the sire of my foal carries the gene and I am sure it won't be his last foal so why is it that my girl should be a pet as long as I deal with the out come like this baby she's here to stay
Well, I guess there are a few areas of thought on this, depending on how you would want to manage your herd...afterall, they are YOUR horses, you can do with them as you please, no matter what people think.
First off (and I am not pointing fingers...just giving examples of what you may or may not want to do), 2 wrongs don't make a right, so in saying "he's still breeding, so why cant my mare still breed?" that is a question only you can answer. Many will say you shouldn't and neither should the stallion. Some may say they will continue breeding to anything and taking their chances, while others may say they will only breed to those that are not known to carry the gene...that is, bredding to other horses that have not (at least YET) produced a dwarf.
Until there is a test, I would personally "never say never". Please understand, I am not telling or suggesting to you what to do, and many disagree very strongly with me, but this is a decision that YOU, as the breeder, must feel comfortable with.
When I was breeding, I did breed again even after the horse produced a dwarf. In fact, not thinking, and not knowing as much as I have learned throughout the following years, I went and rebred a stallion to the same mare that produced a dwarf. After I realized what I had done, I was on pins and needles, fearing the worst! Thankfully, the foal was A-OK, and I learned that lesson really quick! It was the same mare that went on to produce another dwarf foal by a different stallion, and I never bred her again, and I disclosed this to the new owner of the mare. She was sold to a pet home along with her dwarf filly Star that I posted earlier in this thread. That home could no longer keep them and they went to a second wonderful pet home, where they still both remain to the best of my knowledge.(at least I havn't heard otherwise) Anyway, back on track here. When I sold the stallion, I informed the buyer that he did produce a dwarf. Although many hate that I chose to breed known carriers, it was MY choice. I am not one to sweep things under the rug, and openly told interested parties that he had sired a dwarf. I believe he had sired 16 foals, and one was a dwarf. This is a good example of how a dwarf carrier can produce a large number of foals and tilt the 25% statistical number. Had that one dwarf been born at the end of the time, vs the beginning, even those culling immediately would have had 15 other foals on the ground potentially adding many more carriers, and is the reason why those that want to cull immediately, do.) So, it was my choice to give my horses a second chance before culling them.
Now then, if there was a test available, I am not sure what I would have done. I would not have immediately culled all carriers from my herd, until I knew more about how widespread it all was. I would likely have kept them, breeding selectively to non-carriers, at least for awhile. In other words, I would not have made a hasty decision to get rid of all carriers.
And, others will immediately cull the stallion and the mare, and that is a good thing too. Again, the horses belong to them, and they have a good reason for doing it, and feel so strongly about it, they will do whatever it takes to clean their herd.
So, ultimately, the chopice is one you have to make. To each their own.