Turkey Troubles already

[Marty]

A lady from Church informed Jerry that she will be preparing our Thanskgiving Turkey this year.

She assured him that it is the best turkey he will ever have.

That is a very generous and kind offer but I do not want it. Jerry did not know how to turn it down because she was persistant. I know I should be thankful that someone is trying to do this for us but I don't want anyone taking over our Thanksgiving dinner. We have our own traditions and the boys and I always make a big day of going out to buy our turkey. We have lunch out, we shop, and have a ball going through all the turkeys to find the perfect one to bring home. Dan cleans it out on Thanksgiving Eve and we have a pre-Thanksgiving celebration so-to-speak while he does that and I prepare the rest of it.

Last year our Thanksgiving Day went bad, worse than expected. I presented dinner on the table, it looked all so nice and I lit the candles but as we sat down to eat without Michael there for the first time, Hus had to start crying and jump up and go get sick and stay in Michael's room for the rest of the day. Dan and I couldn't hold back our tears either or eat a bite and let's just say we had a very bad meltdown in the kitchen. No one ate a thing and I put the entire dinner in the fridge and we eventually picked at it for sandwiches. And if you think that was awful, you should have seen us on Christmas. What a disaster.

This year it's going to be better no matter what I have to do and Dan and I will go to lunch and shop and do the turkey shopping and back to tradition. Things are going to get back on track somehow so I don't want to accept this lady's turkey and have things "not normal" again.

She is making a lot of them for under privleged people in the area and I would much rather it go to one of them.

How do I tell her thank you but no thank you without hurting her feelings and sounding ungrateful?

 

[Mona]

Marty, just tell her the same thing you just said here. I wish you, Jerry and Dan a very HAPPY Thanksgiving.

 

[Jill]

What you just told "us" here is a very reasonable explaination that shouldn't hurt anyone's feelings.

 

[nootka]

Agreed. Thank her, and tell her that it is important for you to get your family traditions back on track, and that includes the purchasing, preparation and all that goes with it of the dinner itself.

Have her please find another needy family and if she would feel better, to include your family's blessings to them since you do not need the donation, but do very much appreciate the thought.

Good luck to you....

Liz M.

 

[twister]

Marty I feel the same as the other posters, tell her what you just told us and go back to your traditions. May you and your family have a wonderful Thanksgiving,

Yvonne

 

[Reijel's Mom]

Absolutely great advice given here. I hope you and your family do have a little better Thanksgiving this year, Marty.

 

[Marylou]

Tell them to give it to a needy family in Michaels honor.

 

[Marty]

Well I did it! Can't believe the weenie did it and it went very well and she understood perfectly.

She roped me into helping with the Church baskets this year too for the underprivledged so that made me feel really good.

Thanks for giving me the courage.

It's hard being me.

 

[Miniv]

{{{HUGS}}} to you Marty!

I was going to ditto all of the above people!

She offered out of caring and a truly caring person would understand.........Sounds like she did.

Helping with the Baskets is a great idea.......I discovered that when I was hurting, doing stuff like that did help me. You might even consider "roping" hubby and Dan into participating!

Marty, this is still going to be a hard Holiday Season.........(speaking from experience, here.) If you can do stuff that is NOT traditional right now -- (like helping with the baskets), it may help. Next year just may be a little better.

Love, MA

 

[Bassett]

Hey Sweetie, I wouldn't exactly call you a weenie

. Well maybe in some things. LOL.

I think you are very brave in not wanting to hurt her feelings but needing to stand up for yourself. You absolutely did the right thing. I can not even imagine being in your shoes. It has to be so hard but I so admire you for trying to get on with your life. I really hope you can do it this year. Be brave. Help with the baskets and every day will be a step forward for you and Jerry and Dan. Have a nice Thanksgiving, my dear. I do follow all your posts .. My my what energy you have compared to me.

OH!

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[shane]

The truth shall set you free!!!!! lol

 

[qtrrae]

Oh Marty,

I so know where you are coming from. You handled it well!

Hugs !

 

[RobinRTrueJoy]

Marty, Drop her a note and tell her what you have just told us. It might be easier for you in a note. Do it soon as the holiday will be here quickly. Your explanation should not hurt her feelings and is very understandable.

I wish you all HAPPY holidays.

Love to you,

Robin

 

[Marty]

Now I"m making the deserts over there too.

 

[Reble]

Now I"m making the deserts over there too.

, Remember one good deed deserves another and your it.

 

[Cimarron]

I'm proud of you Marty! You did good! Have a Happy Thanksgiving!!! Sheila

 

[maplegum]

Honesty is the best policy.

Good for you Marty.