After a lot of research, I have chosen to go with a hahn's macaw, in the mini macaw family. At maturity, it is about the size of a sun conure and approximately the same life expectancy as the conures, unlike the large macaws that can live 80+ years.
Please, no flames, I know there are rescues, but considering we are a family and there are multiple people here, I chose a baby. It will be just shy of 5 months when we get it. whatever it becomes, good or bad, will be by our own doing, not because we received it with "baggage" from the start. If the kids were grown and out of the house, I may have considered taking on a "project" bird from a rescue, but since it will be my daughter's and will be a part of the entire family, i thought this would be the wisest decision so it could grow with us. Come summer, The breeder will be holding it for two extra weeks until our vacation is over. I did not wan to bring it home for her birthday just to leave for vacation a short time later and leave it in the care someone else figuring it was a crucial bonding period.
So onto the next issue, a cage.....Lol. I know what I want to get her, expensive, but looking at the long term picture. Looking into a 36"x36" x24". For the birdie people out there, what have you preferred for the bottom of the cage, a pull out tray with paper and newspaper put through the shedder for them to toy with, easy to change each day, or have you preferred to have a grate in the bottom above the pull out tray? The cages are custom, and I would hate to spend the extra $100 on the grate if many of you feel they are just a PIA to deal with. Opinions please!
Glad I have a few months to work out the details