I get down sometimes for the same reasons. Some of our family are always trying to make us feel inadequate because we are always a bit "worn" around the edges. My in-laws just don't understand why we live the way we do. I am in a similar situation as you, part time job, kids, and raising a few minis on the side. My mother-in-law in particular likes to roll her eyes and tisktisk at us. She makes little comments about our permanently dirty old vehicles, the haying machinery parked all over the yard, etc. She just doesn't see the sense of pride my children have after doing a good job on the chores, or when they are mobbed for effection in the corral, or when they see the progress while socializing a new foal. Some things they just can't understand if they haven't been there. You follow your own drummer and be happy that you have discovered something they will never know! :aktion033: