I really need your support right now

[Feather1414]

Monday night, there was a dance. My best friend and I were going to go, but at the last second we decided not too, and she went to my choir teachers house for a movie night.(( We are in a tight knit choir group)) Anyways. She left their house at 11:25 or so. The dance had ended at 11.

Two boys from my school had pulled over right over the top of a hill to change a flat tire. This is about the worst blindspot in our town. They couldn't pull over very far because there was no shoulder due to the snow. Well my friend at the same moment they were both behind the car getting the tire, hit them. She pinned both of them to the car.

As of right now, both boys are still in critical condition. They BOTH lost both of their legs.

I just don't know what to do. Today being the first day back at school was AWFUL. I don't know if I can write anymore. Here is a link to the news report though. I PROMISE you she WASN'T drinking, or doing drugs. However, it's looking like she was speeding. But thats rather typical of my friend.

I just need support. She is totally fine physically, but she may never come back to school. I may have lost my best friend, and I don't know what to do.

http://www.9news.com/news/article.aspx?storyid=63251

Oh, and the drivers car. I used to sit in the passenger seat ALL the time. I just can't believe this is happening.

If we had only gone to the dance, she would have been taking me home at that time, rather than going home herself.

I can't release her name legally yet, because it hasn't yet been released to anyone else.

Sorry, this was supposed to be on the backporch. Can someone move it please?

 

[lilhorseladie]

Oh My goodness, this makes me sad and sick! One lost moment, one thoughtless move has impacted the life of at least five people, but I'm guessing many more! Your friend didn't mean to make this mistake, but she will pay for it for the rest of her life. You need to be supportive of her if you can. Stress responsibility. I am guessing she is sick! I am so sorry that you and your friends have to go through this, but honestly, it could have happened here just as easily. I will pray for those two young men, your friend and all others close to the incident. Hang in there kiddo!

 

[PrestigeMiniHorses]

My thoughts and prayers go out to all 5 of you...I'm so very sorry

 

[SWA]

OH my goodness Jamie! I'm soooo sorry this is happening for you and your friends. Oh God be with you all through this. Will hold those boys, your friend, you, all of you & your families, in heart and prayers. {{{HUGS}}}.

In His Hands,

Tanya

 

[Voodoo]

I am so sorry. Lilhorseladie said it all very well, just hang in there, I am praying that the boys pull through. Things like this are so hard on everyone ((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))) coming to you. Please know we are all here for you

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[Magic]

This is so horrifying, I feel sick to my stomach.

Feather, I feel badly for your friend but those boys, OMG. I feel far worse for them and their families. What a terrible, awful tragedy... I am so sorry for all concerned.

 

[Candleliteranch]

What a tragedy! Your friend will really need your support in a time like this. How horrible that one moment in time can so deastically change so many lives. I'll keep You, your friend and the boys and their families in my thoughts and prayers.

 

[Kynedi's Mom]

THis is a terribly tragedy, My prayers & thoughts for you , your friend & the boys. Thank GOD that they are alive, God works in mysterous ways. It may take a very long time for his purpose to show itself, but it will. God Bless, & remember to be a good friend to your friend - She WILL need you !

 

[Reble]

: for you all

 

[PaintedPromiseRanch]

: for all... i have a 17-year-old myself, like several have said makes me sick to my stomach... how easily something like this can happen. how horrible for everyone!

 

[Miniv]

Oh God......What a horrible heartbreak for all involved.......

Hon, you can't do anything for the two boys while they are in critical condition in the hospital....EXCEPT let their parents know you are praying for them with a card and/or a phone call.

However, in the meantime, you can be a friend to a person who must be going through h*ll.

MA

 

[twister]

Jaimie, My dear I don't know what else to say except you absolutely have our support and prayers and hugs coming for you, your friend, those poor boys and their families too.

Yvonne

 

[minih]

How very tragic and horribly sad. I feel sorry for all the families involved, and will keep them in my thoughts and prayers.

If we had only gone to the dance, she would have been taking me home at that time, rather than going home herself.

Just remember you can't blame yourself for everything in life. She was not your responsibility, and you can not go thru life second guessing every little decision you will have to make. It is tragic, horrible, and something that will haunt her and those families forever, but not your fault. <<<hugs>>>

 

[Marty]

Oh my god Jamie I knew I shouldn't have read this.........I don't know what to say

Please don't tell Dan when you talk to him. He can't handle anything like this.

Jamie.......ohgeesh.........

Why oh why do these things happen ?

It doesn't make any sense........

I'm sorry Jamie

 

[Mona]

:no: Oh no, my thoughts and prayers are going out to you, your friend, and the boys and their families. May God bless you all. (((((HUGS)))))

 

[Sunny]

Oh Jamie. I'm so sorry to hear this. I just can't express what I'm truly feeling. Certainly we'll all be praying for you and your friend, the boys, and all the families involved. How unspeakably horrible. And as someone else already mentioned, please don't beat yourself up over this. It was totally not your fault, and all the "if only's" in the world won't change what happened. You haven't lost your best friend at all! She needs you now more than ever!!

 

[bluetaterbaby]

: My thoughts and prayers are there for all of you. I'm so sorry all this happened....I do know that God is in control. Just know that many of these wonderful people on this forum genuinely care and offer their prayers as well. Please don't blame yourself.

God bless,

Joan

 

[shane]

omg jamie im so genuinley sorry for you, you must be devastated........lets hope and pray that they pull through.........it puts life into priority when things like this happens.........im sorry jamie :no:

 

[Wee Mite Miniatures]

Jamie,

This is a hard thing for every one to go through.

You have not lost a best friend. Right now it is time for you to BE A BEST FRIEND. Spend as much time with your friend as possible. Some days you do not have to say anything. Just be there with a hug. Sit there listen to music. Above all let her talk if and when she wants to.

 

[Warpony]

Oh sweetie! The hurt and pain you are going through yourself are so clear in your words, I just want to gather you up and give you a huge hug!

remember that YOU can not be blamed for this. It sounds like you kind of want to take some of the guilt onto your self. NONE of this is your fault.

Your friend made a poor choice, and now she and these boys are all going to pay in ways no one can yet imagine. But she needs you now. She is responsible for this horrible thing but that does not make her a bad person... she needs to know she has people who love her no matter what. The thing is, a lot of people are going to be very angry at her right now, and with good reason. It is going to be hard for you to hear some of the things they may say about her, but these people are grieving for their friends who were hurt and they need to be able to vent about it. Try not to excuse her actions, but don;t be afraid to remind them that she is very sorry for what happened and is hurting horribly because of it.

I've been in similar shoes to yours, though my friend died in the accident (he fell asleep at the wheel and killed a pregnant woman and her two small kids) and I had to battle with the fact that he really was to blame for the accident. It's hard to deal with, harder then if it were just a situation where there was ice on the roads or something and it was a true accident, because it could have been prevented. The people who were angry and hated him had good reason to feel that way but that didn;t change the fact that I knew him, he was a great guy, a loving husband and father... who just made a mistake. Unfortunately his mistake cost him and 4 innocent people their lives.

I'm not sure I am explaining what i mean properly here, but I guess what I am trying to say is that she needs you, the people who love and care for the boys are going to be angry at her and you need to not take that personally but also not try to excuse her actions. Just be there for her in any way you can.

This is something that will haunt her the rest of her life, she needs to know that she has people who love her no matter what.

I'm just heartbroken for everyone involved. I keep imagining how I would feel if my child was one of the ones hurt, or if my child was the one driving who hit them... and it makes my heart break. I'm not sure how I would react. This whole thing is just terrible.