Thoughts, help and prayers please..

[jdomep]

My sis is a single mom of a son is 18 (sr in high school) and daughter who is almost 16. Her "x" decided he didn't want anything to do with the kids if they acted this way Nice huh?. Jonathan won't be graduating this year (he got the top score in his school on his SAT's but decided he doesn't need school) Lexi has announced she is quitting school, she is on drugs and she is going to get a job (which to me is prostitution/porn :no: She is a beautiful girl and that may be her downfall). My sister is ready to quit, I need some words of wisdom to share. I just got off the phone with my mom who is so distraught.

If you can share something positive with me please do...

Thanks

 

[Beccy]

So sorry to hear about what your family is going through. We have several teens and even with two parents at home it is a very stressful time.

Sad for the kids especially about their dad, as they need to know at these low points in their lives that all their family loves and cares for them, even if they obviously can't approve of their choices.

No real words of wisdom here, one thing we have learned is that no matter what we say, they are going to go and make mistakes, and the best we can do is be there to help pick up the pieces when they figure out on their own, what we tried to tell them in the first place. There are some real concerns here for these young people, we will definitely keep you all in prayer.

 

[Sterling]

I'm so sorry your family is going thru such a rough time. I don't have words of wisdom for you, but I will certainly keep you in my prayers.

 

[nootka]

I wish that I knew the answers to this.

My own 17-yr. old has a bit of a cavalier attitude about school, though he IS going, and IS finishing, he figures it's more of a placating thing, though he knows in order to get his higher education, which I believe he's stoked about, he needs to jump through these hoops.

I think in the case of the older boy, as long as she can provide him with some options, and let him know he can always get back to his GED if he comes to his senses. This is free and he should take it while it lasts. Sister needs to figure out his game plan and get him on that path, he's perched on the edge of the nest at his own choosing, and so needs to explain to her how he's planning on supporting himself. Since I don't know what's going on in his mind (does he have job prospects, or specialized training in mind, vocational school?)

Maybe she can get some counselling for both situations, the one with the younger girl is most concerning to me at this point b/c of the drugs and her age.

At that age, she is a minor child, and she needs to get active in protecting that girl as much as she can. She needs counseling for herself as well as for the daughter. This is a horrible situation to go it as a single parent, and that dad should be flogged for the deadbeat he is. I feel terrible for her.

I'm sorry but no amount of good looks will protect you from being OD'ed, drugged, raped, left for useless, exploited, and even disfigured and then where will she be? I hope they can talk some sense to her, or intervene somehow. I think Ala-Teen may have a good resource(s) for your sister if need be ,and for sure many of them have been down the road and can help.

Liz

 

[tifflunn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}

Going through some of that stuff ourselves here.

Take a break but try not to give up.

{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

 

[Cronewolf]

Noone knows as much as a teenager . The best bet for both would be a good trade school. Because with a good trade you can at least keep body and soul together until you hopfully grow up;[if ever].