LindaL
Well-Known Member
Those of you who know me know that I struggle...its not easy being "me"...But this past year I have really focused on myself and how to live my life more positively. I have to "recharge" sometimes, because life does get in the way and and sometimes "obstacles" make me lose my focus...but not for long!
A friend of mine posted this on her blog and I thought it was so appropriate for my own life and wanted to share it with you...
Wisdom
A time comes in your life when you finally get it.....
.....when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity
you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere
the voice inside your head cries out...ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling
to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a
tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look
at the world through new eyes.You realize it's time to
stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or
for happiness, safety and security to magically appear
over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren't always
fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of
"happily ever after" must begin with you... ..and in
the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and
that not everyone will always love, appreciate or
approve of who or what you are... and that's OK. They
are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing
yourself... and in the process a sense of new found
confidence is born of self-approval. You stop
complaining and blaming other people for the things
they did to you - or didn't do for you - and you learn
that the only thing you can really count on is the
unexpected.
You realize that people don't always say what they
mean or mean what they say, that not everyone will
always be there for you and that everything isn't
always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own
and to take care of yourself... and in the process a
sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to
accept people as they are and to overlook their
shortcomings and human frailties... in the process a
sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to different points of view. You
begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what
you really stand for. You feel the power and glory in
creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering
through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your
next fix.
You begin to experience that principles, such as
honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a
bygone era, but the mortar that holds together
the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You realize that you don't know everything. It's not
your job to save the world, you can't teach a pig to
sing.
You realize that the only cross to bear is the one you
choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the
stake. Then you learn about love. You look at
relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be. You learn that alone does not mean
lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and
outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and
responsibility and the importance of setting
boundaries and learning to say NO. You also stop
working so hard at putting your feelings aside,
smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and
uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And,
just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth
working for and that wishing for something to happen
is different than working toward making it happen.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander
it living under a cloud of impending doom. ....
.... life isn't always fair, you don't always get what
you think you deserve, sometimes bad things happen to
unsuspecting, good people... you learn not to always
take it personally.
You realize that nobody's punishing you. It's just
life happening. Suddenly you can admit when you are
wrong and learn to build bridges instead of walls. You
feel that negative feelings such as anger, envy and
resentment must be understood and redirected or they
will suffocate the life out of you.
You become thankful and to take comfort in many simple
things we take for granted, things that millions of
people upon the earth can only dream about: a full
refrigerator, clean running water, a
soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by
yourself and you make yourself a promise to never
betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less
than your heart's desire. You make it a point to keep
smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every
wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can
listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand,
you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the
life you want to live as best you can.
A friend of mine posted this on her blog and I thought it was so appropriate for my own life and wanted to share it with you...
Wisdom
A time comes in your life when you finally get it.....
.....when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity
you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere
the voice inside your head cries out...ENOUGH!
Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling
to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a
tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look
at the world through new eyes.You realize it's time to
stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or
for happiness, safety and security to magically appear
over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren't always
fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of
"happily ever after" must begin with you... ..and in
the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and
that not everyone will always love, appreciate or
approve of who or what you are... and that's OK. They
are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing
yourself... and in the process a sense of new found
confidence is born of self-approval. You stop
complaining and blaming other people for the things
they did to you - or didn't do for you - and you learn
that the only thing you can really count on is the
unexpected.
You realize that people don't always say what they
mean or mean what they say, that not everyone will
always be there for you and that everything isn't
always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own
and to take care of yourself... and in the process a
sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to
accept people as they are and to overlook their
shortcomings and human frailties... in the process a
sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to different points of view. You
begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what
you really stand for. You feel the power and glory in
creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering
through life merely as a "consumer" looking for your
next fix.
You begin to experience that principles, such as
honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a
bygone era, but the mortar that holds together
the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You realize that you don't know everything. It's not
your job to save the world, you can't teach a pig to
sing.
You realize that the only cross to bear is the one you
choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the
stake. Then you learn about love. You look at
relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be. You learn that alone does not mean
lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and
outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and
responsibility and the importance of setting
boundaries and learning to say NO. You also stop
working so hard at putting your feelings aside,
smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and
uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And,
just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth
working for and that wishing for something to happen
is different than working toward making it happen.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander
it living under a cloud of impending doom. ....
.... life isn't always fair, you don't always get what
you think you deserve, sometimes bad things happen to
unsuspecting, good people... you learn not to always
take it personally.
You realize that nobody's punishing you. It's just
life happening. Suddenly you can admit when you are
wrong and learn to build bridges instead of walls. You
feel that negative feelings such as anger, envy and
resentment must be understood and redirected or they
will suffocate the life out of you.
You become thankful and to take comfort in many simple
things we take for granted, things that millions of
people upon the earth can only dream about: a full
refrigerator, clean running water, a
soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by
yourself and you make yourself a promise to never
betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less
than your heart's desire. You make it a point to keep
smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every
wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can
listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand,
you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the
life you want to live as best you can.
