I have a new pet peeve

[MBennettp]

First of all I want to thank everyone for the prayers and kind thoughts today because of the loss of my father. It was a rough day but we got through it.

My new pet peeve is people taking plants from the funeral. I'm not talking about taking a bloom from a spray, I am talking about taking plants. I have a niece that took several plants home with her after the funeral. She didn't ask my mother if it was okay, she just took them.

My mother had already planned to plant all of the flowers that would grow outside and several of the ones taken were the ones she wanted the most.

I will be calling the niece with a demand that she return the flowers that she stole from her grandmother. She knew it was not okay, we had already made her put back some of the flowers. What on earth would make anybody think they had the right to take flowers without permission from the surviving spouse? I think it is the ultimate in disrespect. This is not a teenager (most teens know better), she is a grown woman with grown children.

I may be overreacting but she needs to know that is not proper.

Mary

 

[ChromeLuvr]

Oh my heck. Yeah, that is definitely rude. I hope you can get them all back without a fuss. Not just a misunderstanding on her part?

Nothing of the sort happened at my father's memorial service. We had many plants, one that's still going strong, and flowers on display. Visitors looked at them but no one even dared touch them, except to place them in the beginning of the service.

 

[REO]

That is a greedy, disrespectful, <BLEEP> thing to do!

She had better give them back! <BLEEP! BLEEPING BLEEP!>

You know me Mary, I'm holding back what I'd really like to say!

{{{{Mary}}}}

 

[Sue_C.]

Who'd of ever thought...

 

[bfogg]

Unbelievable!!!!!!!!!!!

I still have most of the plants from Larry's service and they bring me comfort whenever I water and care for them.

Yes you need to get them back. If she wanted say, to take a slip from them that is different. If she had asked if it would be okay that would be different. But this is downright stealing.

But what goes around comes around, would not want to be in her shoes over the following months.

Hugs

Bonnie

 

[txminipinto]

I'm sorry that happened. I will say the few funerals I have been too, the potted plants where given away to anyone who would take them following the service. Perhaps she thought she was helping. But she should have asked first.

 

[Reble]

Try to give her a benefit of a doubt, who knows why, maybe she just wanted some memories.

It is hard and so many things become more important than family.

Maybe more plants will be sent to the home, I guess I would just ignore it, and let them go. Sorry this happened, see what your mom wants to do.

 

[MBennettp]

This was not a misunderstanding, she had already been told that the flowers were to be planted in Mom's yard where she could enjoy them for years to come.

This niece has not bothered to even call either of my parents for months. She was called before Dad died and told she needed to come if she wanted to see him and she had a party to go to so she couldn't come.

I think the disrespect that she has shown pretty much lets us know where she stands.

I do love my niece but I sure don't like her actions.

Mary

 

[Aristocratic Minis]

I am sorry that this has upset you after the funeral of your father.

Some people seem to have a false and overblown sense of entitlement. Since you had so many flowers and since she is a relative, she apparently felt entitled to flowers.

My strategy, without starting a war, would be to call her and say, "Thanks for help transporting some of the plants from the funeral. Mother is ready to receive the plants now. Please bring them over tomorrow at 4."

 

[chandab]

My strategy, without starting a war, would be to call her and say, "Thanks for help transporting some of the plants from the funeral. Mother is ready to receive the plants now. Please bring them over tomorrow at 4."

I like this strategy, and then if that wouldn't work you could get stronger with her.

 

[Witts Mini Horse Ranch]

ah Mary, I am still trying to get over the fact you lost your Dad and I didn't know...(((hugs))) you know I love you and I am here for you...anytime...

 

[AppyLover2]

Just curious Mary.....did your mother get her plants? Sure hope so and that it didn't cause problems.