What ever happened to manners?

[Marty]

Good point Shirley and I thought of that and we all have discussed it too.

If they want to come over all the time and eat my food, use my home as their dumping ground, then they can learn common decency or go somewhere else. It will not break my heart either way.

 

[user 488]

Marty! Can you say...............

[SIZE=18pt]DOORMAT!!![/SIZE]

This whole thing is ridiculous. Seems like you have these problems continually. You don't need 40 posts to tell you this is a screwed up way to live. DO SOMETHING! You know the old saying "S### or get off the pot"?

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[journey]

I have been thinking about this post since I first read it a few days ago. I have deadbolt locks on my screen doors, so if someone wanted to just walk in, they can't. I don't mind family walking in, but we do have a mutual friend that just walks in the house like he owns it, hence the reason for the deadbolt screen doors. We are a young, married couple and I have given birth 3 times in 4 years if that tells you anything

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I would not want someone just walking in the house because of the simple fact that we have children, and when they are sleeping it isn't anyones business what goes on behind closed doors.

Everybody who comes to my house knows 3 things. 1) Shoes off at the door, I don't care if they are new, just washed or if you stepped in a puddle on your way over, shoes come off so my cream colored carpet stays cream colored. 2) If you are dirty, you will not sit on the couch or chair, grab a chair out of the kitchen, 3) If you feel you must dip tobacco in my house, you will provide your own spit bottle, cup or whatever. I will not give you one of my cups and I don't support your habit. Reading my own rules makes me think I am a little harsh and maybe mean, but ya know what? It is my house.

I guess I put my foot down when we lived in a rented house before we bought our house. Our hot water heater busted while we were working and flooded the whole house. The landlord put WHITE carpet in a house with SMALL CHILDREN. :nono: I wouldn't even let the kids drink in the front room. I have kept that rule here and it works well, nobody seems to mind my rules, but they do seem a little harsh for company.

 

[rabbitsfizz]

People are right, Marty, it's your house, YOU make the rules!!

Put a sign on the bathroom mirror- yo know one of those now please wash your hands signs- only put, now please flush the toilet!!!

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[Marty]

Yes Carol it's a re-occuring problem that has been going on for a very long time. It's been established that I am a doormat, yes, quite fed up too, yes I am. But I'm not a hateful person and there's no reason for me to be mean when they are oblivous to common courtesy. We've had a little talk for starters about knocking on the door, and that went well, and if I have to get on them every time they come over for other things I will till they get it and try to speak my mind as nicely as possible or they can find somewhere else to go because I have really had it. Like I said if they quit coming by my heart will not be broken, . :aktion033: I am dreading the weekend.

 

[user 488]

Marty! You do not have to be mean to be assertive! And to be real honest, since you said they do not understand "common courtesy" than you have to move it up a notch. You just might have to get MEAN! Maybe it is the only thing these people understand! Now...........whose house is it anyway? Reclaim YOUR territory. You are not the one in the wrong. Don't like the doormat routine........who else but you can change it. You have been having these problems way to long........you want to hear that Old Saying again?

 

[justaboutgeese]

Maybe the birthday cake was a bit to much if its the same young couple. But Marty a doormat ?? No the one I got to meet. Some people just do not take hints easily, Get a 2x4 and deliver the message in a manner thats easily understood.

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[user 488]

Get a 2x4 and deliver the message in a manner thats easily understood.

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There you go! WOOD IS GOOD!