I greatly appreciate Susanne's recognition of how I try to handle my horses. Thanks so much for noticing what I work very hard to achieve.
One reason I really appreciate it is because I have been on the other side also, having had people talk about me in a negative way, having not had all the information and deciding to just pass judgment. The time that happened was actually during one of those online auction which I volunteered to assist with because so many owners were to nervous to present their own horses. In this particular circumstance a few people became quite vocal about my handling of a horse, complaining about me snapping the horse. I think sometimes people feel overly entitled to voice their opinions in these situations because they are "standing up" for a defenseless animal, they forgot they are also insulting someone without getting the facts. For example, in my case, the horse was a severely neglected yearling colt, who was extremely study and untrained. In addition his owners felt it was important that he show during the sale, so he was not fed that day. Furthermore, they decided he would be more impressive if he raised his tail, so in goes the ginger. Oh, and let's protect the stage, so, no joking, a blue tarp was duck taped underneath the shavings! So now, we have an aggressive, hungry, barely halter broke stallion, with his but on fire, slipping on a tarp, coming way to close to the edge of the stage that is 3 feet of the ground, as a loud speaker is booming just feet from his head! So yes, for 2 minutes I pretty much had to snap him back from running through me off the stage. When I did get off, and his owner had just dumped this poor neglected colt for the single bid he received, I overheard her telling someone, "he would have sold for a lot more if he showed better, which he would have done if that horrible handler hadn't kept shanking him!".
Now I understand these circumstances may sound a bit extreme, and most would assume that this situation is unusual, but the point is, unless we ask and find out, then you have no way of knowing. I understand no one is naming names, but I promise, every single amateur that had a tough horse and had to jerk the lead rope, and is now reading this, is going to assume it is about them and feel like crap! They aren't going to want to single themselves out as I have as the "guilty party" and defend themselves to people who have already made up their minds. Having known that feeling before, I feel for them.