I have very mixed feelings about this.........and I'm speaking as an infertile woman who wanted children all of her life.
When I was finally given that "medical sentence" that I will never be able to conceive, and it was something I dearly wanted, something I wanted to share with my husband, I went into Grief Mode.
When that happens, couples will start looking at every and all alternative opportunities out there. We did. We went through the Invitro program (3 times), and we looked into surrogacy.
Surrogacy is an option, but only for special cases, in my opinion. It's obviously expensive, but so are all of the other options. It also takes a very special woman to be a surrogate. Plus, there is the risk of Scams out there.
Adoption is also available.......but that is also a risk, very expensive, and very difficult for many reasons. The risk includes having the bio-mom change her mind once the baby is born. (This happened to us 2 times.) The requirements for being adoptive parents are very high -- you are looked at and examined through a microscope from all angles......by total strangers, physically, emotionally, and mentally. For Overseas adoptions you have to fit into whatever requirements each country has laid down -- Married so many years, not weigh more than so many pounds for your height, be within a certain age bracket, have a certain level of education.....etc..... And then, if you are not going through a private or Open Adoption, the waiting period can last YEARS.
For us, God showed us that with all of our trying, all of the tests and surgeries, the invitro attempts, we were SUPPOSED TO ADOPT. The child we have is the one that was meant to be for us........
However, for another couple, the child that is meant for them could be through some other avenue. I am not going to judge. But I will caution, because none of the alternatives are easy.
Just speaking from my experience.........