Hey Goose! What's this I hear now?

[justaboutgeese]

I really appreciate the understanding by so many of you. Christmas in this house was a massive undertaking with friends and relatives with thousands of lights and lots of treats. At this point its all I can do to put one foot in front of the other. My life is in such turmoil between family, friends and lawyers the festive spirit has just brought on more of the depression I have been fighting since this started. Above all there is still some concern (even after all she has done to me) about the health of my (ex?) wife. Having gone off her medications who knows what will become of her. Is she going to allow some lawyer take virtually everything I have worked all my life for leaving little for either of us to continue living on? So many worries and so few solutions. My perspectives are all screwed up and I am afraid I cannot trust myself to make sound decision on my own right now. Sorry to be such a drag on the forum during this festive season. Regards Geese

 

[AppyLover2]

You're not being a "drag" geese. Some times it helps to talk to friends. Obviously lots of people here care about you.

 

[backwoodsnanny]

Geese,

I have stayed quiet on this whole subject as I am also long time married 37 years and I have read every word. I also agree with you that 2-4 months is a drop in the bucket compared with 42 years and with your wifes health issues who knows.

I do believe that the uncertainty of the situation adds to the depression. As the days pass and the inevitability of what will happen becomes clear more decisions can be made but until then as with any life decision the uncertainty rules and adds to the desperation. Dont despair at least not yet for you dont know the outcome. Either way when things become more clear it becomes easier to make decisions but until you know what will happen you can only do the what ifs and thats not productive. You are not dragging anyone down, your forum friends just hate to see anyone so unhappy particularly at this time of year . Only time will let you know what path you will travel from here on out and no matter what the outcome it probably wont be easy but knowing you have so many people from all over the world concerned for your welfare should bring you some courage. I assume you are a God fearing man since you celebrated so lavishly in the past so I will only say one more thing. Whatever happens it is in Gods hands not yours and our plans are not always what is meant to be despite our best efforts to carry out our own agendas. Feel the love that does surround you and Go with God. I am not a religious fanatic I just know that when all else fails and we are in our darkest hour help comes from the strangest places. Love to you and yours during this season.

Nita

 

[lyn_j]

[SIZE=14pt]Vic, please know that both you AND your wife are in my prayers. No pushing from me except this kind...Pray Until Something Happens.....works every time for me. We will hold you up this holiday when you feel like you cant hold yourself up......burdens shared are lightened loads.[/SIZE]

Love and peace to you,

Lyn

 

[Just Us N Texas]

To Vic and MinimomNC, and anyone else who has shared such a loss. I know your pain, depression and dismay. Several years ago, I was widowed in October. I had been happily and nearly blissfully married to the father of my children for 33 years. When the holdays came, I didn't feel like doing anything festive, but I felt I had to for the sake of my daughters. So, I did it in a modified way. Not nearly the decorations, no special baking, and no parties except the usual family dinners. No, it didn't make me feel any better, but neither did it make me feel any worse. Just do what you feel you should, and know in your heart that everyone understands, and wishes you the best.