get there one way, or to lie just to cover there own tracks! Corinne

 

[Magic]

A big mouth.
I cannot stand a big mouth. Someone that you have told a confidence to and they went and blabbed it.

I can't stand a liar or a theif.

Someone that is two faced. Nice to you in person, then behind your back runs their mouth.

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I agree with all this, and also with Nila-- it all comes down to trust. Can I trust that the person has my best interests at heart? If they talk about other people behind their backs but pretend to be their friends, can I trust that they aren't doing the same to me? If I tell them something in confidence, can I trust that they won't blab it to others? If they have purposely hurt me in the past, can I trust that they won't do so again?

I can and have forgiven friends (after all, nobody is perfect) but when trust is broken time after time, there comes a time to protect oneself and let it go....