Just blowing off steam....

[Jesper]

Adam, you are who you are, a good honest person, anyone calling you different because you have another sexuality then them are either ignorant or afraid of the "unknown".

I have felt lots of what you feel on my own body and it is not fun at all, and you can end up very depressed if you let it get to you, so keep your head high and move on, ignore them, you know better.

People can be so cruel and evil out of ignorance and fear, it wont ever change, but if you think it is going to affect your judging (because of rumours) then tell whoever is above you, about the rumours and get be aware of the rumours before anyone claims you favor some over others because they have a different sexuality.

 

[txminipinto]

Adam,

You are a wonderful person, no matter who you love. I had a family member that would not admit to us that he was gay. We all knew he was, with the exception of his mother (my aunt) who stayed in denial. No one talked about it as it was non issue for the rest of us (of course, it was an issue for my aunt so it was kept quiet out of respect to her as well).

Anyway, my cousin died from AIDS. He was someone I was very close to and I miss him terribly (it's been over 10 years). I swore the day he died, that I would never judge another human being for being different. I don't care if you are gay, black, purple, or have 3 heads. If you are a good person, and you treat others well, you're ok in my book. If you don't treat others well, then I don't have time for you regardless of who you are or what you look like.

No one can turn someone else gay or straight if that's not who they really are.

Just be true to yourself and forget the others!!

 

[alongman]

Thanks everyone! I do appreciate the kind words. I did call and visit with the chair of the judges' committee - it seems that they had already been informed of my "activity" but have decided to let it pass unless additional complaints are brought forward. I guess, if anything, they are persistent. As for me, I'm letting it slide - I do hope that people will continue to respect my judging. Also, I do offer my advice (free of charge...lol)

 

[Denise]

There are so many idiots in this world it is amazing. I surround myself with people like you, honest and sincere, not shallow, fake, gossip monger backstabbers. If it we're me I'd tell them to kiss my fat fanny!

You just have to let it roll off of your shoulders and ignore them.

 

[Buckskin gal]

So sorry that you have to deal with something like this for you really seem to be a good and caring person. What Lisa says can be so very true and dealing with stuff like this can only make us stronger and more understanding of life. All lessons in life. Cheer up and keep up the good work you do. Mary

Hey Adam,
[ I also hate when you are open and honest with someone because you care, and then they turn around and stab you in the back. Sorry you are going through this right now, but keep your head up. You know that you are a good person!

 

[StarRidgeAcres]

Adam,

I'm SO sorry this has happened. I have so many things I feel and want to say about this, I just don't know where to begin.

First of all, you did the RIGHT thing! This young adult needed some guidance and you provided honest feedback based on your personal experiences. Nothing more. I personally struggled (may have even posted about it on here) this last year with my own concerns regarding this exact person and feeling like they were being made to feel like they should deny who they are. I just wanted to take them aside and say "it's OK. Be honest with your family and friends." The struggle this person was having was so obvious it was painful to watch. The mothering instinct in me was going crazy!! I just wanted to hug them and tell them everything was going to be OK. So, I'm thrilled to hear that you were sought out and that you were able to help!

Now, the horrible part is you are being punished by some who either think they know the truth (and don't) OR who just want to take this as an opportunity to bash someone. I personally have my opinion as to which it is.

Adam, I've heard the rumors, I know the people involved and I'm so sorry this has happened. You are a bright, young, honest, loving, hard-working man. Do NOT let anyone else try to convince you otherwise. It's based in negativity and it will only be harmful to them in the longrun. Try to distance yourself and hold your head high!

And, one last thought. For ANYONE to suggest you let your personal friendships, etc. direct your judging is JUST PLAIN WRONG! It totally *$#%'s me off!

Ok, I'm gonna stop now before my blood boils over!

 

[Magic]

Adam, I'm sorry that you are having to go thru this.

It seems that there are always people eager to spread vicious rumors, and always more ready to believe the worst, sigh...

Hang in there!

 

[Matt73]

Stay strong Adam.

 

[alongman]

Thanks guys! Parmela, I knew that you would probably be in tune with something going on.... Matt, how was the vacation?!

 

[Rachel]

Adam, I am sorry this is happening to you right now.

There are just a lot of stupid people in this world and to me, it sounds like there may be some jealousy playing into the situation. Stay strong. I have certainly not heard any of these rumors and hope I don't. You will get through this! Look at all the support you have - even here there is a lot!

 

[Kitty]

I just saw this or I would have added my two pennies worth

Adam knows we like him

and I respect him as a trainer. I haven't had the torture of him being a judge yet but I look forward to it

I do know that the horse world and particularly the mini horse world is very small and if you make one person mad or somethings happens it haunts you like a bad dream.

Just keep accurate records "just in case" and although you probably give great advice, I would probably sit back and think about it if it happened again. I only mention that because it has happened to me and know I am more leary of "getting bit in the backside again"

 

[Connie P]

Adam,

Although I do not know you at all, I appreciate your honesty and being true to yourself. Please do not stop showing or judging just because of rumors or nasty people. Then they win. Keep on keeping on!!

 

[NoddalottaFarm]

Hi Adam! I don't know you personally, but from what I have read, it seems you have a *lot* of friends! The world is full of people who are ignorant and you have to let them keep on walking. I had an uncle who was gay, and he died hiding that 'secret'. I was so angry at him for his thinking he couldn't tell us. I worked in an office with 3 lesbian women whom I felt more connected to than the hetero gals. One of them has adopted 3 special needs children and they are the most tight-knit family I know. The boys (and one therapy dog) handed out bubbles at my wedding.

My co-workers and I got to the point where we shared everything. Nothing was 'off topic' and we learned a LOT from each other. I don't work there anymore and I miss the everyday connection we had. I am also in the model horse hobby and I can tell you one of the BEST sculptor/painters in the hobby is gay. He is simply AMAZING in his art and friendly to anyone who says a happy hello to him! Though there is a difference in the model horse hobby when it comes to judging. A judge cannot judge a class that has a model he/she created or a family member showing. It works the best for everyone because then no one thinks there's any favorites being played.

I just don't understand why people don't embrace differences. There's so much more in the world today to worry about and to fear. Live life to the fullest. Let the bigots pass you by. Smile and be proud of who you are. Love your mate. You don't care that I like boys, so why should I care that you do too? I would tend to think that would give us more in common.

 

[A Yankee In NC]

Hey Adam,

I am sorry that all the good you did has caused so much turmoil.

Frankly, I just do not understand the thought process of those who just do not undertand homosexuality.

I moved south (the bible belt) almost 2 years ago after living on Central CT for all of my adult life.

I am just stunned sometimes by the way people talk about homosexualty......(showing their ignorance).

Keep strong in your stance....

el