Just talked to Marty ...

[Jenn]

I just called Marty and she's really out of it from the drugs the doctor gave her. She said they are BIG drugs.

Sonny has been acting up and destroying things again. Yesterday he was just rearing and rearing and rearing and they don't know why. Luckily Jerry's brother, who is possibly a thoroughbred vet (she wasn't real clear on that) is there from Kentucky and will give him something if he starts up again today.

They also lost Michael's kitten this morning. She said he just crashed all of a sudden.

It sounds like she has lots of family around, including two of Jerry's brothers.

I think I will call her again in a week or two, she is really, really out of it right now and is barely herself at all. If anyone else was thinking of calling I'd hold off for a couple of days, I'm not sure she'll even remember callers right now.

 

[bonloubri]

Thanks for the update. Perhaps losing the kitten was a sign from Michael. He needed IT with him.

 

[sparkle]

bonloubri......that is exactly what I was thinking. He needed his kitten.

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[runamuk]

I just called Marty and she's really out of it from the drugs the doctor gave her. She said they are BIG drugs.

Sonny has been acting up and destroying things again. Yesterday he was just rearing and rearing and rearing and they don't know why. Luckily Jerry's brother, who is possibly a thoroughbred vet (she wasn't real clear on that) is there from Kentucky and will give him something if he starts up again today.

They also lost Michael's kitten this morning. She said he just crashed all of a sudden.

It sounds like she has lots of family around, including two of Jerry's brothers.

I think I will call her again in a week or two, she is really, really out of it right now and is barely herself at all. If anyone else was thinking of calling I'd hold off for a couple of days, I'm not sure she'll even remember callers right now.

Jenn the vet I believe is Marty's brother........she has spoken of her brother who is a vet for a thoroughbred farm in the past..........I am sorry to hear of the kitten ..........I must say I am glad she has her family there.........I will continue burning candles for her and her family.................

 

[Bluerocket]

My thoughts exactly about IT (Shania) - I was thinking Michael wanted the kitten with him - he knew Marty was allergic to it and would not want to part with it after his death but would need to for her health reasons --- and he and Shania had formed such a close bond.

Blessings be on the entire family - I hope Sonny comes around as well -- wondering if Bonnie would be able to find out what is setting him off -- thinking it might also have to do with all the emotions rolling around the place with Michael's death. I would think Sonny would be pretty tied in to the family emotions.

Don't mean to volunteer Bonnie here -- maybe someone else has the skills to do it and pass on the information?

JJay

 

[hobbyhorse23]

I agree, Sonny is reacting to what's going on. Either he's grieving himself, he's upset and confused over why his person Marty isn't right and isn't with him, or he's reacting to the roiling emotions around the house. If you think animals don't notice that, well, we here on this forum should know better! If someone has a spare moment maybe they could try going out to the barn and talking to Sonny, explaining what is going on and why his mom hasn't been out there. Tell him that Michael is gone and while it's okay for him to grieve he needs to stop destroying things as it's upsetting Marty. You never know, he might understand. Our animals' grief often gets lost in the shuffle while the people mourn but they feel it too and sometimes act out their pain and that of their family.

Consider also that maybe it isn't so much that Michael wanted the kitten with him as that the kitten was there to be with Michael and with him gone there was no reason for IT to stay. Maybe IT's his guardian angel. It came to be with him, he took care of IT, and now IT has gone to take care of Michael.

Leia

 

[DebiM]

Marty said yesterday they had already explained to Sonny abt what happened to Michael. They've had him the boys entire lives so I'm sure he does sense something bad is going on. She said that Michael also was Sonny's main handler....

Debi

 

[Miniv]

I asked Marty how Sonny was doing....She told me about his heat stroke and how crazy it all was.....

I told her that I felt he had done it on purpose. I still do. In some crazy way, I think he wanted to take Marty's mind off the pain for a moment.

MA

 

[billiethekid40]

Consider also that maybe it isn't so much that Michael wanted the kitten with him as that the kitten was there to be with Michael and with him gone there was no reason for IT to stay. Maybe IT's his guardian angel. It came to be with him, he took care of IT, and now IT has gone to take care of Michael.

Exactly what I was thinking. Sweet little Shania volunteered to go on ahead and be with Micheal so Marty would KNOW he wasn't alone. Very sweet of her little kitten self if you ask me.

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[Just Us N Texas]

Jerry has a brother in Ky. who used to be the farm manager for a thoroughbred farm just about 3 miles from where we are (were) located. He has to be up on his vet skills in order to do that job. I am sure he will know what to do for Sonny at this time.

As far as Sonny goes, I am sure he is showing his grief for Michael as I know he knows just what is going on. Animals we love for so many years tend to know their family, and have a sense as to losses in the family, and seem to know when it is permanent or temporary. I speak from experience on this, as I know how the dogs, and horses reacted when my late husband passed several years ago.

I tried calling Marty this morning, and got her answering machine. It was a very recent recording, as you could hear the grief and tears in her voice. I feel so heartbroken for her, Jerry, and Dan and the whole family. I wish there was far more we could do!

 

[DunPainted]

Haven't posted regarding the pain Marty and her family are experiencing. It just seems so frivilous coming from someone she barely knows. That said, it's not to say this tradegy hasn't been lost in this compassionate heart, since.

There's such an outpouring of love right now and it's so wonderful of the Forum Family. May God bless each and every one of them. Just figure once the dust settles in a few weeks, loving supporters have returned to their lives, the Garrison family's gonna hurt again, facing life without Michael in the house. I'd prefer communicating in some small, insignificant way at that time. Been there, understand it.

AS FOR SONNY, perhaps Marty, Dan or Jerry may want to sit down alone with him in a quiet place with no distractions. Draw up knees to their chest, and place their head between them....not making eye contact or talking. Sonny will understand, thus have his opportunity to grieve....and the family member will have the blessed opportunity of "fuzz therapy".

May God bless this family with angels, surrounding them with comfort and support.

With much love and hugs,

Cindy