Thanks everyone for the wonderful advice!! Taking it all into consideration here's how this morning feed went:
As soon as I got to her paddock I went in and walked up to her(I usually just come in with feed). I had the butt of the whip in my left hand and went to pat her with my right...well as soon as I touch her neck she tries to nip, I hit her with the whip on her chest pretty hard mind you cause I was Mad(she couldnt see it coming so she jumped and trotted off with ears back and tail ringing). I walked back to the door, she came back to me, I went to pet her and she did it again of course so I popped her in the chest and on the hip as she trotted away.
Well it must have sent a message because the third time she let me pet her with just ears back. I didn't want her scared of the whip so I let it slide over the top of her neck, over her back and hips and then underneath her neck and to the chest(she took a step back when I got to the chest-thats good isnt it?
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Now I go get the feed and the war begins.
I pour it in and she goes to bite at me when I get close, I hit her with the butt of the whip on the chest yelling "Quit!! Quit!!" She runs off and I stand in front of the feed bucket shooing her off everytime she gets close...of course this is making her mad.
I timed it, it took almost 20 minutes for her to show signs of submission when she tried to approach me(that tounge started coming out and ears forward). I let her come to the bucket at that point and then re-approached her...I was shocked to see her just stand there and let me pet her.
her ears were back but NO biting. I left her and reapproached her 3 more times just to make sure it wasn't a fluke. Lol! So we left on a good note...but I have a sneaky feeling it will be back to round one at this evenings feed time.
Thanks everyone who posted!! She is my only horse and the last time I had a horse was 10 years ago, so yes, I have a LOT to learn.