Hi RhondaAlaska - I would do several other steps before either of the ones you are considering - though it sounds like she's pretty quiet and agreeable! She sounds more like one of my mares (link to pics later) - Bell. Bell's full sister Bit was more difficult, tense and upset by everything - it took much longer to get her into a cart and even after we first started driving her, she would get highly upset. I'm VERY lucky. I have others I can drive with - practicing going in front of, next to, behind and away from - going further and asking for flat footed halts w/o getting upset (her first response when upset was to rear - in harness. She got quite good at also doing that
Lipizzaner move of hopping forward while on her hind feet - while pulling the cart especially downhills when trail driving at first - SCARY).
W/ both you and your daughter working together - introduce her to some poles - either pvc or pool noodle type...or even wood if you have lite weight ones. Touch her body, chest, neck, head, upper legs, lower legs, between her legs, belly. Both sides. I don't have pics of this...
Then put it on the surcingle with one end attached (if you wrap hay string around a pvc pole several times it will hold if horse is quiet. if horse gets upset, the pole may come loose and bang on ground, quiet the horse and reattach. Keep doing it until it works) and one end dragging (pool noodle prob won't reach the ground). When you can lounge her and also ground drive her with her quietly accepting the "shaft" touching her while she's pulling it - switch sides. Kreature jumping a log w/ a single shaft...
https://picasaweb.google.com/103622225470430126127/Kreature?noredirect=1#5644441130325277874
Then have her pull two (literally like shafts). Ground drive her over different surfaces. Put bags, tarps and even cavaltti on the ground - shafts and also tires make much different sounds on different surfaces (I still have one mare, Bit, after two years that gets highly upset when hooked in an all metal ez entry cart vs a wood shaft, wood bodied one. Makes different sounds that she just doesn't abide...LOL. Put her to a wood shafted cart or jogger or any farm equipment as a pair - she's a dream!). Poles that are dragging on the ground will hang up if the horse backs up. If she doesn't stand quietly w/o backing up when asked to halt or stand - she's not ready to pull poles. Eclipse upset by pole on her side (took several sessions before could do two shafts) -
https://picasaweb.google.com/103622225470430126127/Eclipse?noredirect=1#5506171554989548114 Note - the pole is low on her side and with her circling to the side it's on it does poke her ocassionally. She learned how to push into it eventually. I don't remember how many sessions it took before she accepted the shafts. She still gets upset/tense in the cart - but often goes several months w/o being driven and I don't think she's a good one for that type of handling... Much better with continuous handling. Does work as a pair and does farmwork. GG - 3rd time pulling w/ 2 shafts -
https://picasaweb.google.com/purplepaintpony/GGBellS2010ShetlandFilly#5832734573506127058 The shafts now have permanent holes w/ the string thru them so they won't slide off of the poles. The holes need to be moved closer to the front with the smaller ponies... Shafts out too far in front of the pony.
To get her used to pulling weight - run hay string thru your traces and tie. Then attach a snapped lead rope to the haystring (puts person far enough back to keep from getting kicked if she's upset). have a 2nd person start by pulling back on the lead rope while she's walking. After she accepts that at a walk and trot - attach a tire to the lead rope or even a pole or something of weight. Again - ground drive at a walk, trot and get your turns and halts. I don't have pictures of doing this with the traces. I was told I'd skipped this step w/ most of mine - and it's better to include it. Here is what I use for weight at first -
https://picasaweb.google.com/purplepaintpony/Bit1991ShetlandPonyMare#5474105151538068450 . (its a single tree made from a broken handle). Here's another pic - pulling a tire -
https://picasaweb.google.com/purplepaintpony/Bell1992ShetlandPonyMare#5473925679318145154
One other thing - while one of you starts out leading her take her around and past the cart while someone is pulling it. DROP the cart shafts. Let her see and get used to the sound of it bouncing on the ground. Then ground drive her - have the "horsey" pulling the cart trot while she's ground driving - if she's bothered by any of this - have her "chase the cart" as she's ground driven. Then go back to circling each other, figure 8ing etc. Have her in front of the cart, beside the cart and then coming towards the cart and ground driving past it. Have the "horsey with the cart" trot past her while she stands still. Here's a link showing a 2 1/2 yr old filly that we are starting now -
https://picasaweb.google.com/purplepaintpony/GGBellS2010ShetlandFilly There is one pic showing how upset she'd gotten over the cart shafts being dropped... That wasn't the first time - just the first time my girl freinds' granddaughter caught it in the pics. Then a series showing me being the "horsey". NOW understand -this filly went with her dam when I was starting her dam in harness 2 1/2 yrs ago. She felt the shafts from both sides while tied at her dam's side at a walk, trot and canter and heard the sounds of it too. She still got upset when doing this while wearing blinders by herself. Not so much now - 3 lessons later w/ "horsey and cart".
She does all this - then before putting the cart in the shaft holders - you can hook a rope between the shafts and set it over her back. w/ th rope "tail" being held in your hand, if you are coordinated you can ground drive her yourself w/o an extra person. if she jumps forward or gets upset - the cart "slides" off or you can lift it off. AFter all this - hooking her should be a non-issue and relatively boring until you step into cart and start working on actual driving exercises.
Then the rest of the fun begins... BE SAFE and create a safe mini for you and your daughter. HAVE FUN and enjoy this beginning training!