I know I'm not blameless for whatever has made Allen so unhappy, but I blame him for never ever talking to me about what was bothering him. I can't fix something if I don't know what's broken. According to him, he has been feeling this unhappy for a very long time. [/font]Allen's problem is that he is unable to talk about his feelings. We rarely had fights as I was the only one who would ever get mad about something. As I yelled at him, he just sat there and didn't say a word. He never complains about anything, never asks for anything. Unfortunately, I am not a mind reader so don't know what's going on in his brain. I am ticked off that he never even gave us a chance to fix the problems. He just stewed over it forever and then out of the blue, says it's over, he's miserable and that he doesn't love me. I don't think that's fair at all!!! Maybe I could have fixed something, maybe not, but he never even gave me a chance and that's not right!!
Why Jesper! Glad to see your post! Have any thoughts on this whole situation that may help Kim any? It would be good to hear a Man's point of view if you are willing to share.very interesting post there Nila
Kim,I honestly don't think Allen wants to work to save the marriage at all. I think he is past done with me and is ready to move on. However, I'm going to get brave and come right out and ask him if he would be willing to work on the marriage or not. It's scary for me to even contemplate doing as I am so very sure the answer will be no. If by some miracle (which I'm not at all counting on) he says yes, then I will order the book you recommended and see if we can work through it together. It sounds like you and your husband are on the right track. I am so glad you were able to work things out the way you did. Thank you very much for sharing your experience with me!!!
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