Well apparently my post and a few others have been removed somehow, (Which is auctally kinda neat, I didn't know that was possible)
All I know from personal experience in the rescues it takes a Good long time for a horses head to grow over a halter, and it takes some serious neglagance for this to occur. I also know people who leave halters on 24/7, but they at least Check the darn things. I agree with her Grandfather, he's making a good call.
Mistakes are made in life, very true, Heck my favorite big mare foundard because I didn't realize she had gotten accidently bred, and was about 4 months along in a pregancy. (She's inslulin resistant, and pregancy's make her body chemistry nuts) It's a honest mistake that I kick myself for every day, but not a matter of not noticing something growing into her.
I relate this to one of my rescue mares whose feet had grown over her shoes so badly we had to cut off half her feet, her owner was adament that "It just happened all the sudden"....
Life can hand your terrible curve balls, I am one who has been through most of the bigger nasty's in life, but My animals were Never in danger of poor care or harm at my own hands.
There are lots of people on this forum who have tremendous problems in their day to day living, but again, no animal neglect and damage there...
Furthermore, I know Darn Well that if I came on here, and told you all that I knew someone that had let their horses head grow around the halter, but they felt bad about it, as they hadn't noticed... You would be all over them like White on Rice.
I can apperciate the way other's have phrased it, (Marty and js1arab to name a few) but this person can speak for themselves, that horse could not, and That's what has gotten me so worked up. The horse couldn't tell us how his halter restricted how much he could chew, see, and all the discomfort and pain that was his day to day life... But she can tell us about hers, as is her god given right.
I find it childish to say that one is leaving this forum/upset with the other posters, because someone/they stood up for the horse and not the person.
Notice that the mention of her poor health and family problems were mentioned after the discussion about the horses halter issue had started to be picked at.
I found it a defensive comment made directly for the purpose of encourgaging the kinder hearted people on here (all the Wonderful kind heared people on here
: ) do/say exactly as they did. The mother Bear instinct is stong in many of you, (Marty!!
:
: ) but so is the ability to say that this was a completly inappropate thing to let happen....
Had she said I had all these awful circumstances in my life have happened, I had no control over my animals and this awful thing occured, I could understand.
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A life calling such as a Vet means putting the animals before you, every day, all the time, not just when life makes it easier or better to do so.
I applaud all of you who truly care about this young person, and even more those who consider both.
Forgive me in that I only see the horses point of view, and therefore his plight, and not that of the adult/child. (Still not sure which, as the typing indicated a younger person, but the facts given state college.)