My Daughter lost her baby "Again"

[Shortpig]

My daughter was sure this would be the one. We were all so excited. After having three miscarriages we were all just so excited. But it wasn't to be. On Thursday she started cramping at work. I took off and got her to the Dr. Sure enough no heartbeat. Then on Friday morning I had to call an ambulance and have her rushed to the Hospital. We just don't understand why this keeps happening and neither does her Dr. This is the 4th baby she has lost. My heart just breaks for her. I know there is a reason we just don't know what it is so can't fix it.

We got thru Christmas best we could. I am so looking forward to 2011. I want to put this year behind us.

To those of you who have been blessed with children. Hug them tight and never let them go. Please add my daughter and son-in-law to your prayers. They really need all the prayers they can get.

 

[RockRiverTiff]

I am so sorry for all of you. How devastating. Is their a specialist that her doctor can recommend to get some answers? My heart and prayers go out to your daughter and her husband.

 

[Shari]

I am so sorry about this Marie. Will keep them in my prayers.

Has the Doc checked to see if your daughter's and her husband's blood type is compatible? Forgot what they call this issue but sure their Doc would know.

Had a relative with this problem but they only found out after going to a specialist.

Later, your daughter and husband, could think about adopting. There are many babies and children in this world in need of a good home. ((Hugs))

 

[cretahillsgal]

I am so very sorry. I know the pain that they are going thru.

 

[Reble]

So sorry, thinking of your family and wishing you a better New Year.

I will put them on my prayer list.

 

[Crabby-Chicken]

Oh I wish I could say something to make it better. I am so very sorry.

 

[Marsha Cassada]

I'm so sorry. Our son and dil have lost one child to miscarriage and one to cancer. It is a heartbreak. May 2011 be a better year for you all.

 

[Miniv]

My heart goes out to your daughter.........I also know the heartbreak of several miscarriages (and having the doctors not having any answers.) Sending prayers......

 

[ErikaS.]

I am so sorry for your daughters loss

. It's heart- wrenching and frustrating and I know because I, too, had at least 4 miscarriages before I was able to carry my son to term. I was diagnosed after my fourth confirmed miscarriage with 2 forms of thrombophilia(blood clotting disorder) which is managable and I was able to have my son and recently, my daughter. I hope she can find some answers. My prayers go out to you and your family.

 

[Ashley]

I would strongly suggest a specialist.

If she is able to get pregnant but isnt keeping it there is a strong chance its something that can be fixed.

I would look at things like the blood compat, checking hormone levels(if there not right there are drugs to take to substain a pregnancy)and other things. A specialist can look at any trends in her past pregnacys as well as do a full work up to find problems. Many times regular doctors dont know or think of the things that specialists do.

My sympathy to your daughter.

 

[HGFarm]

Oh how sad, lots of hugs to you and your family. Some folks just can't carry kids. It's just Mother Nature's way. I knew someone who could not have children, so they adopted two (who look AMAZINGLY like them- no one would know they are not their own) and then she got pregnant! However, the baby was born with such severe heart defects he was not expected to make it very long... it was heartbreaking. So sometimes there is a reason why this happens.

I feel for your family, and it must be an emotional roller coaster. I'm so sorry.

 

[shorthorsemom]

My heart goes out to you.

I ditto the specialist recommendation.

There are high risk OB specialists. They blood test and monitor you very closely, take blood samples to monitor the slightest change in your hormone levels. There are also many tests they can do before you are even thinking of getting pregnant to be sure everything is ok from the start. It will take time to heal. I know how hard this time is for her. I wish somebody had told me about going to a specialist sooner. best wishes.

 

[vickie gee]

So very sorry. This has to be very devastating. My nephew's wife miscarried some years ago after years of trying to conceive. They were heart broken. They finally got their child! They are the biological parents of a ten year old boy which HER SISTER carried in her womb for 9 months. Much can be done with modern medicine. I agree they need to see a specialist.

 

[Frankie]

I am so very sorry your family has gone through this. I pray the doctors can find some answers for all of you.

 

[Katiean]

The farthest I have carried a baby was 8 months. They have all died. I myself was a DES affected baby. I know what she is going through. My heart goes out to her. Sorry for your loss.

 

[Shortpig]

Thank you all so very much. She has had all the tests they could administer. They haven't been able to come up with a reason for this to happen. The heart just seems to stop beating. I really really don't understand. It is absolutely nothing she does. I find it hard to accept this as God's wish it has to be something else. Maybe someday we will find out what is going on but all the tests say everything is normal.

 

[REO]

Oh Marie, I'm so sorry! Once is hurtful enough, but 4 is devastating! You'd think they could figure out why and help her. I'm so sorry! {{{Hugs}}}

 

[Jill]

I'm so sorry

H and I also had 4 and I know it is really hard

:No-Sad

 

[Equuisize]

I'm sorry to all of you that have faced this loss and your families, too.

It is heart wrenching.

I don't know if it's encouraging or not but one of my

former 4H girls, that I am close with, had a baby at age 21.

She and her husband are both police officers, physcially fit and active.

She had 8 miscarriages after her daughter was born.

No apparent reason the specialists could find.

They finally just gave it up and let it be what it was.

She became pregnant and had a 100% normal pregnancy and gave

birth to a bouncing baby boy. He's now 10.

 

[Riverrose28]

I am so sorry to hear of your families lose. I see that you are on the west coast, but if somehow she and her husband could get to the east they should look into Johns Hopkins in Baltimore. They have performed miracles. never give up hope, some day it will happen, and you will be amazed.