Gossip and it's harmful affects,,,,,,,,

[Frankie]

And sometimes you shoot yourself in the foot by making a comment.

Just wanted some to consider what they may say, had no intent of starting yet more talk.

Amazing how things can be turned around.

So this has been deleted, by me.

 

[txminipinto]

Carolyn,

I agree. While sometimes its hard to resist the "latest scoop", I try to resist. I definately don't repeat it. Sorry you were the butt of a bad rumor! :no:

 

[Frankie]

Oh, it'll pass. But not all will forget. And that's ok.

Just was hoping a few would read this and maybe evaluate their talking.

I know I sure have.

 

[Marty]

Carolyn the boys often come home from school with a new rumor.

They are listening to the rumors about others in school.

They will get phone calls after school and discuss these rumors further and never once considered that they are just a bunch of made up lies.

Then one day there was a rumor about one of their girlfriends, they found out real fast what it's like to be on the receiving end and having to defend yourself against a rumor.

Carolyn I tell them to be quiet, not to respond, and then next week it will all just go away when someone cranks up another rumor about someone else.

Don't defend yourself or respond Carolyn. They'll move on.

 

[justaboutgeese]

Been there done that and got the t-shirt. As luck would have it there were a couple of real, super good scandals in town which put me on the back burner.

 

[stormo41]

Being a high school student, i know alot about gossip and what it does to people. i always try to avoid it as much as possibe, but still am the victim of gossip.

just yesterday one person saw me and and my boyfriend i was upset and crying, he was angry, with no questions asked to that person we had "broken up". Yesterday I was putting on a play for drama, the day before we had one person quit on us who was playing a big role. i have done most of the work on this play and by the end of the day i just could not take it any more and broke down, however my boyfriend thought he did something wrong, and was angry with himself, after an hour passed everything was allright. but it had spread through the school that we had broken up witch did not happen.

i hate gossip, but there are people out there how love it, so no matter what it will always be around.

 

[Cathy_H]

I agree somewhat with what you have posted................

But I think we could make a better effort of talking only the facts, or not talking if we do not know it to be the 100% truth........... Sometimes when you are conveying the facts which you KNOW to be 100% true to the wrong person ( you do not find this out until later) that sometimes turns out against you also. You do not know to whom or how that person is going to use that information & how the story is going to be changed....................... I feel if you know the person that started a rumor of this significance & who else it has been told to, then I see no reason why you should not call the person(s) to correct it. If it is about me then I have the right to correct false information. This happened to me & I corrected the information with the first person because I knew what was being said was not true. Don't know how many people this story was told to but in time other things happened which I feel would have corrected the story anyway.................................... On the flip side if a person is known to change a story, embellish facts to the extreme or even make up stories you have to consider the source. Someone like this is not worth wasting your energy on because you will just give them more fuel to work with. If you know someone like this then most likely other people know of them also. If not they will soon find out if they ever cross paths with this person. If they don't like the reputation they have acquired then they can change - it's their decision.

 

[ChrystalPaths]

Nope, I never gossip. Hate it, hurts folks and lots do it here round where I live about me cuz I'm that weird hermit lady in the hollow! :new_shocked:

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[Jill]

It can be really easy to get sucked into gossip. I have a friend who is the biggest gossip I have ever known. It can be addictive, extremely addictive really, to "get the scoop" and discuss it. However, I reached the point in this case with her where it is just over saturation and I realize now how much it actually brings me down over time, all the drama and "extreme" news. It is tiring over time, and of course, I'm smart enough to realize I am a topic of gossip when I am not around.

It can be hard to resist, but it really doesn't just hurt the person who is the subject of the gossip (and gossip usually isn't even very rooted in reality), but it truly drags the particpants down emotionally, at least it has for me.

 

[Lisa-Ruff N Tuff Minis]

You know.. I thought this kinda sounded familiar a thread by you about a sold horse that wasnt treated how you wanted him to be or thought he should be (of course i dont know even the horses name or the other person) but I went and found the thread.

I am not saying who should and shouldnt post what but I do think sometimes when you open yourself up with your business dealings on a public fourm that it can be misunderstood or of course talked about and then misconstrued.

I realize from what you are posting now that thread had nothing to do with this situation that was posted on the previous thread and you say you never even sold this person a horse so yes it is like the old kid game telephone.

I am not meaning this at all as a personal attack on you and am hoping that in type it doesnt come off that way cause if you could see/hear me it sure wouldnt

but.. I think like I said sometimes bringing dealings out on any forum can just open yourself up for shall we say "discussions" to fly.

 

[Miniv]

Been there done that and got the t-shirt. As luck would have it there were a couple of real, super good scandals in town which put me on the back burner.

Good point Geese.....and that's just exactly what tends to happen with gossip.

MA

 

[rabbitsfizz]

Gossip can be harmless- I was on the phone yesterday for three hours just doing that, gossiping....oh and talking about horses of course. And, being me a bit of arguing,some shouting.....it's OK that's how we do it, no hard feelings and we work things out that way. But this is with a person to whom I can say ANYTHING and it will go not further. I am the worlds worst person to tell anything nasty to because even if I do not like the person I will defend them, and I will never pass the info on.

Bet that surprises you.

I have NO time fro malicious gossip, nor nasty e-mails (or PMS) .

Anything I say about someone I am prepared to, and have at times, repeated to their faces.

If you stick to that rule a good bit of gossip never hurt anyone.

Gossip is one thing, rumour is another.

Rumours I hate, they are rarely true.

 

[Triggy&Blue&Daisy Too]

Bet that surprises you.

Actually no it doesn't Jane. As much as you annoy me me sometimes

: I do have considerable respect for you, bet that surprises you

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And there is NOTHING I've said to anyone that I wouldn't say to their face, those who wouldn't aren't worth the breath God gave them. I despise nicey nice phoneys who talk sh!t behind people's back, plenty of that ilk here unfortunately.

 

[wcr]

There is so much bad in the best of us

and so much good in the worst of us

That it hardly behooves any of us

to talk about the rest of us.

I learned this in high school and it rings true. Wise words to live by. Just don't ask my opinion......

 

[runamuk]

A bit of idle gossip is typically pretty harmless usually it lasts all of 2 minutes from when I hear it to when I forget it :bgrin

Rumors on the other hand can take on a life of their own and becoming little living beasties......

If people talk about me I have no idea because I never hear anything........once when I was a teen I experienced being the end of a rumor........and it was actually kinda funny because I found the whole thing so ridiculous that it dropped like a lead weight......

One summer when I was 14 or 15 my dad arranged for me to spend July in Arizona with my grandparents.....when I got back after a fun but HOT month one of those so called friends called to tell me I should hear the rumor going around......I was like oh ok so what is this great rumor......lets see it went something like I was pregnant and had been shipped off to have an abortion or some such stupidity..first after I got done laughing...I asked exactly where this mess started.....didn't get a good answer so just said thats nice people can believe whatever they want I had a great vacation and a rockin tan :bgrin :bgrin

Hadn't thought of that until this thread....I guess being oblivious is a great trait

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