Hey Goose! What's this I hear now?

[Marty]

I am afraid decorations this year are going to suffer. I went through the motions and got the boxes all down but just left the open boxes in the basement. I even went out and bought some new outdoor decorations. They are still in the back of the truck. This is normally one of the best times of the year for me but its taken a back burner this year. I would love to see the postings other people have done so bring them on.

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TOTALLY UNEXCEPTABLE !!!

Come on Vic, we want to see YOUR decorations too.

Show you mine if you show me yours........now that's a deal.

 

[CAM]

Ok...I'm waiting.....

 

[Leeana]

My hand is up high!!!!!!

This is getting me kind of down, were not going to be having much of a christmas this year ourselves. Last year we put up a tree ..year before that we didnt put up a tree & no gifts. Parents just are not the 'happy holidays people' ..unlike me. I love this stuff ..but im not expecting anything this year. Probaly just eating down at my brothers house and getting a gift or two from them. My dad, mom and i dont really get along much so we try to keep from all the emotional 'aww thank you' stuff ext. We dont unwrap gifts, then sit around the fire and sing as we roast marshmellows and then hug&kiss. When i was younger we did all that stuff, 100+ gifts. I guess stuff just changes .....i LOVE christmas, but i hate the past couple years of it. It will usually turn out good by the end of the day though on xmas.

Its nothing Money Related ..we just dont get along. Dad usually will give me a $150 ..but i normally spend that on friends and my brothers ..this year im going to get the mini's something with most of it though, Who knows.

So Goose, i understand where your coming from though ....but please have a wonderful christmas.

Leeana

 

[runamuk]

Alrighty Mister......I am the queen of scroogedom......and my family is off picking out a tree as we speak.........we don't own one single fancy store bought ornament the only store bought anything that goes on my tree is the lights.....I make my kids make new ornaments every year.......they may not be the prettiest or most expensive but dang it they are ours....now I want to see your tree.......from all you have told over time there is no way I want to miss YOUR tree .....if I have to beg......fine.......I want to see your tree as my own father is a filandering dork butt with no xmas cheer....now dangit geese you are my forum father so where is the tree?

 

[minimama]

Come on Geese, ya goitta do it, you really don't want all 900+ memebers knock ing on your door to put lights up now do ya? Nope, I didn't think so. so, we will be expecting thos decoration pictures within the next few days.

Good! I am so glad we are in agreement on this.

 

[justaboutgeese]

You people have all been so kind to me and many of you have gone far beyond I had any right to expect. A few of you know all of the hidden details about what has transpired. From Demi, Marty and Barn bum and many others. But I beg you to allow me to beg off from this one. There are reasons which I just cannot explain in the open forum and this is one time that as much as you folks want to help and much as I know it would be a nice thing to do I have to let this one go away. I will celebrate the day with my daughter granddaughter and my daughters friend John. But my house atleast for this year will be undecorated. Please do not force me into a corner on this one. With all respect I just cannot do this. I told my daughter what I wanted for Christmas and if just that one wish could come true I know my life would soon be on the upturn. Send a PM if you need more details and I promise that I will try and get them answered by tomorrow. To all of you thanks and my very best wishes for you and your families this holiday season. Regards Vic

 

[Southern_Heart]

Merry Christmas God Loves ya!

Joyce

 

[REO]

{{{{Vic}}}} I understand and respect the way you feel. Do or don't do anything you need to to make YOU feel better. You have a right to grieve. Different people grieve in different ways. You have the right to your feelings.

{{{{{Hugs}}}}} I think of you everyday.

 

[Marty]

Yea me too Goose, what REO said.

If you can't, well you can't. Will respect your wishes. But if you change your mind and give it a go, do let us know ok? (((( )))) (not even a wreath on the door?)

 

[sedeh]

It's okay Vic. I understand that when you're feeling down that just getting the "got to do" functions of life done is a major undertaking. I hope you get your "wish" but hang in there if you don't. There's a lot of people pulling for you now......don't you just feel the love? Take care.

 

[rabbitsfizz]

Vic, the first Christmas after my own personal world ended I made myself a safe place in my house, I pulled the curtains and I took the dogs and the cats and I went there, and I stayed there.

All day- well, apart form seeing to the horses, of course.

If you are really not going to do anything to the house, which I can understand, do me a favour- when you go over to your daughters, leave a light on in the house.

Now that the evenings are so gloomy, the only thing worse than coming back to an empty house is coming back to an empty, dark house!!!

Jane

 

[justaboutgeese]

I hav espent the last hour answering all the pm`S I recieved on the subject. The holiday season has always had special meaning for me and my family. Its a tradition I want to maintain whole atleast for right now. As I said in the PMs two months is just a drop in the bucket out of 42 years of life. God Bless All of you. Geese

 

[ali]

I can only imagine how difficult this has been for you. While you are feeling sad and lonely, please try to think about doing what makes you feel good. Have coffee, shower, dress, pet the animals, visit your favourite place or moments, friends and family. Whatever it takes, do your best to do it. I know it's difficult because you feel actual pain in your heart and the world seems to be crumbling, but it's not.

Your children care very much for you and they are feeling your pain, let alone the anguish they are feeling about their mother. Let them help you, comfort you, grieve with you and cry with you. They need you as much as you need them. It sounds like your children are a pillar of strength and they probably know more than anybody what needs to be done. Open your arms to them, let them know that they are going to get their father back.

I want to mention this because you refer to being alone in old age? Well, my mother moved in with me in June and hated it. After 2 weeks she packed up her dog and walked to the nearest police station. She's 86 yrs old and memory starting to fade. We drove her home and let her figure things out. We had cared for her, cooked, cleaned and tried to keep her busy. We didn't pamper her as we wanted her to be as self-sufficient as she could.

Three months later, she had the neighbour call me to say she wanted to come back.

I picked her up, her stupid dog and all her worthy possessions. I LOVE MY MOTHER AND COULDN'T BE HAPPIER HAVING HER HERE WITH ME. It's been almost 2 months and it only feels like a week. We as a family are sooooo pleased that she is here, safe, fed, sheltered and with her stupid dog. I know she loves being here too.

Your children are your life and blood and will do whatever it takes to make you happy. Please be receptive and give to them what you are made of. Don't let one person drag you down when you have so many to lift! You are much loved on this forum, let alone by your friends, neighbours, and especially your family.

It's very difficult to see the light but please, please try. Each minute gets better and then each hour and so on. A shower, dressing, making meals, checking on this forum, all of this takes time and will keep you busy. I hope you don't think I don't have any respect for your wife by saying 'don't let one person drag you down'.

It's just that there are so many more counting on you to get up, stand up and fight for your life. It's your children's right to expect that from you. Put a smile on their face, ease their pain and let them get you thru this. Everyone here is counting on you too!

P.S. Christmas Tree? Your choice but it really wouldn't hurt that much even if it's one of those pre-lit, and fully decorated???

 

[Sonya]

Vic if you don't want to put that tree up, you don't have to, but I do think it would make you feel better. My suggestion if you do decide to put one up is to go to the store and buy all new decorations, or you, your daughter, and granddaughter make the decorations. I made my decorations 12 yrs ago when I had absolutely no money. They are very plain and not real pretty since I'm not crafty, but I put them on the tree every year, I have added some nice ones to the tree over the years, but I'll never get rid of my homemade ones. New decorations, new start on life.

I surely hope you get your wish for Christmas - but just like that one song from Garth Brooks ( I think) - "Thank God for unanswered prayers"...sometimes prayers and wishes are better left unanswered. Good things will come your way, God will make sure of it , be patient and know we all care about you. I'm putting my tree up today and I am going to send you a pic of my tree with my ugly homemade ornaments . Also my mother gave me this fake tree (I'm severly allergic to pine)...it is about 30 yrs old and very ugly, but I love it anyway. Expect a pic later tonight...

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[Relic]

Have a nice christmas Mr Geese no matter what you do. Good memories are sometimes the best comfort to hang onto in times of darkness. And your right you can't throw happy years away in a short period of time like they didn't exist. But there is always hope and a new tomorrow for everyone and life goes on as you 'll see when the time is right for you...wishing you happiness from another who has been through the dark side.

 

[kaykay]

everyone has to have time to just grieve wether its the death of a loved one or a divorce from a loved one. As hard as it is you have to feel the pain and THEN move on. Just something you cant rush as much as wed all like to.

hang in there geese!!

 

[minimomNC]

I don't need any explainations, I understand how you feel. My house is also undecorated this year.

 

[Sunny]

Ladies, please!!! Geese has respectfully and politely said that he just can't do it this year! Please don't keep prodding him with requests for just one little thing, or a wreath, or a tree, or whatever. He knows what he's capable of and, we ALL only just want him to be happy, but we must respect his wishes on this one!!

Vic, after four years of being without my mother, I still can't bear the thought of watching the old family Christmas videos. Just mentioning it right now dissolves me into a bucket of mush. I think I understand how you feel about the decorations and such, and I'm totally with you on this one. My heart aches for you.

 

[Robin1]

Dear Vic,

Please do what you feel best. Christmas is a tough time for many people. Peace be with you, your kids and grandkids. {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

Robin

 

[AppyLover2]

Christmas is a time of the heart. God bless you in whatever your heart tells you is right!