RockRiverTiff
Well-Known Member
I am in the middle of a silent family crisis right now. A certain key figure in the family is having what appears to be a personality disorder. We know that it runs in the family, and she has been showing symptoms for quite a while, but recently it has gotten worse than ever. This person used to be very generous, loving, and compassionate, but now they are prone to very cruel outbursts of criticism and general negativity. Anyone that tries to tell her she needs help is shut out of her life, so everyone else remains quiet. In fact, most of the family does not even communicate with her anymore, which only exacerbates the problem by making her lonely and thus depressed. She has become suspicious of everyone and is withdrawing more and more.
I can't bring myself to cut ties like everyone else, but I don't know how to help her either. Because I'm the only person that's around anymore, I absorb all of her bitterness. Sometimes it starts as soon as I walk in the door and continues until I leave. I feel like every time I'm with her there is less and less of the person I know and love and more of the new person she's becoming. Friends have suggested I speak to her doctor, but she sees as little of him as possible, and I know since she is his patient and I'm not they have a confidentiality agreement and are not obligated to listen to me. Furthermore, I worry if I do try to help that she will shut me out too, and I can't stand to think of what would happen if she was totally alone.
I feel like I'm stuck and would really appreciate advise from anyone else that's dealt with something similar.
I can't bring myself to cut ties like everyone else, but I don't know how to help her either. Because I'm the only person that's around anymore, I absorb all of her bitterness. Sometimes it starts as soon as I walk in the door and continues until I leave. I feel like every time I'm with her there is less and less of the person I know and love and more of the new person she's becoming. Friends have suggested I speak to her doctor, but she sees as little of him as possible, and I know since she is his patient and I'm not they have a confidentiality agreement and are not obligated to listen to me. Furthermore, I worry if I do try to help that she will shut me out too, and I can't stand to think of what would happen if she was totally alone.
I feel like I'm stuck and would really appreciate advise from anyone else that's dealt with something similar.