My sons ex g.f. called me earlier tonight.. HELP!!!!!!

[Yaddax3]

Ask yourself this:

What was the ex-girlfriend's motivation for calling you but not your son?

She had to know this would cause pain and stress for you.

If you haven't done it already, you need to call your son. Now.

Don't yell at him. Save that for another day. Just tell him about your conversation with the ex.

Maybe the ex is lying.

You know your son. You'll know if he's being straight with you.

If he does have two pregnant women in his life, it's his mess to sort out.

You can offer to help. But, if his ex and his wife are pregnant, he has shown he is manly. Now he has to show that he is man enough to deal with it.

 

[Mona]

OMG, I feel so bad for you, and for Kendra! But, that said, if I were you, and knowing me, I would definately say something. I would first tell my son I know he fooled around with Susan and that she is now pregnant, supposedly with his child. (I too would want to have proof of parentage!) I would tell him he has ____ days to tell Kendra, and if he has not, you will.

You say you love Kendra like a daughter...that does not have to change just because your son was unfaithful to her. If you know she would leave him if she found out, then maybe it is best, as they are likely riding the edge anyway. I am sure once you explain your feelings to Kendra, she will understand, and will be glad you told her, and she will be happy to allow you to continue sharing in your grandchildren's lives.

One more thing to consider...seems your son was only caught with his pants down because he apparently got someone pregnant, but how many other times, and how many other women has he done this with? With the concerns of STDs and AIDS and such, I would SURELY want to know if my spouse was fooling around on me, for the sake of my health, and in Kendra's case, for not only the sake of HER health, but for that of her unborn child also!

I wish there was something I could do for you. (((((HUGS)))))

 

[MInx]

First of all I am the mother and grand mother of girls, but also grand mother of my three boys I love very much.

I can tell you this is NOT your burden to bear even though it has been thrust upon you..no matter what anyone thinks of Susan, it is your son who made the biggest mistake here!

HE is married, not Susan and yes it was wrong for her to get involved with him but he needs to learn to say NO!

It's a no win situation least of all the chilfren involved. Sad..

Perhaps he and his wife Kendra could get some counseling and keep them together which could take years but worth it..

Not my place to give advice but I hate to see you so hurt and overwhelmed by his actions..I think you'd better make him stand up and take care of it, it's high time.

 

[Just Us N Texas]

I join the ranks of the other ladies that insist you talk to your son right away. After all he is YOUR son, and the other girl is an ex. Give him the benefit of a doubt! Sounds to me as if she is a troublemaker, and will do anything to hook someone into support for this poor little unborn child of hers. It could be her fiancee's. One thing for sure, you won't know just whose baby this is till DNA is done.

Think of it this way, why would you tell your DIL, cause a lot of pain and heartache in the family, and a lot of trouble, that may be for nil. Talk to your son first, and I am sure as a mother, you can tell whether he is telling the truth, or lieing to you. If he insists, and you believe that the baby is not his, make sure a DNA is done, and then deal with it from there.