Taking sides or believing what you hear

[Shortpig]

Here is the scenario: You have been told something by someone regarding another individual.

Do you instantly believe what you are hearing? Do you quietly question if it sounds true or false? Do you decide you won't come up with a decision without knowing both sides of the story?

How do you respond to a situation like this?

Just curious how people approach a situation like this.

I should say I keep telling my daughter not to believe everything she is told as the gospel. There are two sides to every story and no decision should be made with hearing just one side. I think she is finally getting it.

 

[Miniv]

I try not to jump to conclusions too quickly......

 

[Jill]

There are variables. For me, it would depend on who told me (big part of it) and on how likely it all sounds.

 

[user 488]

"Believe only half of what you see and nothing that you hear."

Words I have tried to live by........

Most often things are nothing like they seem as most people tend to over dramatize everything. Learned a long time ago to not pass judgement until you have the facts. There are always two sides to every story.

 

[Gini]

"Believe only half of what you see and nothing that you hear."

To keep myself out of trouble I usually follow this rule!

 

[anoki]

I'm with Jill here. It does depend on who told me it, and what it was that they were saying. I trust certain people more than others, but those people I trust have proven that they are trustworthy

I try hard not to jump to conclusions because yes, there are always 2 sides to every story.

~kathryn

 

[My-Lil-Pony]

My mom always taught me unless the rumors or gossip have a direct impact in the safety of my family or my animals to let it go in one ear and right on out the other. It is just from someone very insecure and lacking in themselves.

I hate to admit it but mom was right on that one!

 

[Laura]

"Believe only half of what you see and nothing that you hear."

To keep myself out of trouble I usually follow this rule!

I try to stick with this too. From the nasty, mean spirited and WRONG rumors that eventually found their way back to me about Mia and Zac, I don't put it past some people to spread ANYTHING at all, regardless of how stupid, mean or just plain DUMB it may be....a few people in this industry lost any respect I had for them, despite knowing them for almost 20 years

For those who listened to those few people and repeated what they said, I wish they had followed that rule...

 

[Connie P]

There are two sides to every story and "The truth lies somewhere in between"! Generally I believe not much of what I hear - I believe what I KNOW to be factual!

 

[Aristocratic Minis]

There are some people you know whose words you can depend upon because of the trust you develop in them over the years.

Then there are the people you know whose word you take with a grain of salt. "Consider the source," people say.

Yes, two sides of every story - at LEAST two sides and many interpretations in between.

 

[Laura]

There are some people you know whose words you can depend upon because of the trust you develop in them over the years.
Then there are the people you know whose word you take with a grain of salt. "Consider the source," people say.

Yes, two sides of every story - at LEAST two sides and many interpretations in between.

Yes, but even people you have known (and trusted) for years can surprise you and not in a good way

 

[End Level Farms]

Having been in a situation that had more like 7 or more sides and then the truth being completely different but only those seeing it from their side saw what they said as truth. I tend NOT to believe anything and judge situations and people on a per time basis.

There were 2 people other than me involved and people that were causes also involved thats why I say there were 7 sides or more.

I do tend to err on the side of caution specially when it involves my horses. BUT some of the "Bad" people have been the best people in the world to deal with and learn from.

Some of those that are the "Good" people I would cross the street to avoid them and then duck down a few alleys to make sure I lost them.

Not everyone will get along with everyone else and some of those closest to you are the ones that can hurt you the most.

 

[Connie P]

There are some people you know whose words you can depend upon because of the trust you develop in them over the years.

Not necessarily true - I "thought" I had a VERY good friend that I could trust - very long standing relationship and it has recently been brought to my attention that this particular individual was never my friend at all. My new rule of thumb is to TRUST NO ONE - EVER!

I so agree with your last statement there Laura!

 

[Aristocratic Minis]

Not necessarily true - I "thought" I had a VERY good friend that I could trust - very long standing relationship and it has recently been brought to my attention that this particular individual was never my friend at all. My new rule of thumb is to TRUST NO ONE - EVER!

Connie, I'm so sorry that a friend, or a supposed friend, betrayed you.

What a horrible feeling. I've had that happen also over the years, but don't completely lose trust in people.

 

[Connie P]

Thanks Aristocrat but it has happened one too many times. I will always have many acquaintances but friends??? You are lucky if you find 5 good friends within your lifetime. I have many people that I visit with, but will not trust again - you learn to keep people just far enough away so as not to get burned.

The best friend I will EVER have is my husband!

:wub

 

[Shortpig]

Thank you everyone. Sometimes I believe things get way blown out of proportion. Maybe someday I will print this topic and share it with my daughter.

 

[~Lisa~]

Not everyone will get along with everyone else and some of those closest to you are the ones that can hurt you the most.

Yes, two sides of every story - at LEAST two sides and many interpretations in between.

I completly agree

 

[Shari]

I personally refuse to make a judgement until I get to know the person.

Unfortunely I have been on the recieving end of people who I "thought" were friends but found out their true colors in the worse kind'a way. Which hurt. They were the kind to start rumors and Fish wife lies and let things build from there. Other people got in on these people said and I have never, ever been through something that nasty. No one would listen to me, which is sad because if they had, they would know what was said was not true.

Because of that it takes me many, many years to get to know someone, as I don't want to go through that again. Nothing worse than hear say, Fish Wife gossip.

 

[backwoodsnanny]

As my signature says Love Many Trust Few and Always paddle your own Canoe

 

[Witts Mini Horse Ranch]

This topic really hits home for me today. Glad I am back visiting this forum, I needed it. I always want to believe the best in people, end up letting them walk all over me. Until they hurt my family which includes my animals & friends, then the I say enough. Thank goodness my husband is trust no one and can sometimes keep me in check. When my feelings get hurt, I usually don't tell him...he will always jump to my defense (over the top) and then I get the "I told you so".

But then that wasn't really the question was it. Do I believe what I hear...if it doesn't concern me or my family (human and animals), friends, then it is none of my business what other people do, or how they live their lives. If it is a rumor about a friend, I will go to them..unless I know myself it is not true, and I will stand up for them, probably would anyway. Now if it is about someones trustworthiness and you don't know them...now lets face it they have planted the seed in your mind. Of course, with me I still always want to believe the best in people...until they prove me wrong. Which is usually hurtful and so disappointing.

I always try to take the high road, I sleep so much better. I'm not perfect, nor a saint...but I do care about peoples feelings. I think sometimes people on the internet forget that there is a human with feeling behind that avator, and many say things they would never have the B___s to say to your face. The moderators here consider members feelings, cuddos to them!