hhpminis
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I have a very sick friend. It is killing me that she is sick. Waiting on tests, trying to find answers and meanwhile, each day gets harder and she gets sicker. Most of you dont know me well. I have a very small inner circle, when I choose to let someone in, it is for life and they become very special to me. This person is in that place.
More than her physical sickness is the fact that her heart has been broken by a few people she allowed in her inner circle. They may or may not have known all that was going on in her life right now. But still, how do you handle someone that you have let get close to you, and then in your greatest time of need, they let you down in a big big way.
I know that I want to hate them, I also know that is wrong, and no one deserves to be hated. However, my ties with them will more than likely be forever broken, never again to trust, value, admire, or respect them or anything they do or say.
I also know that you need to forgive, but how. It truly would be easier if they had done it to me. After all, who am I. But to do this to someone like her, one of the most truly generous, kind, understanding and accepting people I think I will ever know. So much better of a person than I will ever hope to be.
I watched the short clip that Reble posted, The Dash, I have seen it before, but it truly hit home this time. How do we spend our dash? How do you get over hurt and forgive. If my life ended tomorrow, would I want to hate them? Absolutely not, but how do you not hate someone for hurting someone you love so deeply.
Why do we as humans find joy in degrading others? Of all things I can think of to do, why that. Trust me, I am far from perfect and have done things I am not proud of. But, what good does it do you, me, or anyone, for that matter to tear someone else down, to betray their trust, to make them feel humiliated and small and valueless. Why do we do this?
I want to scream at these people, I want to tell them I hate them, I want to never have to see or hear from them again. The site of them makes me ill. I want them to feel at least half as terrible about what they have done as I do. But nothing, not a word. Not an apology, no humiliation, nothing.
Do I tell them how I feel? Do I let time heal all wounds? Do I just choose for them not to be in my life? If they were present now, I would probably slap their face. What good would that do? If I felt they could learn from this, maybe, but do people like this ever learn? Most of all, I want them to apologize to her, and then leave, get out of her life, never to return. Maybe she wont accept it from them, that is her choice, but at least say it.
Thanks for reading this. I dont know what I expect to accomplish, but somehow putting it in words makes me feel better. I just wish we all would stop and think before we speak or type. Believe me I have, it has taken me an hour to write this, it took me even longer to hit the Post button. Now I am going to go play with ponies and have them fix all my troubles. They carry great power you know.
More than her physical sickness is the fact that her heart has been broken by a few people she allowed in her inner circle. They may or may not have known all that was going on in her life right now. But still, how do you handle someone that you have let get close to you, and then in your greatest time of need, they let you down in a big big way.
I know that I want to hate them, I also know that is wrong, and no one deserves to be hated. However, my ties with them will more than likely be forever broken, never again to trust, value, admire, or respect them or anything they do or say.
I also know that you need to forgive, but how. It truly would be easier if they had done it to me. After all, who am I. But to do this to someone like her, one of the most truly generous, kind, understanding and accepting people I think I will ever know. So much better of a person than I will ever hope to be.
I watched the short clip that Reble posted, The Dash, I have seen it before, but it truly hit home this time. How do we spend our dash? How do you get over hurt and forgive. If my life ended tomorrow, would I want to hate them? Absolutely not, but how do you not hate someone for hurting someone you love so deeply.
Why do we as humans find joy in degrading others? Of all things I can think of to do, why that. Trust me, I am far from perfect and have done things I am not proud of. But, what good does it do you, me, or anyone, for that matter to tear someone else down, to betray their trust, to make them feel humiliated and small and valueless. Why do we do this?
I want to scream at these people, I want to tell them I hate them, I want to never have to see or hear from them again. The site of them makes me ill. I want them to feel at least half as terrible about what they have done as I do. But nothing, not a word. Not an apology, no humiliation, nothing.
Do I tell them how I feel? Do I let time heal all wounds? Do I just choose for them not to be in my life? If they were present now, I would probably slap their face. What good would that do? If I felt they could learn from this, maybe, but do people like this ever learn? Most of all, I want them to apologize to her, and then leave, get out of her life, never to return. Maybe she wont accept it from them, that is her choice, but at least say it.
Thanks for reading this. I dont know what I expect to accomplish, but somehow putting it in words makes me feel better. I just wish we all would stop and think before we speak or type. Believe me I have, it has taken me an hour to write this, it took me even longer to hit the Post button. Now I am going to go play with ponies and have them fix all my troubles. They carry great power you know.