Husbands wearing wedding bands.

[love_casper]

I vote for having him put it on a necklace. I see a lot of people doing that nowadays, rings around their neck.

would be out of the way and stuff.

 

[RainSong]

I vote for having him put it on a necklace. I see a lot of people doing that nowadays, rings around their neck.

would be out of the way and stuff.

Actually, I wore my wedding and engagement ring on a necklace often... anytime i couldn't wear them on my finger. I would probably still be doing it, but the chain I was using broke recently.

 

[maplegum]

My husband never wears a wedding ring and I don't expect him to. His job involves using power tools which would make it dangerous anyhow. He doesn't wear jewellery at all.

I wear my rings to work, but as soon as I'm home, off comes all of my jewellery.

I don't think that wearing a wedding band makes a relationship more valid.

 

[CyndiM]

My hubby never wore one in his first marrage (took it off after a couple of months), so I didn't buy one for him when we got married. I didn't think he would wear one. After we were married a couple of years he said he wanted one so I got him one for Christmas. He's never taken it off.

 

[Littleum]

We've been married over a year and haven't even bought our wedding bands. Heck, I haven't even changed my maiden name yet. Long story to that though... long, long story.

Practically speaking, while I'd LIKE David to wear his wedding band, looking at what he does for work and hobby... it's no more practical then me wearing my ring all the time. On again, off again, watching it roll away and chasing after it.... offends all my romantic sensabilities but what can you do?

Your hubby's justification sounds totally reasonable to me. I'd only weep for having to let go of another one of my romantic notions. Ah, sigh.

 

[Warpony]

My husband has taken his ring off once in the almost 7 years we have been married (he had to for a medical test). He rides a desk and wrangles computers for a living so he has no job related reason to remove it, he almost never does anything more physical than run some wires or hit a few nails for home improvement projects, and to be honest his knuckles on his fingers are so lumpy that he couldn't remove the ring if he wanted to. He likes wearing it so that is fine with me. I have a cheap "throw away" ring I wear most of the time, I need my good ring resized.

For the most part I don't think it is the guy who tells you he is taking off his ring you need to worry about... it is the one who takes it off behind your back and puts it back on before he gets home that you need to worry about.

I have emotional baggage that I will admit makes me want my husband to wear his ring. My ex took his ring off when he started collecting girl friends. So the fact that my husband wears his all the time is nice. But if he had a job where he did anything physical or where a ring could be a danger (or like my step dad if his arthritis was so bad wearing a ring mad him hurt) I would understand and it wouldn't bother me.

 

[Kathy2m]

Mine wears a NEW one now that he's not in construction anymore, the new one is because when he was in construction he was jumping off a piece of heavy equipment and the ring got stuck he was hanging by his ring. He almost broke his finger, he did mess up the ring and cut his finger up pretty bad too. I had to cut it off him with tin snips. So he has a valid point. Kathy

 

[RJRMINIS]

Yep,my hubby is a welder and after burning and scarring his ring finger while welding, he won't wear his either, don't blame him one bit, that was awful when it happened. He does however wear it when we go out, but that is only on the weekends. I can see your hubby's point, when I was in health care, I took off my rings, with all the hand washing, and wearing gloves, it was just easier to have the rings off.

 

[minimule]

I haven't read any of the other responses but my husband quit wearing his about 5 years after we were married. I followed suit shortly after him. He is also a Firefighter/Paramedic and is always dealing with "hazardous" stuff. In our case it is a safety issue that he quit wearing it. If he got it caught on something I'd hate for him to loose his finger. I quit mine for the same reason. I was working really closely to electrical hazards and didn't want something as simple as a ring to ground me out and kill me.

I personally don't feel it is something that has to be worn. I trust him and he is very married to me and I to him. The ring is just a symbol.

 

[justagirl]

I personally don't feel it is something that has to be worn. I trust him and he is very married to me and I to him. The ring is just a symbol.

Totally agree with this statement .

My hubby also does not wear his due to his job .... to do so would be dangerous, and I haven't had mine on in a VERY long time . After 17 years of marriage , the ring , is a minor part .

 

[nootka]

My husband wears his most of the time, and he does work around machinery on the boats and things.

One time, however, he was wearing it (inside thick rubber gloves, which he usually wears) and his hand got sucked into the block, which spins and hauls the line for the crab pots through it. It gets really tight and it pulls very heavy things so it pinched his hand down hard and before it could get stopped, it went for his ring finger, which had the ring on.

The ring got pinched a little, but it kept the block and line from crushing his finger. We saved the old ring, it is an oval, now.

I don't mind if he takes it off, but he gets testy with me if I forget to put it back on after putting lotion on or something.

Liz

 

[Mona]

Ever since we got married, my husband would wear his ring during certain times of the year...he was a commericial fisherman, and would take it off during fishing season, and start wearing it again the the Fall when he was done for the year. Because his hands were always in the cold water, he was scared it would slip off his hand(you know how your hands shrink some when they are cold) when he would take off his gloves and wash them out in the lake. This went on for many years, until he no longer commercial fished. At that time, he started to wear it year round.

A few years ago, he stopped wearing it because he gained weight, and also because he now was doing carpentry work and was scared to get it caught on something. I think he really just does not like rings...he really never has. He lost a little during this summer, so I got him to wear it again, but now that he is back to carpentry again, it got too tight again, so there it sits in my jewelry box.

Yes, I wish he would wear it, but it doesn't bother me a whole lot that he doesn't, as I know it is not for any "bad" reasons.

My ex-brother-in-law many years ago, almost lost his finger while at work because of his wedding ring. He was an outboard motor mechanic, and was working on repairs, and somehow he got a good jolt(electricity) through his wedding band...it melted the ring and hurt his finger, and he was lucky it wasn't worse. He never wore a ring again to work after that.

Also, I had a childhood friend that was wearing a ring on her middle finger while she was swimming, and she jumped off the dock into the lake and caught her ring on a nail that was sticking out of the dock and ripped her finger right off!

They never found it so were not able to reattach it, so she had to go through life without that finger. This happened before I knew her.

 

[wildoak]

My husband wore his for years when he worked at a desk, but now spending time working around the barn, on his tractor etc, I don't think he's had it on - probably doesn't fit anymore - in quite a few years. I wish he wore it, but I certainly understand the reason and don't want him getting it hung up on something.

Surprising how many people have lost diamonds in the barn LOL - makes me feel better, as I lost the big stone from my engagement ring about 7-8 years ago. I replaced it with a loose stone I had, but it's never looked right and I don't wear it anymore. I have a ring I dearly love that I wear on that finger now all the time, my daughter said "I guess that's your wedding ring now"

I did dislocate a couple of fingers some years ago - leading 2 yearling colts with one hand and they twisted around me. Cost me a trip to ER to have the fingers put back in place....and my wedding band cut off!

Jan

 

[Laura]

I personally don't feel it is something that has to be worn. I trust him and he is very married to me and I to him. The ring is just a symbol.

[SIZE=12pt]I also agree with this. I do wear mine all of the time, never take it off, it's part of me. Now, when we have a difficult foaling, it comes off and goes in a pocket, because OUCH for the poor mare! Steve wears his all of the time also. When he's doing work outside where it could be hazardous, he's usually wearing gloves. When he rides (he races dirtbikes), he's also wearing gloves, so that's not an issue. If he needed to take it off for safety, I'd be more OK with it than he would be.[/SIZE]

My ring is made from his Great Aunt's engagement ring (rose gold solitaire), in the center, with my Grandmother's white gold band made into an attached guard that sits on either side of the center ring. It was made for us by a jeweler friend. Steve's wedding band was his Great-Grandfather's.

Steve is VERY attached to his ring. He lost it the weekend of our first anniversary. Being a big believer in "signs' it freaked him out BADLY, poor guy. He said "What does this mean???" I told him it meant we could make it through anything! The next Valentine's day weekend our elderly neighbor was walking through the yard (where we had parked dozens of times) and said "Did someone lose a wedding ring"? There it was, just waiting for us