I need prayers for myself....

[lyn_j]

[SIZE=14pt]I hesitate to post my problems here but I have seen what the power of prayer from people on this board has done for folks. This request is of a different sort. My husband is a work a holic. He is gone 16 hours a day monday thru friday, usually 8-10 hours saturday and most sundays after church. He gets home about 9 every night eats dinner and falls asleep in the chair. I cant wait till 9 to eat because of my sugars so I eat before. After Robby goes home it gets VERY lonely here and so..... I get sad ....and what do I do???? I eat ....for comfort. I have now gained back 40 pouds of the 125 I lost 7 years ago and it is frustrating to me because I cant seem to stop. Like a food aholic of sorts. I eat when I am sad or depressed to stuff the feelings that I cant say when he gets home..... I need prayer support to stop the excessive eating. Im ok as long as the baby is here and it is daylight but come 5 pm and Im looking at 4 hours home alone..... I eat stupid things like bread and butter......stuff like that. Help![/SIZE]

Lyn

 

[sedeh]

[SIZE=14pt]Lyn,[/SIZE]

Of course you have my prayers! With your diabetes you know how important it is to control your weight. That said, I have had a weight problem all my life and I know exactly what you mean by boredom eating. Somehow healthy snacks don't cut it either. I used to try to do things with my hands like cross-stitch but I know you have vision problems too. There must be something we can think of that will occupy your hands so you don't want to boredom eat. The real problem seems to be that your husband is a work-a-holic......does he have to be to make ends meet? Maybe you need to talk to him about how it makes you feel. Good luck Lyn.

 

[minisaremighty]

Now, Lyn, I don't want to have to worry about you too! You were a nurse, you KNOW better and I'm sure that just makes it all the worse for you.

You need to keep away from the food, and you know that. Think of Robby. You want to watch that gorgeous little boy grow into the wonderful young man you know he's going to be. If keep sabotaging yourself, you will not be here to see that. We don't want that!

I've been a food-aholic for a long time. Plus, being home all day raising the kids has made it worse. I've actually lost weight in the last few months and have been maintaining this lower weight. I attribute it to having some healthier things to snack on and FORCING myself to eat those things instead of what I would have normally ate. I eventually got used to them and now go straight for them without having to force myself anymore.

We know you don't mean to sabotage yourself. You did an awesome job losing 125 lbs you don't want to gain any more of it back. If you find yourself about ready to eat something, come to the Back Porch and start a thread. We'll help you through it.

((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))) I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Triggy&Blue&Daisy Too]

Lyn you and I both know it's not about food but your feelings. There is no technique, substitute or will power that will overcome lonliness. You need to have a sit down with hubby or get assistance from a counselor to really fix this. You are in my prayers that your dear hubby will see that what you really need is him. After all that IS what marriage is all about.

 

[capall beag]

That is a tough one!

I will prayer for you.

I have never had a weight problem, must be my genes because I love to eat and am a terrible grazer!

I have found that if I drink lots of water it helps! I will drink at least 16 oz of water before I sit down to munch

and it helps fill me up!!!!!!!!

I also don't have any of my favorite snacks in the house so late night there is nothing to tempt me

I wish I could offer you some words of wisdom...

 

[Miniv]

Lyn,

Two suggestions...... Buy a BIG bag of carrots. Go out to your horses after Robby

leaves and before your husband gets home. Then, do the ONE for YOU to each horse

and ONE for ME with carrots.

Trust me, you will NOT be alone for long!

MA

 

[MInx]

Lyn, First of all I want to know how you lost the 125!! I need to lose about 80, not an option anymore, have to.

I have free long distance and if it would help could I call you and keep you company at times? We could chat about anything oyu want, Robby, horses , mentor me aka kick my butt re food

, anything to distract you and get past that gotta have it phase.

I would be glad to do that any time. If you would like that PM me your number and pm me when you need it and I'll call immediatly and we'll try to laugh it all off.

I've spent my share of lonely days and nights and know what you're going through. Winter and short days doesn't help, and sometimes having someone outside the family to vent with helps. I'm here with hugs, Maxine

 

[Buckskin gal]

[SIZE=14pt]Lyn, You have my prayers but to help overcome this habit you will have to keep in mind that there is is smething to live for and if it is Robby and the horses that you love so much then that is what you will have to think about each time you take in food that isn't needed. I kicked the smoking habit over ten years ago by thinking what it was I wanted to live for. Yes, I do need to loose some weight now and need to rethink again why it is important to keep healthy. We have to help you find something that will keep you occupied in the time you are alone. What hobbies have you been able to do since your eyes have failed you? Mary[/SIZE]

 

[ChrystalPaths]

Oh Lyn, you have my prayers and my help too.

 

[wade3504]

Lyn,

I am praying for you. I too as you know was diabetic and ate things I shouldn't, and now have sight problems also. I didn't gain weight but it did throw my blood sugars off. One suggesstion I can think of is books on tape. When my right eye first went and the left was pretty weak many people got me books on tape as I like to read. I too would call and talk with you or pm you as I am home most of the day as I recently had my transplant and won't be going back to school until the summer. If anything I'll call you and give you daily reports on Howie if it will help

Amanda

 

[Sterling]

Prayers and good thoughts for you Lyn. What a dollbaby Maxine is to make an offer such as one she has made...I'd immediately take her up on it! Also I find when I am busy alot of times during the day and stay off the forum, when I come back at night to read and post, it usually takes me forever. Maybe busy yourself with your horses and Robby during the day, stay off the comupter until that time where there is a gap between Robby and hubby coming home. Then sit down iwth a nice cup of herbal teal, relax and read....maybe try changing your routine so you don't get too bored. Plus this time of year, during the holidays with all that food and goodies going around it's very tempting. I'm wishing you the best, and Hershee wants you to take care of yourself, because he wants you to be able to see us in the showring one day soon! I did give him a big hug and kiss from you!

 

[lyn_j]

[SIZE=14pt]Thanks Everyone... yes Maxine I will call you.... pm me your #. As far as candy and cookies I dont keep any of that around in fact when we had our christmas sunday, amy had to bake a batch of snickerdoodles because we didnt have anything here! Also no candy ever..... I dont eat bad things just too much of the ok things. Having all the dental work fresh crunchy vegies are out. Im sporting 4 temp crowns for another 6 weeks because they lost my impressions! Insulin is a fat storing hormone so it really doesnt take many calories for me to gain. Less than 1000 actually. I dont have any light in my new barn so all my horse chores are done before dark. We check them again at bed time with a flashlight. I cant read books I do listen to books on tape, I get them every month sent from the library for the blind. My entire comunication with the outside world is this forum because I cant get in the car and go anywhere..... I come on here when Robby naps which is twice a day for a couple of hours.....I guess Im angry with Barry and his job for occupying his whole existance..... it has been like this for more than a year now.....If it wouldnt be for this forum and Robby and Bruce calling me every day I would be a basket or as Robby says "Bakset" case. I really need to tell Barry how I am feeling but then he gets mad and yells about other stuff usually animal related because he knows that will hurt me back thats sort of my "currancy".... says he cant help it about the job which I know is totally true!I know he doesnt like me fat either so I guess underneath it is getting back at him...real mature huh???

[/SIZE]

There has to be a way out.

Lyn

 

[keeperofthehorses]

You know you have our prayers Lyn, and lots of 'em! I bet if you came on here during those lonely hours we could keep you entertained. Also there are lots of pretty decent sugar-free snacks and treats now. Maybe some sugar-free suckers to help those cravings? I also like the idea of books on tape, or music. Maybe teach those Corgis a few tricks? Big big hugs for you.


BTW, I think your grandbaby is soooo lucky to have you for a nana.

 

[shane]

HI LYN, IM SOO WITH YOU ON THIS ONE, I WAS SO OVERWEIGHT A FEW YEARS AGO I USED TO BE 17 STONE, I FELT SOOO BIG I WAS COMFORT EATING AFTER A CRISIS I WENT THROUGH, AS SOON AS MY HUSBAND WENT TO WORK ID GO TO THE SHOP ACROSS THE STREET WHICH DOESNT HELP AND BUY LOADS OF CHOCOLATE UN TIL I FELT SICK,I GOT FED UP GOING INTO THE LARGE LADIES SHOPS I WAS ONLY 30 THEN ANYWAY . FINALLY MY HUSBAND HELPED ME TO JOIN A GYM, [NEVER AGAIN,] I HAD ALL THE KIDS LOOKING AT ME,I STARTED TO SWIM 30 LENGTHS A DAY AND I REALLY FOUND IT HARD BUT I DID EVENTUALLY LOOSE THE WEIGHT , BUT I CAN FEEL MY OLD WAYS SLIPPING BACK IM EATING BISCUITS ALL THE TIME, I VERY RARELY GO OUT, IVE NO FRIENDS TO DISTRACT ME, BUT WHY DONT WE START A WEIGHT LOSS PLAN WITH ANYONE ELSE THAT WANTS TO HELP, WE CAN TALK EACH DAY ABOUT HOW ITS GOING,AND TRY TO SUPPORT EACH OTHER, IM UP FOR IT OR WE COULD PM EACH OTHER AND YOU CAN TEACH ME THE SECTRETS OF THE MINIATURE HORSE LOL THERE ARE A LOT OF PEOPLE OUT THERE THAT CAN RELATE TO YOU LYN AND WERE ALL HERE FOR YOU,I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO MAKE NEW FRIENDS HERE AND SURE IF IT KEEPS OUR HANDS OFF THE CALORIES WELL AND GOOD, I FEEL FOR YOU LYN

{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}

 

[whitney]

[SIZE=14pt]Find a "fat" picture of yourself blow it up to 8 1/2 x 11 size and post it in the kitchen where you can see it. You'd be surprised how well this works to keep you from boredom eating.[/SIZE]

 

[justaboutgeese]

(SIZE=14]I will offer my moral and spiritual support as much as possible. I do not of course recommend the method of weight loss I just went through expecially with a diabetic condition. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Do yourself a favlor and explain to your husband that you need him more than the money he is bringing in by the extra work.

 

[shortymisty]

I think I know how you feel, you're alone what else to do but eat, I do. Of course the husbands are not going to listen, men don't want to hear the problems they just want to fix them but how do you fix them when you have no support. Lyn, I think you have all the support here, come to the board, you know there is always someone on here at all hours of the day. Do like Maxine said and call someone, with cell phones giving you free long distance these days, that's more economical than in the past. I draw and it's exciting when you get a new color pencil, ok that sounds silly but it's not. Don't give up, you are not alone I love bread and butter! Cheese bread is my weakness. You may not have a face with the name here, but most people on here are truly genuine and no matter what would help with whatever problem someone had. Sending hugs and prayers to you from NC. Tracy

 

[Jess P]

[SIZE=14pt]Lyn, [/SIZE]

You always have my thoughts!

Jessica

 

[Shari]

Everyone has given such good Advice Lyn. We are all here for you.

<<Hugs>>

 

[ChrystalPaths]

You call me anytime Lyn, I'm always home!