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[Matt73]

Does anyone else have a partner that is not the least bit horsey? Do you ever get really frustrated at comments/suggestions they make? Well I do

My girl, Lexus, does not get a winter coat; she's like a little thoroughbred. This shot was from last month and her coat hasn't changed:

The last two winters, she was actually shivering at times. She did get a bit of a coat, but nothing like I see on some minis. She is pretty pampered (in at night etc.). So I finally got her a blanket this year. I've been putting it on at night if it's 5 degrees celsius or colder. Well, last night it was warmer so I left it off. I woke up this morning and it was about 2 or 3 degrees and windy. I said to my partner, "Oh geez, Lexie's gonna be cold and shivering. I've got to get out and put her blanket on.". He said, well it's gonna get a lot colder yet. What are you gonna do then? Give her two blankets? I said, yeah, if I have to. He then said, well, are you gonna leave it on all the time? I said, yeah. He just kind of said that I was being silly putting a blanket on her. He sees animals a bit differently from me. I got irritated at the questioning of what I do. And kind of snapped at him. But...lo-and-behold, I go in the barn and there's my princess shivering in her hind end. I quickly put her blanket on and she warmed up. I just hate being questioned by people that don't know anything about horses. There...I've vented. I feel better

 

[ontherisefarm]

Matt I think we all get questioned about our horses at one time or another.. I think it is part of the relatonship thing...If it wasnt about them it would be something else.. Relatioships are WORK !!!! LOL Hang in there.... I know they are frustrating...

 

[Matt73]

Matt I think we all get questioned about our horses at one time or another.. I think it is part of the relatonship thing...If it wasnt about them it would be something else.. Relatioships are WORK !!!! LOL Hang in there.... I know they are frustrating...

Oh, I know. We have a great relationship. We bicker a bit at times but we love each other

5 years this past September. I think we're stuck with each other

 

[ontherisefarm]

Welp my hubby and I have been married for almost 18 yrs and been together for almost 22 yrs. Our relationship is wonderful too, of course never perfect but heck noone's is....

 

[Katiean]

I get "When are you going to sell Dusty?". "Do you really NEED 4 horses?" and my faviorate "If you didn't have so many horses, you could help out more with expences". I spend less than $200 a month on my horses. I get crusty looks if I spend $5 on a used fly mask. Hey, these horses NEED these things and I do hate being questioned about each extra thing I buy. I am a grown woman (over 50) I think I can make my own choices about what I spend my money on and it is going to be my horses every time.

 

[susanne]

Matt,

This is something that Keith and I agreed to...sometimes it even works, lol...

We have a certain number of things that are "just because I said so." It doesn't matter how many, but the idea is that we'll do these things for each other without question. No matter how silly either of us thinks it is, we do it, just because.

For example, Keith avoids wrapping the lead rope around his hand NOT because he agrees it's important, but "just because I said so." Obviously, you can't have too many of these!

 

[Matt73]

Matt,
This is something that Keith and I agreed to...sometimes it even works, lol...

We have a certain number of things that are "just because I said so." It doesn't matter how many, but the idea is that we'll do these things for each other without question. No matter how silly either of us thinks it is, we do it, just because.

For example, Keith avoids wrapping the lead rope around his hand NOT because he agrees it's important, but "just because I said so." Obviously, you can't have too many of these!

It works for us!

That's a GREAT idea! I'll mention it to Kev. Thanks!

 

[Brandi*]

Hubby is trying harder to be more understanding and I really appreciate it but I still don't think he will ever truly "get" it. Effort is all I can ask for

 

[cowgurl_up]

Yup, I hear the same things too! Usually on the lines of I don't need them, I waste too much money on them....all of the above! We came to the understanding that I just don't talk about my horses with him, that's what I have friends that love horses for! He does put out an effort every once in awhile to come and see me show, which is nice! I guess all relationships need compromise!

 

[Magic]

Ah yes.... Sometimes my hubby will feed the horses for me, and he'll give them less than I've instructed to give.

And then has the gall to tell me that I "overfeed" the horses, and the amount he gives is better. Riiight. The poor horses would starve to death on the chintzy amount of feed he doles out. (ok, not really, but they sure make you think so!) AND, I've had miniatures for something like 15 years, I think I know how to feed my own horses!

Hey, that DOES feel good to vent, lol!

Hubby and I have been married for ages, we've got two grown daughters and two grandbabies with another on the way, and I love him dearly. I'm lucky he even is willing to feed horses for me. So, I just give the horses extra the next time I feed them, lol!

 

[Casnos Minis]

I get "When are you going to sell Dusty?". "Do you really NEED 4 horses?" and my faviorate "If you didn't have so many horses, you could help out more with expences". I spend less than $200 a month on my horses. I get crusty looks if I spend $5 on a used fly mask. Hey, these horses NEED these things and I do hate being questioned about each extra thing I buy. I am a grown woman (over 50) I think I can make my own choices about what I spend my money on and it is going to be my horses every time.

I get that all th time too. My hubby hats that the horses get money and he doesn't. I tell him they won't spend it on junk food!!! I might spend $200 a month on them if no boo-boos occur, no vet visits , stuff like that. He got mad that my horse got kicked an needed stitches and staples, I said it happens. I tell him I don't care if they go he'll hate living with me. I have agreed to cut back and sell 2 of the 4. I have someone coming on Sunday to see them, but I'm sure they will take them as they are very interested and can't wait to get them. He'll have to live with 2 or he can leave!!!!

Christy

 

[susanne]

He said it was him or the pets...and (sob!) we miss him!

Keith is far too wise to ever question my pets...of course, lucky for him, he loves them all as much as I do, so they are most definitely OURS.

When we first had the chance to adopt Mingus, our first horse, we lived in Portland and any sane person would have thought adopting a horse was a crazy idea. Keith's response was:

"You've always wanted a horse...we HAVE to do it."

Did I mention how much I love him?

 

[lilmiraclesfarm]

Oh yes it seems my partner is NEVER HAPPY!

Its either you feed them too much, you don't feed them enough. You don't need another.

How long is it going to take you, we would be able to do more if it wasn't for the animals

They are just animals they will be fine with this and this. I'm not spending anymore money.

It will be easier to get rid of them. Why can't you do it. I have to be some where or I have plans.

The vets says somethings wrong, we address the issue yet its always wrong still. We have an appy colt. He had rain rot and was getting mal nurished from our other horses hoging food. Seperated him, treated the rain rot. Well his hair grew in white, as he's blanketing out. So now something is wrong with him and he's not right. lol Yet he's fat and has silky smooth hair. But becuase his hair grew in different there is something just not right with him, and he tells everyone this!

Ugh drives me insane. I work a 9-5 job. So does he, but I have to get up an hour earlier, stay an hour later to take care of everyone. I barley get time to muck my outside runs becuase I'm exhausted after work, and he's in a hurry to have me home. So once a weekend that gets done. But I have no help and when I try and get help its always I have something else to do, or I could be on my bike today or doing this today.

I have to lug water in the winter, I have no barn. Building things is an issue. It never gets done or there is a problem with it. I want covered hay feeders. That won't happen. I want to move one of the horses runs. The water runs into the front half of it. But that won't happen. I wanted to buy a larger one that I could build stalls in. But nope, too expensive the horses have something don't need anything else.

I want to get involved more with showing. But with his second business he travels everyother weekend and takes the truck. The weekends he's home he's wanting to catch up around the house. Which I don't blame him for. I'm looking at buying my own truck, but nothings good enough or he doesn't think I should. Its just a no win win situation when it comes to him and the animals. Yet he's looking at buying a new house so that we can have our animals with us and build a barn and have all the nice amenities.

They are not all mine. Out of the 5, 2 are mine. Go figure that one out!

 

[chandab]

My husband was raised on a ranch, and we do raise cattle; so I always get we didn't do it that way when I was a kid. Don't get me wrong, I love my husband and my FIL; but horse care and feeds have come a long way in 60 years (my FIL is 72 and has been around horses for most of his life, raised AQHA horses in 50-60s, has a couple draft teams, a couple saddle horses, etc been training horses forever). However, just because it was done this way 40 years ago, doesn't mean its necessarily the best way, nor the way I want to do it. [My husband thinks I spend too much time with the horses and doesn't understand why I don't just put them out to pasture 24/7 like the saddle horses... Cause our grass is great for fattening beef cattle, and, I'd have 50-gal barrels on little stubby legs, if they had access to the grass 24/7.]

I rarely ask my husband to do more than feed hay to my minis. Recently, I was gone for one day, asked him to feed hay 2x that day (7 B-size minis, 1 A-size); 1 flake each for breakfast, 2 flakes each for supper (1 flake for the little guy)... He polished off a bale and a half that day, a bale usually last me 3 meals for the 6 minis in one area (they went through a whole bale in one day) and a week for the 2 in the other area (they got nearly 1/2 bale in one day). At least its grass hay and it won't hurt them any; boy do they like it when he feeds.

 

[Jill]

Harvey helps take care of our horses every day and he has learned a lot... however, he will still like smooch to them and call them like a dog when we need to get one for something they don't want to be got for

It always ticks me off when he does that "here boy, come heeere..."

 

[ChrystalPaths]

Had to laugh Chan.

Matt, I never once got support or help in the 28 yrs I had horses and a husband, now both aren't here, I miss the horses.

 

[SHANA]

Yes my husband complains a bit though he loves the horses. I gave him his own horse(arabian mare named Sameera) and the mini mare, Cherokee Stables Ohso Dandy, guess he claimed her a few years back as I had her for sale as I could never catch her but he could no problem so she became his horse. He claimed her 2008 filly, Wonder as his as well. Technically Dandy and Wonder are in my name but are HIS horses. He talks baby talk to them. I find it cute. He didn't like horses before he met me but I told him, you have to love all of me and that includes the horses.

 

[hobbyhorse23]

My husband was raised on a ranch, and we do raise cattle; so I always get we didn't do it that way when I was a kid.

When people tell me I should go find some cute cowboy to marry I always reply "No way! I want one I can train to do things my way!"

My mom did that, finding a guy who liked animals in general and accepted her interest in them as part of her and boy did he turn out good. My dad's become excellent with the horses and now even notices the little things like goopy eyes, when someone hasn't finished their feed or is acting off and comes and tells Mom and I we need to go have a look. He's caught several colics and various injuries that way at the morning feeding. We sure love him!

After that sort of example I'm simply not going to put up with someone who treats me like I'm out of line for loving my animals. Sorry, that's a part of me! If you don't like it, you shouldn't have started dating me in the first place. It's not like I hid my addiction!

Love me, love my horse. It's that simple.

Leia

 

[MyBarakah]

That's a good part of the reason I'm no longer married! loL! There was also other things....... but I got the 3rd degree on the horses.... and he even had his own horses...... He was just a butt to say the least..... anything to use to the excuse to complain.....

 

[dgrminis]

My husband has been a farm boy all his life and I was a city person... But when we first got into minis they were ALL mine -- he helped with hay - as in baling and bringing it in and stacking it and even feeding if I was working late or sick or whatever. Over time he has learned that he loves them as much as I do

He is really getting into them now and actually seems to enjoy doing some of the things with them

He still doesnt notice things like I would if they are feeling ill or not acting right BUT he is getting there...

He also LOVES to build me things for them -- ok maybe not loves but he does it without complaing too much -- haha

I just got a new 3 stall enclosed foaling shed - 2 stalls have runs and the thirds can have a run if I want it to but we left it completely enclosed right now -- I do still need the gates on the stalls but otherwise it is all done

And he is planning some new feeders for this winter while it is too cold to work outside he will be in the shed with the heat working...

BUT I do want to add he HATES the goats -- complains about them all the time.... I finally sold down to my 3 favorite goats and said they are staying and I dont want to hear it -- haha -- He still complained and I just stopped responding

Not much fun to complain if you cant get a response I guess so he has learned to deal with them and I have learned that he doesnt like them....