AppyLover2
Well-Known Member
Kim I just remembered something that helped me when things got bad. I had read or heard somewhere (can't really remember which) that everyone has to "accept responsibility for our own actions". To me that was the key to the whole tuff love type thing. As long as parents cover for their kids, ignore the things that are happening, or keep bailing them out of trouble those kids (or adults for that matter) never have to accept responsibility. It's only when they're forced to deal with their own actions that it starts to fall into place. I learned to tell her (and myself, which is maybe even more important) that I wasn't responsible for the things she had done and I wasn't the one who had to suffer the consequences. Bless you for being strong enough to do what was probably one of the hardest things we, as parents, are ever faced with.