Just need to vent a little

[FoRebel]

I got a call tonight from my mom... She told me that my grandpa, who I've called dad almost my entire life, is having chest pains when he goes on his daily walks :no: . It's bad when he actually tells someone about it too.

To give a little background: 1988 he had a heart attack... Died twice on us... The blood thinner they gave him in the hospital has made his skin bruise and bleed easily since 1988. So he's had some problems with that. The doctors have done a few angiograms on him... the last was in the spring. They found that there is 90-95% blockages in the corroddeds (sp?) and that they really didn't want to mess with it. He's had some problems with cholesterol, blood presures and prostate stuff too. :no:

Back to the call... My mom also tells me that dad slipped on a patch of ice and fell on the driveway hill in the backyard today. He did the same thing last year and ended up with a bruise on his arse 3x the size of his wallet

: So she called to tell me to prepare for this being his last Christmas, etc.

I am getting married in May and dad is supposed to be walking me down the isle... Hoping he's going to make it that far. All in all, I am concerned. My mom and I are the only ones that aren't going to be complete basket cases when this finally happens, so she and I will be taking care of EVERYTHING.

: This whole thing makes me nutty! My mom's siblings are completely incompetent when it comes to something like this!! And now my mom tells me that she doesn't want me to tell the hubby-to-be what's going on with dad! He's an EMT, if something would happen while we were around hubby-to-be and I would be taking care of it !ARGH!

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Sorry, Just had to vent to someone!

 

[Voodoo]

I'm sorry for everything you're going through. Just wishing you the best, and that no matter the time that is left to you and your Dad you make the most of it. ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

 

[dreammountainminis]

I totally agree No matter how bad things get enjoy every second you have and go day by day.. There is always alot of should haves and could haves and would haves , Hind sight is 20/20 . And most importantly enjoy the little things. I hope things work out . Maybe your dad needs to wear a styrofoam donut on his bum that way if he falls there is a little padding there...lol Take care and god bless

 

[Jill]

My heart really goes out to you. I know how close I am to my dad, and how somethings hurt to much to even think about.

For whatever it is worth, I do think you should tell your fiance if you want to. There's not anything I know that I won't tell Harvey. That's part of being married. Plus, as you point out, he's got medical training and it could be important for him to know for this reason and he may have some helpful insight.

 

[rabbitsfizz]

I am so sorry.

You need to sit your mother down and have a good talk- I am sure the only reason she wanted to exclude you SO was to protect him- she had not actually thought any further, and, with his skills he actually needs to know!!!

This , I am sure, will make you feel a bit better, and, Hey, Doctors get it wrong all the time, this might be MY last Christmas, or God forbid, Yours- we just do not know.#

Just go on as usual- your Dad plans on walking you down the aisle and my guess is he will do.

God Bless, Jane

 

[Marnie]

I'm so sorry Tiff, he's such a neat guy. He may have alot of years left too, a person just doesnt' know but I agree that you should live every day to it's fullest. I don't understand why your mom doesn't want you to tell your fiancee, I'd think in an emergencey, if he's up on things, he can act quicker on your dad, it could be seconds that save his life. I think you should re-address this issue with her now, of course, maybe she has her reasons for wanting to keep it quiet, I don't know. Tiff, you're lucky to have your mom by your side and hopefully, grandpa will be there too, for a long, long time.

 

[FoRebel]

Thanks everyone! I just needed to vent. I told Jason last night just so he knows what's going on if something happens to Dad while we're around. I just find it hard to deal with myself because in 1995 (we've lived with Grandma and Grandpa since 1986) I watched my Grandma ("dad's" wife) die from brain cancer. I just have a really hard time dealing with things like this because of what happened with Grandma.

Marnie- I'll have to send you pictures of Dad and Kissy.... She follows him all over the pasture! She acts like she's a mini donkey dog.... :lol: