JUSTABOUTGEESE Time to come back now

[Marty]

You are very missed.

Please come back now and join us.

 

[Relic]

Yes l second that

come back.

 

[kaykay]

marty i was just about to post the same thing! geese where are ya???

 

[Marty]

Vic's had a ruff time the last two months with personal stuff, but I hope he's doing better now. I've been praying for him. I know he's lurking, or atleast he was last I heard.

Please Vic, come on back now. We really miss your wit.

 

[rabbitsfizz]

Yay, c'mon, Vic, show yourself

 

[Valerie]

Here, here I agree......we miss you......come back..... I miss your wit, I knew that whenever I read one of your posts, I would be guaranteed at least a chuckle.

 

[bfogg]

I also miss you and your wit and good common sense.

Bonnie

 

[C & C Farms]

Hope everything is ok with you Geese....come back soon!

 

[ChrystalPaths]

C'mon Vic, I sent you this thread! See how we love you!

 

[justaboutgeese]

In my last post I was off to moose camp for a week or ten days of hunting and relaxing. Many of you wished me well and off I went. Over the course of the week I managed to get near a phone and call home three times over the eight days just to check on the animals and tell my wife how much I loved and missed her. On Oct 12 I arrived home about 6 PM to the shock of my life and my entire world crumbled under my feet. The house was literally stripped clean and my wife had left. Just a note saying she was "unhappy" This is the same woman I have worshiped an put on a pedestal for a total of 42 years. Virtually everything of value had been removed from the house, her jewelry worth about $50,000, art work that she claimed she didn`t really care for, collectibles as I said if it Had value it was gone. Checking account left with a $42.00 balance and not a clue where she had gone.

She told me not to look for her as I would not find her. My oldest daughter took her out for the Canadian Thanksgiving just two days before she disappeared had no idea anything was out of the ordinary. My youngest daughter is equally in the dark. My wife had spent the time moving belongings into a self storage locker and on the day of my return turned up at a "battered" womans shelter of all places. We heard reports of her being seen several times in a town near hear but neither the kids or I had a clue to go on. I have been just devastated, the pains I feel even today go beyond endurance. Its as though the heart and soul have been ripped from my chest. I do not know what kind of story you need to tell to get into a battered womans shelter but I swear an oath I have never harmed that woman either by thought word or deed in all of the time we have been together. She stayed in the shelter for protection then stayed in another town with a wheelchair bound friend who she has helped out over the years. After hiding out there for three weeks has ended up back in New York state. My daughters feel terribly hurt because after nearly two month they have had little or no communication with her. My wife who over the years has had major bouts of depression (some lasting over two years) has stopped all of her medications and at this point I am sure is on a emotional track leading for a head on collision with reality. But this time she has no support network or network of doctors familiar with her problems. She is in an area where she has family but since she has not lived with or near them for almost forty years they know nothing about her or her problems. I have no idea what stories she has told them but when I tried to phone the one member of the family I have the utmost respect for I was shocked. I have never been treated with such hate and disdain in all of my life. My daughters received the same treatment.

At this juncture of my life I find myself totally lost. This house we build as a small retirement home now seems so huge with me going from room to room. Any plans I had for the future are gone and as I told the one forum member who has been a sounding board fro all my grief and a soft email shoulder for me to lean on the one biggest fears I have ever had in my life is on the verge of coming true. Growing old alone. After giving and caring for 42 years it seems now that my freely given love and affection have been stepped upon and ground into the dirt by the one woman I have cared about all of this time.

My future plans even short term are all up in the air. I am a lost soul at this point and wandering with no direction or goal at this point in time. You folks now know more than my neighbors who were shocked at this. The Day before she left one neighbor asked her if she wanted certain plants from her garden, was told yes so two hours was spent digging them up for her and she left hours later never even picking them up. The other neighbor one of her best friends cried . they went to meetings, bingos, theater and many other places together as friends

I am sorry that on this day of thanksgiving for most of you this had to come out . I asked Delmore to break a wishbone for me today. Maybe a few more of you can do the same. At this point my quick wit and sense of humor seem to have gotten away from me. So for all of you today---- Each of you give thanks, each in his own words, each in his own way, for the blessings that you have. Regards Geese.

 

[justanothercowgirl]

Oh my, my heart goes out to you Vic!! Before I even got to the part in your post about your wife's depression I was thinking mental illness. I had a spouse who suffered from depression and know how radically different a loved one can behave when they aren't taking their meds. I will pray for a good outcome for you and for you to find some peace. I just don't even know what else to say, what a blow.

Pam

 

[justaboutgeese]

Oh Geese, I don't know what to say.  It's a nightmare.  I want to rock you until your heart is better. 
Can you find a relative of hers who is willing to listen to you?  Or who will take the time to read a letter?

I'm so sorry you're enduring this.

I'm going to start with prayer.

barnbum

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AS I said I do not know what stories she has told but my daughters and I phone and are treated with rudeness and disdain. There is virtually no communication.

 

[Mona]

Oh no Geese, I am truely saddened by your post. I wish there was something I could do to help. I can only imagine the devastation you must be feeling. Words seem so hollow in comparison to what you are experiencing, but they are all I have to offer. I am so sorry, and wish you the best of luck through this terrible time in your life. (((((HUGS)))))

 

[Robin1]

Dear Vic,

I am so sorry that you are going through this horrible ordeal. I too was thinking something along the lines of Manic Depression, and going off her meds is certainly not going to help.

Everybody here that has read anything you have written know how much you love your wife. Its a shame that her family will not listen but they may in time. I am glad you have your daughters for some support.

Please feel free to email, pm, or call anytime of the day/night if you need to talk. You are in my prayers.

Robin

 

[runamuk]

Oh Geese.....there aren't words.......consider our wishbone yours.....((((((HUGS)))))

 

[kaykay]

oh vic i cant even imagine what you are going thru and how devastated you are. i have tears just reading your post. Wish there was something i could do! i will be saying prayers and sending good thoughts your way to get thru this terrible time.

Please know that someone like you with such a wonderful heart and spirit wont be alone for long. I know right now you cant even think about that, but someday a great woman will come along and know what a great man you are and share her life with you

Kay

 

[user 488]

I am so sorry. You, of all people just don't seem to deserve this.

Carol

 

[Candleliteranch]

I see my world about to be turned upside down too and all I can say to you is Peace be with you.........

 

[Horse Hugs]

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I was shocked to read this as your posts were always so smart and sensitive and I always thought what a lucky woman your wife was. I know of man (neighbor) who is in a very similar situation right now. I wish he had a computer- I would invite him on here to talk to you.

I will keep you in my prayers and send you good thoughts to keep you strong.

I wish I could do more.

Sandy

 

[justaboutgeese]

I see my world about to be turned upside down too and all I can say to you is Peace be with you.........

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My advice is to do all you can within your power to escape the pain I am in. The loss of a loved one like this is worse than death because of the total rejection that come with it. pains like this do not heal. Think long and hard before you feel the pain or cause it. Geese.