I always try to put myself in anothers shoes and to understand why they are the way that they are, if you understand me, somtimes it works, but some people just don't understand how hurtful their words are, or their tone of voice, or just the body language involved with what they say. Anyhow, my father-in-law died in 1996, my mother-in-law couldn't care for herself so we moved her in here, we got along most of the time, but she could be very grumpy, and that is putting it nicely. I was still working when she moved in, but did everything for her. She did nothing, and I mean nothing. I stepped out of the hen house and broke my ankle. The ER doctor told me to go home stay in bed with it elevated to reduce swelling until I got in to the ortho doctor to have it set and put in a cast. This happened on a Fri. evening. Sunday morning I always cooked breatfast for evryone, she walks by my bedroom and says to my hubby I can make you breakfast if you want, but not for evryone, that is too much. It really hurt my feelings since I'd been cooking for her for years, all meals. I just let it roll off my back. She has passed now, colon cancer. In the end I did everything, even retired so I could care for her, driving her, feeding her, helping her get around, etc. The way I see it is, you can't fix these type of people, there must something deep inside of them for this behaviour, maybe it is pain, or maybe a defense mechanisim, who knows, I just try to stay away from them, and like Robin I hate leaving the farm, and like Bev. my snimals love me, fat, thin, wrinkled, crippled, whatever.
