Ughh Turns out our new neighbor

[HJF]

This makes me sick..I have lived in this house my whole life and we live out on a dead end road and have had the same neighbors forever!!! Last year, our neighbor (two homes down) decided to move..the new neighbor has been here since last summer and seemed pretty friendly. Turns out he is on the offender website for raping a minor!!!! This makes me sick! I work in our barn alone a lot of times and this kind of scares me because he comes over a lot and looks at the horses(he he horses also). What in the world would you do???

 

[lyn_j]

[SIZE=14pt]First off try not to be afraid and worry. The good thing about him being on the offenders list is that they know where he is.... HE knows they know.... most of the times if they are on the list they are least likely to re-offend. The ones that are not on the lists are the ones I would be most afraid of. Keep a cell phone with you in the barn and if he even shows up at the door, TELL HIM YOU KNOW HE IS ON THE LIST AND YOU WILL CALL THE POLICE IF HE DOESNT LEAVE~![/SIZE]

Lyn

 

[wishful]

Do not let him assume you are ignorant to the fact he is an offender, take a stand now and tell him he is not welcome there. Make sure you always have someone with you when you are at the barn or at home. Make sure someone else knows what he is, you need to create a buddy system. It would be a good idea to put cameras up in and around your place(like the ones you see in parking lots) If you cant get ones that record then pretend they do!! Call your freinds and family and set up a password system, A pager would be a good idea, if he comes over and you start to feel uncomfortable then you can silently page someone with the password, or number, and they will know you need help. I,m sorry if this sounds a little panicy but pedifiles are nothing to take ligthly.

 

[Domino0-]

Also do remember that some convicted rapists did not know they were getting *involved* with a minor. Then the parents found out and told the cops, which resulted in them becoming convicted rapists. Even if he is an older guy, this could have happened a long time ago, say when he was 18. I have some friends that when they were fifteen dated eighteen year olds. If their parents wanted to, they could have had these guys arrested. I would be careful though, it would make me uncomfortable for him to be standing around all the time. If you don't want him on your property, then it is illegal for him to be on it. If it was me, I would try and find out what the whole story was(if that is even possible). And of course make sure you have a pitch fork within arms reach at all times

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[HJF]

Well..I'm pretty sure he knew she was a minor because our farrier knew the girl and said she was pretty young (around 14). It was a girl that boarded her horse at the man's barn. And he looks to be about 55-60 years old..and he just recently got out of prison (few years).

 

[Miniv]

I agree....tread cautiously. You need to know what kind of "offender" he is. Is he an out and out child rapist?

Was he a young man who dated an underage girl who had parents who turned him in? Unfortunately in this day and age, there has been no division between the two and both can be given the same label as a felon.

Then, there is the OPPOSITE problem where a grown man raped a young girl numerous times while she was the ages of between 6 and 10..... but he only gets a slap on the hand with 60 days in jail. So, you just never know anymore!

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Do you have children? If you do, be careful and never let them alone with him. If not, don't worry for now...just do your homework if you can.

MA

 

[Marty]

We've got a convicted pedifile right here on my road. He was born and raised here. Everyone knows it and he is shunned.

He might be using the horses as some sort of therapy. But I kinda doubt it.

If I were you, I would be sure you have cameras up in place and also an intercom system and phone handy all the time.

I don't know if I would stand up to him and anounce that you know what he is, because that might set him off. Remember that rape is a crime of violence, not sex. If he knows that you know, he might get very angry so I would really tread softly but I would also find a way to rid him of your property and visiting your horses. He's probably "caseing the joint".......... I'd make some excuse for him not to be able to visit the horses and say you have something burning in the oven or something until he gets the idea.

 

[stormo41]

I'm very touchy on this subject so i will try to keep it short.

I would not care if my neighbor was an offender or not. i believe the system works, and when they are let out that means they know what they did wrong and will never do it again. I know this always true, but the system have given them a second chance, as will I, no questions asked. It might be scary but i've lived with it. Our school has "bad kids" coming in almost every day. we take all the kids the no one else will and nothing ever happens. I know kids who were in gangs, and had knife fights, that are now perfectly fine and have never done anything of that sort since they started at my school, infact one of the boys has really learned his lesson. after gettin kicked out of his old school for a knife fight, he came to mine. last year some guy wanted to fight him, and started punching him, and he walked away, just walked away

: . Just because some one has a bad past does not mean it should haunt them. people change

-Storm

 

[ShawneeCreek]

I would approach him very carefully. Tell him you have a jealous husband/boyfriend and to please not drop in unless your husband/boyfriend is home. I wouldn't say anything about what you know. He will figure it out. I'm all for giving someone a second chance, but they can have their second chance at their own home not mine.

 

[KrisP]

Ouch, very touchy subject and I agree to tread VERY cautiously on this one. There should be a way to research the offense and see exactly what he did. I know of one case in our area that is actually sad and the person should NOT be labeled an offender, he's labeled for something that happened when he was 7 years old! So research first and find out the whole story.

I'd make sure to NOT be alone around this person, keep a cell phone and/or pepper spray on hand and know whats going on at all times. It may sound over cautious but better safe than sorry. But do NOT confront this person on it!

krisp

 

[Marty]

His crime is a public record and you can look it up and see the police report etc., court transcripts, at your local court house and get the details.

 

[justaboutgeese]

I agree with most of the posters here. Try and get all the FACTS about what went on with this individual. Avoid the rumors and gossip. Once you have all the facts ask your local police department what the best steps are to protect yourself. As some posters have said the law has given this person a second chance but it does not have to be at the expense of your well being or the enjoyment of your own home. Do not take chances with your own safety.

 

[Secret22]

Be careful is all I can say!!

 

[Lisa-Ruff N Tuff Minis]

I'm very touchy on this subject so i will try to keep it short.

I would not care if my neighbor was an offender or not. i believe the system works, . Just because some one has a bad past does not mean it should haunt them. people change

-Storm

I have to respectfully STRONGLY disagree... Most who have been here for a while know my experience with a repeat offender who kidnapped and raped me when I was very young. We have some brat now in the area trying to entice kids into his truck.. Totally sick and scary and he is just one we KNOW ABOUT

in todays society we want to make excuses for everyone I am saying that having a step son and family on my x-side who are gang members in So Cal. I understand how easy it is for a child to get sucked into that life that however is A TOTALLY different situation then a petifile in fact.. most will tell you themselves they cant be cured, it doesnt go away, the ones trying to rehabiltate will tell you they fight it all day long. Time and time again it is proven they cant be cured, rehabed or that they stop even after serious jail time.

I do agree there is a difference in the young man who slept with a girl he could have thought was older not that it is ok but that is a different type of offender.

Every state must now give you access to his crime, be it online or some you have to go to the sherriff station to get a list of offenders, find out what the crime was.

For the record I am aware there are many child offenders out there and being a child and committing a crime against another child doesnt make it any less serious or tramautic for the victim and yes many are in our kids schools.

I would be very clear that he isnt welcome there when there arent many others around period. I strongly suggest everyone including our children take a course and learn how to protect themselves.

the amount of sex offenders even in small towns is very overwhelming and why on earth they are allowed to move near schools and bus stops is beyond me.

 

[shane]

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU LISA, I USED TO RIDE HORSES FOR A MAN IN HIS 50 S HE ONLY KEPT THE PONIES TO LURE CHILDREN,ANYWAY CUT A LONG STORY VERY SHORT HE ASSALTED ME I WAS ONLY 11 AT THE TIME,AND RAPED MY FRIEND,HE GOT ONE YEAR IN JAIL WROTE TO ME AND TOLD ME I COULD HAVE ALL HIS HORSES ECT MY MUM PUT A STOP TO HIS CONTACT,CAME OUT AND ASSALTED A YOUNG BOY, HE STILL LIVES IN THE AREA,I HATE HIM SO MUCH,MY HUSBAND ACTUALLY PUNCHED HIM IN THE FACE FOR WATCHING ME ,IF I COULD GET AWAY WITH IT HE WOULDNT BE HERE,THE SAD THING IS I DIDNT REALISE UNTIL I WAS OLDER WHAT AFFECT HE ACTUALLY HAD ON MY LIFE HE RUINED A PART OF ME,I THINK THEY SHOULD ALL BE PUT ON AN ISLAND AND CASTRATE THEM

: THAT WOULD STILL NOT BE ENOUGH

 

[Laura]

Also do remember that some convicted rapists did not know they were getting *involved* with a minor. Then the parents found out and told the cops, which resulted in them becoming convicted rapists. Even if he is an older guy, this could have happened a long time ago, say when he was 18. I have some friends that when they were fifteen dated eighteen year olds. If their parents wanted to, they could have had these guys arrested. I would be careful though, it would make me uncomfortable for him to be standing around all the time. If you don't want him on your property, then it is illegal for him to be on it. If it was me, I would try and find out what the whole story was(if that is even possible). And of course make sure you have a pitch fork within arms reach at all times

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Offenders are not listed as rapist unless that is what they did, in most cases. If it was a more recent case it is listed a different act, not rape. I also would NOT ask for "his" side of the story, that opens a door for a bid for sympathy and opportunity for manipulation.

I have VERY strong opinions on pedophiles and advise you to lock your gates and put up no trespassing signs, maybe he'll get the idea. What a bad situation for you to be in :no: ....

 

[keeperofthehorses]

If it were me, I would tell him (better yet, have your husband tell him) in no uncertain terms that he is not welcome at your place. I would also contact his Parole Officer through the Department of Corrections and tell THEM that he's not welcome at your place. They'll back you up, and it will be on record that you've voiced your concerns and he'll get the message that you're not messing around. Then I'd have a neighborhood meeting. You all need to keep an eye on this sicko, especially if there are kids in the neighborhood.

I guess you can tell I'm one of the 'zero tolerance' folks, and I agree wholeheartedly with Shane...

 

[Laura]

I'm very touchy on this subject so i will try to keep it short.

I would not care if my neighbor was an offender or not. i believe the system works, and when they are let out that means they know what they did wrong and will never do it again. I know this always true, but the system have given them a second chance, as will I, no questions asked. It might be scary but i've lived with it. Our school has "bad kids" coming in almost every day. we take all the kids the no one else will and nothing ever happens. I know kids who were in gangs, and had knife fights, that are now perfectly fine and have never done anything of that sort since they started at my school, infact one of the boys has really learned his lesson. after gettin kicked out of his old school for a knife fight, he came to mine. last year some guy wanted to fight him, and started punching him, and he walked away, just walked away

: . Just because some one has a bad past does not mean it should haunt them. people change

-Storm

"Bad" kids who can change their lives are one thing. People whose brains are wired wrong and see children as sexual objects to be used are another thing altogether. Pedophiles don't GET better. They are let out of jail because they have served their time, not because they are sorry or rehabilitated. Unfortunately that's not how our legal system works. Some might SAY they are sorry, but I'd be willing to bet that the majority of them commit the same crimes, or worse, again. It's called escalation, more severe acts to produce the same feeling. This is an illness, but not a very treatable one.

 

[SweetOpal]

About a year and a half ago I had a 16 year old girl that confided in me that she was sleeping with a man I also knew that was 61. I found this hard to beleive, charges were pressed and he is still not in jail, he has barely set foot in the court room. This has totally taken apart of the girls innocence away as she thinks they were in love. Come to find out she was not the first teenager he had had relationships with, he had also been married the entire time for 42 years. He has had several affairs and mostly with younger girls. Becuase I knew him it made it hard to think bad about him, but I have an 8 year old daughter and I will never trust any older man other than my husband her father with her....You just can not take it for granted you need ot be careful and never take your eyes off of this man.

 

[user 488]

"Bad" kids who can change their lives are one thing. People whose brains are wired wrong and see children as sexual objects to be used are another thing altogether. Pedophiles don't GET better. They are let out of jail because they have served their time, not because they are sorry or rehabilitated. Unfortunately that's not how our legal system works. Some might SAY they are sorry, but I'd be willing to bet that the majority of them commit the same crimes, or worse, again. It's called escalation, more severe acts to produce the same feeling. This is an illness, but not a very treatable one.

Not only do I agree 100% with this but also agree with Lisa.

Can you can CASTRATION?

I have a family member who did a thesis on this and the statistics are astounding. There really is no rehabilitation as they are wired differently. Castration is the only thing that removes that wiring.

Harsh? Not for repeat offenders. Maybe those that might think it's harsh would think differently if their child was the one who was raped.

Carol