I have my first real boyfriend.

[Secret22]

My friend Sam from Australia is up for ages and we have developed a serious relationship. He is my first 'REAL' boyfriend so I just had to say something. We have known each other and sort of dated throughout a year but now we have being seeing each other for a few weeks and we just 'click'. I am only 13 so I am taking things really slowely but I just had to say something

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My Mum has a fair idea whats going on I think and hope. We have a double date tomorrow with my friend and her boyfriend so that should be fun

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And don't worry I am being sensible and responsible and taking things slowely.

Can't wait for tomorrow :bgrin

 

[CAM]

My goodness...kids sure start early these days. I can't imagine a boyfriend at 13. I hear that is not uncommon anymore. I sure hope your mom does know what is going on. What exactly does she think you are doing tomorrow when you are on a "double date"? And how old is this boy? His parents aren't concerned he is going on a date with a 13 year old girl? I sure wouldn't let my daughter go on a double date at the age of 13. I know kids go out in a group to the mall or maybe the movies or dinner these days but a full fledged date with someone you call your boyfriend...at 13?! I might be old school but in my book, that is way too young, double date or not. My kids are going to love me aren't they? :bgrin

Edited to say: "Taking it slowly"?? What is there to take slowly? A 13yo saying they are "Taking it slowly" As a mother of a soon to be tween...I am mortified to hear this. :new_shocked:

 

[Secret22]

Its only a date at my house while my Mums at work. We arent like having you know what or anything lol - NEVER for me!!!!!!!

We are being sensible and responsible, my Mum trusts me to do whats right.

 

[justaboutgeese]

I was just going to add to the last post. My girls are just reaching the age where I trust them to go out, that would be 35 and 37. At thirteen they were only allowed school activities that were co-ed. Guess I am really old fashioned. But if your mom approves have fun.

 

[Secret22]

We are having tons of fun. Yea, by takin things slowely I mean not getting to serious. Yep the world has sure changed, I had my first 'boyfriend' at 10 (wasnt real tho!!). Mum trusts me and has already given me the pep talk lol and I would never at this age - NEVER

 

[New_Image]

CAM I agree but its not uncommon for them to be doing 'more then dateing' by 14/15, I have a 14 year old cousin who had a "sleep over" with her boyfriend - Her parents are twits and all she got was a slight talking to (That would be the day..) But I let her have it, she wasnt happy with me. I let her know that if she was my kid her boyfriend would be by by and she'd be on a leash for a long time plus be grounded from all source of life for a good month - she gave me the biggest glare youve ever seen, told me I was insane, no one waits anymore, all the other kids do it ect...

Secret, have fun, but be good or Im comming to New Z to yell at you to

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[Secret22]

CAM I agree but its not uncommon for them to be doing 'more then dateing' by 14/15, I have a 14 year old cousin who had a "sleep over" with her boyfriend - Her parents are twits and all she got was a slight talking to (That would be the day..) But I let her have it, she wasnt happy with me. I let her know that if she was my kid her boyfriend would be by by and she'd be on a leash for a long time plus be grounded from all source of life for a good month - she gave me the biggest glare youve ever seen, told me I was insane, no one waits anymore, all the other kids do it ect...

Secret, have fun, but be good or Im comming to New Z to yell at you to

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[Lisa]

WOW! :new_shocked: I think I'm old fashioned too...even though I'm not old! I had my first boyfriend at 16, almost 17! I didn't do "you know what" til I was 20... All I have to say is...

BE CAREFUL!!!!

How old is this guy? Has your parents met him?

Its only a date at my house while my Mums at work.

Did your mom know this??? Wow... yah.... just be careful eh? We don't want you to get hurt and boys that age really do have a lot of hormones, so do girls and sometimes things happen that you aren't prepared for and happen before you realize it!

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ETA: Sorry! I know you just wanted to share your excitement. It can be very exciting, we just all worry for you and the other younger members. I'm glad you are having fun! Just make sure it is always on your terms!

 

[Secret22]

Sam is 13, same age as me. he is very polite and kind as well as humourous. Mum and Dad have both met him and like him much. His Dad is a laywer and Sam is much like his Dad - a real gentlemen.

Don't worry Lisa, I won't be doing "you know what" till Im at least 25 for sure - Okay maybe not that old but still I am a long way off. Mum and Dad would cut my fingers off lol if I done it before 16 lol.

I just met Sams older brother because Sam lives right next to us and he is sooooooo shy lol.

Dont worry - I wont do ANYTHING stupid!!!!!!!!

 

[shortymisty]

I'm happy for you in getting the "first" boyfriend but as you know here it comes, my daughter is your age and she's not allowed to "date" until 25. OK kidding, please be careful this is a very impressionable time and you sound very mature at 13 and hopefully will make the right decisions as I hope my daughter will as it seems you are well-informed by your mum as my daughter is by me, but there are those times when you just forget, please always remember that you are in control and have the last word. My daughter-in-law's son just announed at 17 that he's a "daddy" and quite proud of it :new_shocked: . I told my daughter if she every did that at that age, there would be no 18 :bgrin , ok kidding again. Have fun, OH and what movie are you going to see?

 

[Lauralee]

DOES YOUR MOTHER KNOW THIS IS HAPPENING?

 

[~LadyBug~]

13??? Dang, and I thought boys still had cooties at that age! :new_shocked: :bgrin

Im 17 and havent had a serious relationship, and I agree that theres no need to 'label' anything. The guys I hang out with are alot of fun, but immature and trouble makers, so I would never actually seriously date them.

If I meet a guy that is mature and doing something with is life, and knows how to treat a girl, then we will talk about 'dating'

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Please be careful and tell your mom whats going on.

Ashley

 

[KrisP]

OH MY CHILD!! You are SOOOOO lucky you're not my child, this would NOT be going on! Oh my, if this is the way kids are today then yep, yet again it's a good thing I don't have any!! Any thoughts of dating at 13 and I'd keep you so busy you'd be to exausted to even THINK about boys!

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Krisp

 

[tuffsmom]

Well, congrats on your Boyfriend! LoL, that has to be exciting for you. You sound like any other typical teenager, all giddy & giggly. You'll make good choices...I know you will.

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[EAD Minis]

Ya my parents tried to keep me from having a boyfriend and going to partys and still dont like it so I end up sneaking out the window of my bedroom and shimmieing down our pole (thanx to our new porch) I am very responsible and I dont see why they wouldnt let me go.It just caused me to sneak out...I know its bad but im not aloud to do ANY THING so I have to go behind there backs.Im just letting you parents know this so maybe you wont have to go throught what my parents are going through...especialy since I'm ther oldest and they have no clue wats going on.They havnt cought me yet!!Please dont flame my parents though its more me doing it then them....congrats on ur bf and hope ur double date goes well!!!

: ooo and just to let you know I dont do anything I shouldnt be doing...

 

[Secret22]

We are meeting up at lunch. Don't worry guys! I would never do anything I shouldn't - NEVER. Its not gonna happen, nope its not lol. I will make good choices and I know I have the last word and nothing nothing nothing is is going to happen

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[Feather1414]

We are meeting up at lunch. Don't worry guys! I would never do anything I shouldn't - NEVER. Its not gonna happen, nope its not lol. I will make good choices and I know I have the last word and nothing nothing nothing is is going to happen

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Hey Secret, I do fully trust you. I am 16, but younger at heart. I can say that I have only dated one guy, but it wasn't too serious. However, he started to go against my wishes and I would firmly tell him "NO" but he wouldnt listen. My advice to you... if he starts trying ANYTHING funny, lock yourself in the bathroom ((preferably with a phone if you can manage it )) and just stay there. Don't let him in no matter what. A lot can happen when you are alone, and it doesn't always go too well.

Anyways, have fun!

 

[minimama]

Geese, I am with you all the way!!! My 19 year old barely gets let out of the house unsupervised! I would never in a million years allow a thirteen year old to date and definitely not home alone with a boy. OMG!!!

But then I am a bit of aprude I guess and very very old fashioned too. I like it that way though.

Ya my parents tried to keep me from having a boyfriend and going to partys and still dont like it so I end up sneaking out the window of my bedroom and shimmieing down our pole (thanx to our new porch) I am very responsible and I dont see why they wouldnt let me go.It just caused me to sneak out...I know its bad but im not aloud to do ANY THING so I have to go behind there backs.Im just letting you parents know this so maybe you wont have to go throught what my parents are going through...especialy since I'm ther oldest and they have no clue wats going on.They havnt cought me yet!!Please dont flame my parents though its more me doing it then them....congrats on ur bf and hope ur double date goes well!!!

: ooo and just to let you know I dont do anything I shouldnt be doing...

Saying you are responsible and then saying you sneak out, is really a contradiction in terms Trystan. Very poor choices you are making with your life there. What if something happened to you or to your parents while you were out and they would not even know you were gone. We all make bad decisions some times, but this sounds like it happens too often and that would be a consistent bad choice. Not good for you or anyone else. I hope you will consider that your parents may just knwo some things you don't and have a very good reason for making their rules for their house, which by the way you are living in rent free.

 

[Secret22]

I am counting down the minutes till he gets here. But darn it is only 10.00am and he is coming at lunchtime. Nothing is going to happen and plus my two best best mates are dating and they are gonna be there with us - completely safe. We are not going to do things stupid for sure!!

 

[nootka]

Just want to say that you might want to make sure there are no "spur of the moment" decisions on anyone's part, to make an irretrievable "mistake."

I myself had "boyfriends" when I was in high school, but we were NEVER alone in each other's company, we always had a group of adults with us as in school, or were in a public place such as a movie theatre or mall.

Never riding alone in a car, and never alone in a home with each other or another couple.

These were hand-holding type boyfriends, more friends than anything else, and I would not change that for the WORLD. I NEVER look back and wish I'd gotten "more serious" while in high school. I don't think anyone is truly emotionally ready for the complexity that is involved with serious romantic relationships.

You need time to practice and explore being good friends with someone, and learning how to be a good friend first of all.

I waited until a few years after I left high school to get more serious with anyone, and I was probably premature at that, given my emotional immaturity due to childhood circumstances. Still, I expect at least 18 for my kids.

Please be careful. Good intentions easily get tossed aside in the heat of the moment.

You will never regret waiting, and if he thinks you don't need to wait, then he is not respecting you, and that is ultimately the deciding factor on whether or not he is "for real".

Best wishes,

Liz M.