Ours,his, mine and others

[MBhorses]

Hello,

I was just wanting to know who all out there is raising your own children, you or your husband/wife children and someone else children.

Example.

My husband and I have ours, his, mine and others. My husband has a son by his first wife. I have a son by my first, we have a daugther together and now we are raising my neice who is 9 yrs old. My husband adopt my son when he was younger. My children said it is not uncommon now days to have ours, his, mine and others in your house. Don't get me worry it is alot of work it you know what i mean.

If some of you would like to talk about your family like ours with us it would be nice to know we are not the only ones out here like this.

take care,

Happy holidays.

Melissa

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[Miniv]

Hi Melissa,

We have a rather different family from some......But all of the kids are OUR'S.

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Over a number of years we have fostered 19 kids........All are now grown, most are married and have moved on. Two have chosen to stay close by and they are the two that lived with us the longest (4 to 5+ years). We consider them OUR GIRLS and the one that has married and has had kids -- it is understood we are their GRANDPARENTS. The two oldest call us "Grammy and Grampy".

What's also nice is those two girls have at least one parent we have come to know and we all are friends. And the rest of the grown kids we've had will periodically check in with us, but we are more like friends from different generations, if that makes sense.......

Last, but not least........we have our daughter. Like me, she was adopted at birth. And interestingly enough, the age difference between us and between MY mother and me is the same. I also feel the relationship is the same. My mother and I were even closer than a biological connection........and I feel our daughter is like that too........She's the daughter of our Heart and Soul.........In a way, things have come full circle..... And in way, I very much feel my mother had a hand in it.

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MA

 

[MBhorses]

Miniv,

ALL THE CHILDREN ARE OURS, BUT I WAS SAYING OURS, HIS, MINE AND OTHERS TO GIVE EVERYONE A IDEAL OF OUR FAMILY. WE LOVE EACH AND EVERYONE OF OUR CHILDREN.

THANKS FOR TALKING ABOUT YOURS.

MY CHILDREN JOKE TO OTHERS ABOUT OUR FAMILY AS OURS, HIS, MINE AND OTHERS, BECAUSE THEY KNOW THEY ALL BELONG TO US.There is not alot of families out there with their children , plus someone else chidlren (that we know).OUR FAMILY IS LIKE A SOAP STORY SOMETIMES.MY SISTER TOLD US IT TAKES SPECIAL PEOPLE TO TAKE ON SOMEONE ELSES CHILDREN.I HOPE IN THE FUTURE MORE PEOPLE TAKE ON OTHER CHILDREN IN NEED WEATHER IT BE OURS, HIS, MINE OR OTHERS. I HAVE TWO BROTHERS AND STEP SISTER AND STEP DAD, BUT MY STEP DAD IS THE ONLY DAD I HAVE EVER KNOW(SO IN MY EYES HE IS MY DADDY)I AM TRYING TO TELL PEOPLE IT IS OKAY TO HAVE DIFFERENT FAMILY THEN OTHERS, BUT NO ONE IS JUST ALIKE.

TAKE CARE,

MERRY CHRISTMAS.

MELISSA

 

[PaintedPromiseRanch]

when my husband and i got married almost 7 years ago, i had 3 girls ages 9, 11 and 17, and he had 2 boys ages 8 and 11 who we had custody of... and people were constantly asking us if we were going to have kids "together". as if 5 kids wasn't enough to begin with! I just would look at them and say yes, we are going to take HIS kids and MY kids and put them TOGETHER!!! not to mention that it was physically impossible for me to have any more children, but i certainly would not have wanted to start all over again with our youngest at 8 and the oldest almost 18! now we have one married and gone at 24, 2 about to graduate high school (and leave for college?? or maybe stay home and go close...) we are really looking forward to our "empty nest" which of course will never be empty with all the minis!!!

anyway just my story and my opinion, not meant to offend anyone who would or did have more kids, more power to you!! i just know it would not have been right for us...

 

[FoRebel]

I really respect you Melissa :aktion033: . It DOES take a special person to take on someone else's child and to raise that child as your own. We have a situation here where I have my 3 yr old son from my first marriage and he will be adopted by my fiance after we're married. But we'll end up with all ours since my hubby-to-be is adopting my son.

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[Reble]

We raised His, Mine and Ours.

Hubby, when we met, had a 10 month old son, which we got full custody :aktion033:

I had a 2 year old daughter which he adopted .

Both had been married before.

Than we had two girls of our own.

They grew up always knowing they had other biological parents.

Which now they do see at times. Not too often.... :new_shocked:

Our Children are now, 21, 29, 31, 33 still we are all together for Thanksgiving and Christmas as a family.......

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Plus 3 beautiful grandchildren ages 45 days old / 2 years old, and 15 years old in two days.... :bgrin

Bless them all

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[strass]

I mentioned on another thread that I had custody of my younger sister in her teen years. She had already moved out when my wife and I started dating.

We have a 12 year old son that is "hers".

I've not sired any foals of my own (that I know of

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[backwoodsnanny]

Well I dont know if this qualifies or not but I have 6 grandchildren 4 are biological and 2 are truly not related except in my heart. They all have a different mix of parents but all are equal at Nana's house. When our children were young we raised one of my husband's cousins who had no where else to go and later my daughter's best friend came for the weekend and stayed 6 years. We have been a temporary stopping off point sometimes for a few days sometimes for a few weeks for many of our children's friends many still stay in touch even though our children are 37 and 33 now. Just last year our oldest grandson came for a few months to learn some life skills he is now on his own and doing fine sometimes it just takes a place to get a new perspective.

 

[ForMyACDs]

i was the oldest of 8. I had a sister, a half-sister, a step-sister, a half-brother and three step-brothers.

myself? i had enough with helping raise my siblings......i'm NOT having any kids of my own. besides, it's pretty apparent with my other siblings that poor parenting runs in the family and i wouldn't put ANY child thru that. i would make an awful mother.

 

[TangoMango]

We are raising OURS. Not much divorce in either of our families. Both my hubbys and my parents are still together. Brothers, sisters, Grandparents, aunts and uncles. I think we only have like 2 or 3 divorces total, in several generations in both our families combined.

 

[MBhorses]

We enjoy you all stories.

My acds, I am sure you will be a great mother.

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Everyone would love to have the their parents to stay married, but sometimes it don't work that way.

Thanks MELISSA

 

[lilhorseladie]

You can see our mixed family in the avitar. My husband's son is now 21. I have three sons, 13, 12 and 10. We have a daughter who is now 5. At the moment my 27 year old baby brother is living with us, does that count?

 

[ForMyACDs]

We enjoy you all stories.

My acds, I am sure you will be a great mother.

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nope, i can guarantee that. i don't have much patience (my husband is even worse) and i can't stand most kids.......their squeeky voices are like a chalkboard to me.

nope, i know my limitations.......at least i'm smart enough not to have 'em.

 

[MBhorses]

Lilhorseladie,

YES BROTHERS COUNT.

MELISSA

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[Pandora]

We enjoy you all stories.

My acds, I am sure you will be a great mother.

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nope, i can guarantee that. i don't have much patience (my husband is even worse) and i can't stand most kids.......their squeeky voices are like a chalkboard to me.

nope, i know my limitations.......at least i'm smart enough not to have 'em.

I know what you mean about not standing most kids. I have no patience for them at all either. I figure my cousins will have kids, and I can spoil those. :lol: My fiance and I have accumulated 5 cats, 1 dog and all the horses, which I don't count anymore. That's enough for us!

 

[runamuk]

We enjoy you all stories.

My acds, I am sure you will be a great mother.

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nope, i can guarantee that. i don't have much patience (my husband is even worse) and i can't stand most kids.......their squeeky voices are like a chalkboard to me.

nope, i know my limitations.......at least i'm smart enough not to have 'em.

yep that was exactly how I felt before and admittedly on occasion after I had mine :bgrin :bgrin

I too think you would be a great parent, and you learn patience from children...well actually it is more like over time they wear you down until you don't notice anything short of a bomb going off

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And for the original question it is just OURs we have 2 sons no divorces, priors etc.......

 

[Camelotcavs]

I have three daughters from a previous marriage; Jessica (23), Emily (19) and Rebecca (17).

My Husband has three daughters also: Halie (18), Brittany (16) and Courtney (14).

His youngest was 7 when we married. We discussed having an "our", but then came to our senses!

The most difficult job I have ever done is to be a step mother.

 

[lilhorseladie]

I have three daughters from a previous marriage; Jessica (23), Emily (19) and Rebecca (17).

My Husband has three daughters also: Halie (18), Brittany (16) and Courtney (14).

His youngest was 7 when we married. We discussed having an "our", but then came to our senses!

The most difficult job I have ever done is to be a step mother.

Almost the Brady bunch

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