Is it just me or.......

[Secret22]

Is it just me or does it seem that when people say - "I am leaving this forum because people on here are too much, bla bla bla bla." That they actually mean - "I want attention, someone tell me you don't want me to go, give me attention please!"

Is it just me or is that what they are truly saying??

 

[rabbitsfizz]

When have you seen this happen?????

 

[Secret22]

I have seen people say "I am leaving" because of a flamed up topic they started or even little things like somene said things like "that might not be a good idea" and they have gone and sulked and I think they are just attention seeking personally.

Is it just me or do you think that too?

 

[mininik]

I think that's usually the case!

: I've seen it here and there and am always surprised that someone would let anyone on an INTERNET FORUM get to them.

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[Triggy&Blue&Daisy Too]

Not necessarily. Sometimes people just get fed up with the petty crap and drama so they leave in frustration and anger. Everybody handles things differently and it's not necessarily just a bid for attention. I'd say the drama queens on the forum are more about desperately wanting attention than the ones that get upset or hurt and leave.

 

[user 488]

No need for a flame proof suit! And a very astute observation on your part. I personally see no need in announcing your departure. If you feel the need to take a leave of absence then by all rights do so. Attention, IMO?

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[Secret22]

No need for a flame proof suit! And a very astute observation on your part. I personally see no need in announcing your departure. If you feel the need to take a leave of absence then by all rights do so. Attention, IMO?

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Ditto, no public announcements needed!

 

[Miniv]

No flames here..... and very observant on your part.

There've been times when I've "pulled back" from posting, but didn't say a word.

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MA

 

[lvponies]

No flames from me. I've always thought that people were only looking for attention when they announced they were leaving. If I was mad enough or hurt enough by anything said to me here, I would just leave and not come back. I wouldn't announce it.

 

[nootka]

Usually it's true that they do want to be asked not to go, to maybe "see how much they will be missed" or whatever, but on some occasions, I have seen people post that they would be leaving or not around as much for other reasons, and it wasn't about attention, just being courteous and letting us know they would be around less, etc., the reason and that was about it.

Jenn, for example (hope you don't mind me using you as an example, Jenn), posted that she was going to be away a lot and not around so much when she got pregnant and has had so much going on in her life, how to get ahold of her, etc. I did not for a second think that she wanted extra attention (though don't all new/expecting moms deserve some!), just letting everyone know the reason for her being not around as much if at all and that she was truly just busy doing other things.

I myself recently took a break from the forum for a few days, thinking it might be longer, but I had a few people that I was in PM contact with, and figured they might not know where I'd gone if I just up and left. I wasn't looking for attention, rather I was sort of hoping not to be noticed more than anything else. I was glad the post was removed, in hindsight, and I didn't stay away as long as I thought I would, anyway.

Most of the time, if one is going to be away because they are upset, it's best just to go quietly, and figure things out for yourself.

Liz M.

 

[user 488]

Jenn, for example (hope you don't mind me using you as an example, Jenn), posted that she was going to be away a lot and not around so much when she got pregnant and has had so much going on in her life, how to get ahold of her, etc. I did not for a second think that she wanted extra attention (though don't all new/expecting moms deserve some!), just letting everyone know the reason for her being not around as much if at all and that she was truly just busy doing other things.

I myself recently took a break from the forum for a few days, thinking it might be longer, but I had a few people that I was in PM contact with, and figured they might not know where I'd gone if I just up and left. I wasn't looking for attention, rather I was sort of hoping not to be noticed more than anything else. I was glad the post was removed, in hindsight, and I didn't stay away as long as I thought I would, anyway.

Most of the time, if one is going to be away because they are upset, it's best just to go quietly, and figure things out for yourself.

Liz M.

Liz, I did think of you when I posted earlier. I did not think of your post in the same light as the "whoa is me, I am leaving" thread.

I also feel like you do and did not think Jenn's announcement was for attention either. It was just as you said.......an announcement that she would be busy with other things.

The "BOO HOO, I am leaving cause somebody peed in my Cheerios" threads have a totally different FLAVOR. If you know what I mean.

: They are usually posted by the same people who have "left" the Forum only to return in an hour or so. :lol:

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[shminifancier]

Not necessarily. Sometimes people just get fed up with the petty crap and drama so they leave in frustration and anger. Everybody handles things differently and it's not necessarily just a bid for attention. I'd say the drama queens on the forum are more about desperately wanting attention than the ones that get upset or hurt and leave.

Yes that is very true,,, I left for a short period of time myself awhile back.. Cooled off got my thoughts and head cleared, and things are fine now.

 

[HJF]

Well..I partially agree with you, secret22. I believe it is nice to let everyone know if they are leaving for a while/forever so no one would worry about them...but the "attention seekers" on the other hand, I agree with you all the way

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[Cathy_H]

As I say I have been on here for many many moons.......... Over the years I've seen some post that they were leaving because they got their feelings hurt or didn't like the tone of the board or something like that.... Some I felt may have enjoyed the attention and some I felt may have posted before they thought things through...... I figured the ones that came back realized, "hey, even families have disagreements "...... Some people just left without saying anything - time has a way of changing people's priorities. Occasionally there will be a reason to remember a person that used to be an active poster & I wonder how they are doing & if they are at least reading............ Also as stated, some leave for understandable reasons & were just letting forum members know................. The only thing consistant about a forum is that it is consistantly changing as people come & go.

 

[runamuk]

I would like to formally announce I am leaving the board

ha just kidding :bgrin :bgrin I get fed up alot it is a personality trait.......I also get busy with my actual life and forget that someone might care......not that this happens often most people barely notice me when I am on here daily

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: ok so smart arse is another trait....

I see some of those and think the same thing......they want attention....good or bad.....the darn teenagers :bgrin :bgrin :bgrin

then there are the people who disappear without a trace and I wonder where they went.......this is my online aka virtual life...so I know that things happen...heck a computer crash can take one off the map in a hurry

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no flame suit needed.......

suppose I ought to post my good news

: or maybe I shall just leave any who notice my existence in suspense :new_shocked:

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[Triggy&Blue&Daisy Too]

The "BOO HOO, I am leaving cause somebody peed in my Cheerios" threads have a totally different FLAVOR. If you know what I mean.

: They are usually posted by the same people who have "left" the Forum only to return in an hour or so. :lol:

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Well I guess I don't want to know what you mean about the flavor as I prefer my Cheerios unpeed on thanks

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[Secret22]

Thank god the flame proof suit isn't needed, I was a tad scared

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[MiniHoofBeats]

I for one really enjoy this forum specifically because it is mostly uppetty and happy!! Yeah a few tragic threads come in now and then, we all know about those due to deaths and losses....but again, I like it that we don't have drama queens pointing out particular people and badmouthing them daily, etc. etc. I agree and admit that even I took some time away from this board because I was upset, but I didn't make a big thread about it and cry and b**** and moan because no one understood me right...that happens all the time to me! lol!!

but here I am back and better than before, couldn't live without this forum!!! I love it and i like everyone on it!

 

[Secret22]

Yes I luve this forum too.