My ponies learn to put their own halters on right away. I don't like a hard to catch pony or one that I have to wrestle into the halter. I did just as described above with cookies
I do the same with bridling.
@MajorClementine actually what your horse is doing can be very helpful with bridling. You may want to bend over and lower your bridle to ground level. Offer it there. It's so much better to have them bring their head down to bridle rather than putting their nose up in the air!
Also, I think it's important to honor their feelings about what we are doing. So, when I harness Zorro, if he doesn't have his nose stuffed into a feeder of hay, I will offer him each piece of harness before I put it on him. If he touches the harness with his nose he will get a treat and then I put that piece on him. If he doesn't touch the harness I wait until he is ready. I know people think they will never be ready but that's just not so. His feelings change from one moment to the next. If he needs me to move a little slower one day or for certain parts of the harness then I do! He always turns his head and touches the parts eventually. Here is a video where I show how to harness a pony. You will see me offer him the harness parts before putting them on him. Then I forget and you can see his expression when I do that!!
@ 1:07 you'll see me offer him the first part of the harness
@2:12 you'll see him reach out his lip a little bit to touch the collar
@3:14 you'll see me bridle him
@6:48 I forgot to ask for permission!!
I think you'll find if you slow things down and ask a little first they will start to bring their heads around and be involved in the process. Whether that is haltering, bridling, harnessing, or even brushing.
I wrote a blog post about my grooming process in the winter time which is drastically different than my grooming process in the summer!
What brushes do I use in the winter time?
I have a challenge group on Facebook and we track ALL our hours spent with our ponies. Hiking, walking, driving, grooming, feeding, trimming feet, etc. I think it's fun to watch those minutes and hours add up as well! There are so many of us that don't have a lot of time to drive or hike with our ponies but we still spend quality time with them grooming, cleaning their area, feeding, etc. Every moment spent with them is a training opportunity and every moment is meaningful for them and for us.