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Dairygirl

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O.K. Here is the story. Got another friend and her husband is in Iraq, has a 18 month old and one on the way. She owns 2 great danes. Older male and a 2 year old female.

She has been telling me that her 6 year old male, Blade is suffering with hip problems. Won't let the toddler bounce around on him any more. Is in lots of pain all the time. So she asked while my husband is home before he leaves for Iraq if he would put him down to end his suffering. So my husband agrees. She brings him out yesterday. He jumps out of the truck, does what all male dogs do best, does his little spin out, gets up, lays down, rolled over. No signs of hip trouble. So I'm thinking well maybe this is one of the good days she is talking about so I didn't say a word.

She cries when she goes to leave and after about 2 hours of watching him move around, he was fine. She starts to leave and I ask her to give him to me and I'll take him to the vet and find out what is going on with the hip. She tells me no, she wants him put down. So I told her that his problem might be staying kenneled up in the house all night in a crate and then having a toddler bounce off of him most of the day might be his problem. No! she says put him down. So I didn't say anything else.

I come in the house with the dog so she can leave. I look at my husband and he said before you can say a word I'm not putting him down. So in her defense I say, lets wait and see. If he is having this much trouble moving around we will see it.

This morning he is just as fine as yesterday. No trouble at all. This dog is wonderful, very loving and sweet. I would have never give up on him and would have taken him to the vet even if I had to eat beans all week for it.

I plan to take him in the a.m. and see what my vet thinks. I'm just not seeing all this suffering she is talking about. He is just as normal as any dog.

Do I tell her my plans? I strongly believe she will come back and get him and find someone else to put him down because she wouldn't even think about giving him to anyone, she just wants him put down.

I thought about calling a dane rescue and letting them take him and Randy said just not to tell her anything because she doesn't care if he even lives, why would she care about finding another home. I offered to find him another home and take him in myself and she said no, she wanted him put down. Every other ideal I came up with on him that was her answer.

What would you do?
 
Several not so nice things (regarding your friend) come to mind; but as far as the dog is concerned, I sure as (insert your own expletive here) wouldn't be giving him back!!
 
I would get ahold of a rescue or find him a home in another town so she will never know!! She could also be under alot of stress with her husband in Iraq and this is how she is dealing. Plus she is pregant!! We may not agree with it but she is probably worried also that if she gives him away her husband will be upset so it is easier to say he was suffering. Definately try and find him a home else where!!

Good Luck
 
Maybe since you are going to have the dog at the vet, you can call her from there(so it shows on call display), and say that it is your vet's policy to not put down any animal that does not need it due to physical suffering or physiological problems? Maybe you can even get the vet to put something similar in writing for you, and then you can either offer to keep the dog, or to have him go to a rescue, and see how she responds when backed into a corner about it?
 
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Maybe since you are going to have the dog at the vet, you can call her from there(so it shows on call display), and say that it is your vet's policy to not put down any animal that does not need it due to physical suffering or physiological problems? Maybe you can even get the vet to put something similar in writing for you, and then you can either offer to keep the dog, or to have him go to a rescue, and see how she responds when backed into a corner about it?
I agree with mona get the vets opinion and if they dont feel the dog needs to be put down give her a call right from the vets office and let her know what the vet thinks. and i along with appylover not so many nice things regarding your friend comes to mind. she could also be under stress but im sure you could talk her into giving you the dog or letting you find another home. Good luck Brittanie
 
In your friends defense, if I were pregant, had a toddler, a husband in Iraq, I'd be not thinking clearly all the time either. HOWEVER.....

Having a lot of experience with a dog with hip/back problems, if this dog was in pain and had problems believe me you'd know it by now. I'm just guessing but maybe the dog acted aggressivly with the kid jumping all over him.

Isn't possession 9/10ths of the law or something?

You do have him.

She did willingly bring him onto your property and leave him with you.

I'd say that his carcus dead or alive makes him yours.

That's enough for me.

I like your husband.

I'd keep him and shut up about it.

If she comes back like you think she might, you do not have to give her access to the dog. That may or may not be legally correct, but for me it would be morally correct.

I feel sorry for the 2 year old female.

Sorry, I don't think dogs were invented for kids to ride and pounce on.
 
ditto Marty! keep the dog, do not tell your friend, let her think she did what you asked. this way if she decides todo the same to the female down the road, she may bring her to you as well and you can save HER life too! if you make her mad now the female won't have a chance later on!
 
I just still don't understand where she is coming from. Sure she is under a lot of stress. Hey we all are at some point but we don't kill our animals. I seem to need mine the most when I'm stressed or alone. I think that is what has helped me the most with Randy being deployed. I seem to love me even more when I'm sad. LOL.

This friend and her husband are not the smartest people you will ever meet. They don't visit me much any more since I caught them putting the toddler on one of my weanling paint foals backs and standing back to take a pic.. Mind you he had no halter on or anything. Thank God he just stood there. I could have died when I looked over my shoulder and seen this. And with me holding nothing back I let them have it with both guns. Plus telling them how stupid it was to plan to get prego with a toddler and him having a pending deployment. Was not smart in my book to leave his wife here alone with all of that and no family to help her take care of the kids.

This dog has had no signs of anything. You can tell he misses her and it breaks my heart that this dog loves her so much and she was willing to have a bullet put in his head for God only knows what reason she has in her mind. But to not give him to another home or to me for that matter chaps my butt and the more that I don't see him in pain like she is talking about the more I get mad. Only thing she is worried about is getting his collar back. So that is what she will get but not the dog.

I'm going to take him in tomorrow and talk to my vet about helping me place him. He is very good about that. The rescue I found in LA. is located in Hattisburg MS.. Why a rescue for La. is in another state I just don't get. I could keep him but I couldn't give him the attention he needs with all I have going on out here at this farm.

I'll let you all know what the vet says tomorrow.
 
I would do what is best for the dog, which sounds like a new home. I wouldn't say anything to your so called friend because at some point that other dog will probably come to the same end, if you let her know you betrayed her wishes, she will find someone else next time and the next person may not care like you do. So find him a home and wait for her to bring you the next one, I would never mention the dog again to her.

And bless you and your husband for having kind hearts.

Karen
 
You really REALLY [SIZE=18pt]REALLY [/SIZE][SIZE=10pt]dont want to know what I would be telling your friend. (but I am sure you get the drift!!) I wish I was closer, I would take this dog in a heartbeat. I owned great danes my entire life, and just couldnt bring myself to get another one after my last one passed. a few years ago. Danes are some of the sweetest dogs around, provided they have been socializied right. I hope you can find him a lasting loving home, he deserves. Marty pretty much said it all.
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if you sneak and keep this dog alive you may really want to talk to a lawyer or keep it a big secrete because I would guess this could be considered theft by deception. she brought the dog to you for a reason... she made it clear the dog was not to stay alive so i think in the eyes of the courts it could be considered theft and deception. Now i'm definatly not a lawyer but you might want to cover all your bases. If the dog is not unhealthy it would really make me very upset too.
 
[SIZE=14pt]You're friend is clearly not thinking straight wanting to put a healthy happy dog like that down. Unless she is not telling you the whole story...[/SIZE]

[SIZE=14pt]I'm glad she came to you for "help" and you have him now. I wouldn't be giving him back for anything!!![/SIZE]

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I really think that you should get this thread deleted asap. Just as you have tracked down her posts on a great dane forum she could be reading yours... if or as soon as she has any doubts about you putting him down.
 
What is wrong with this woman? I saw his pic on the other post and he is beautiful. I have a friend who has a dane...same color as this one. He used to have two, a male and female, but the male died a couple years ago....boy if you were closer, I'd have him meet this dog and maybe something could be worked out.

If she doesn't want the dog, but there is someone who might, why would she want him put down??? I just don't get it.

Have you had him to the vet?

I really think that you should get this thread deleted asap. Just as you have tracked down her posts on a great dane forum she could be reading yours... if or as soon as she has any doubts about you putting him down.
very true...I don't know of the legal aspects of you keeping/rehoming the dog...it might be a good idea to do this more quietely, at least for the dogs and your sake. Good luck in finding him a home, I'm sure it won't be that hard.
 

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